He sees that he needs help with his anger and I do also. We get mad over petty stuff many times. I think it is alot of built up anger we have towards eachother. We have been together 7 yrs. and as far as my side I have felt he never stood up for me to his family. They have never excepted the fact that I had 2 kids from a previous marriage therefore I felt they tried evertything to destroy us. He seen this after two yrs. of being married but he did not tell them to back off. I finally got over it after 4yrs. but he was still caught up in the middle with his mother and I. I feel that it played a role in his anger and escelated towards me because I am the closest person. Over the years I have felt that he was always looking for a reason to get out of the marriage. Now we have talked about our feelings and let it all out calmly and we recognize what we did wrong. We do not know how to get past this pain w/o hurting eachother. Recently he hit me what do we do?
2006-11-11 05:00:59 · 20 answers · asked by Juicy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
believe me when I say a REAL MAN NEVER hits a woman
2006-11-11 05:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by Bob D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is time to get some professional help. But to be honest, once hitting begins it does not stop. Dealing with the other family is always hard. And he really should be sticking up for you, since you are whom he is married to. He may be feeling too much pressure from both sides and can't take it anymore. The best solution is to get some professional help and if he doesn't want to then you need to seriously consider separating for some time, maybe he will come to his senses that way.
2006-11-11 05:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by mich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can report him not charge him. If the police feel that there is enough evidence to charge him they will. Remember one thing once you make that phone call & police charge him you cannot retract your statement & police will not drop charges. I would sit him down when he is calm & suggest counseling to him to save this marriage. If he doesn't agree maybe its time for him or you to leave before this violence escalates & someone gets hurt. How many pain killers did he take did he exceed the recommended dosage if he did he does need medical help & also for mental issues that he may be suffering from. The balls in your court either do something about this or let it continue. I am also wondering if he is suffering from burnout due to his job. Im also wondering how old you are as one of your other questions you are 13 yrs old.
2016-03-28 02:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why he hit you and try not to do it again. It also might be best to have a neutral third party to help you guys try to work things out. Just remember to respect your husband as leader of the house and to be submissive. I think that can cut down on the arguments. Also, don't hold grudges against him. Oh and don't believe this crap about if he hit you once he'll do it again. Me and my brother had fights all the time growing up but we stopped years and years ago.
2006-11-11 05:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sandstorm222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrl !!
Before the hitting part I would say he needs to read his Bible and understand that a man is to leave his parents and cleave to his wife. BUT!! When your being physically abused that changes everything.
ROLL OUT!!
Being abused in that fashion is not acceptable. Would you want your daughter to tolerate such abuse? Leave, you deserve better.
Maybe your not financially able to leave, then you need to bust his ask upside his muthephuckin head and let him see what it's like to be abused!! Sike, just joking, two fools don't make any problem better.
I'll pray for you.
2006-11-11 05:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was the first time it happened you need to tell him that the two of you need counseling. If you let this go it will happen again. Get on it today. Make the appointment. This way he will know that you are serious about it and that you will not tolerate it again. Best of luck to you both. Go seek professional help.
2006-11-11 05:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry that you are going thru this. Dont let any man hit you, he just wants to show off that he is the man and that he can do anything with you!!! that is not right tell him that you need time alone tell him to leave... then think about it with more calmness and if its necessary get a warrant.
2006-11-11 05:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥*´`*•. mommy♥*´`*•. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him enough to stay in this marriage after all this then its up to you but no man should ever hit you whether its out of rage for you or mad at someone else. If things dont get better I would be looking for another place to live and your kids dont need to dee him hitting you they need you to protect them and more importantly protect yourself.
2006-11-11 05:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hit you, he will hit you again. The cycle won't stop. He needs counseling. If you don't want to get the police involved, contact a battered woman's shelter. I'm not sure how it's listed in your directory. They can help you with this problem and possibly get help for him too.
2006-11-11 05:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by tikizgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need anger managment help and help with all issues. If he is hitting you then he is committing domestic violence. You need to get away until he gets that under control. He will only get worse if you dont stand up to him. Get help on all fronts.
2006-11-11 05:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hitting isn't good, but the fact that he clearly doesn't have any good concept of where to draw the line between his family and the family you have together. I had same, and I mean same situation, finally divorced him and am real happy i did...you shouldn't have to stand up to his family...that's his job...if he is too wimpy to do it today,,,,he will be 5, 10 20 years from now. He needs to cut the apron strings or you need to cut him free. good luck,, life is too short to have to deal with the family crap, you and your kids are his family now.
2006-11-11 05:10:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋