Mid Life Crisis attempting to become reality....Answer? Relate?

Question

What makes me who I am, genetics or upbringing?
How is it that when I'm sad, I find comfort in singing?
Always on the defensive, while in search for inner peace..
To only have love on my side..would be such a release...
Another emotion after the last, I'm tossed to and fro...
May I have a moment, to let emotion go?
In my heart and mind a whirlwind, my thoughts are aimed one way..
Today I feel quite melancholy, but not over run by dismay...
Only as I write a poem, can I feel at least a break,
Doing so brings me resolution, to hasty decisions I make...
Otherwise, I would bottle this up..and eventually my bottle would burst..
So if you decide this is a time for criticsm, don't feel priviledged, you are not the first...
My question is simple, and after all this, may I feel that I may conclude..
That I'm doing a good job keeping it together, when I feel that I should come unglued?

Answer 1

Are you talking about an actual 'mid-life crisis'? I mean the time in a man's life where there is a decrease in testosterone production, where the man starts to reflect on their life, and feel motivated to overcompensate for their insecurity about their worth, their prowress, their verility, their attractiveness, their power?

Or are you having anxiety about what you have done thus far, and where you are going?

What defines who you are is the effort you put forth to achieve. It's not about what you have (material things), how good-looking you are, or your social status.

It's more about what effort you are willing to exert to do what you want and get what you want.

Genetics has little to do with the choices you make in life about how to behave. As you became an adult, your upbringing had nothing to do with the choices you have made. Genetics and upbringing shape who you were as a child, but now you are an adult, so they have nothing to do with who you decide you will become.

Who you are, and who you become will be defined by what you are willing to do about it.

You can choose to become an extroverted, successful, caring, empathetic, and generous person......or you can choose to become a self-absorbed, narcissistic "victim" or "bully".

You can make it all about what you expect from others, or you can make it all about what you give to others.