Okay. i'm really mad at one of my friends. I've tried ignoring her in the classes i have with her. But it isn't working. I want her to get the idea that i don't want to be friends. is there any way i can show that without telling her. She's bigger than i am so i can't just go up to her and tell her. My friends have given me pretty good suggestions but their suggestions will just get me in trouble. One of my friends said that matbe she knows that i don't want to be friends and she does want me to like her. Any suggestions? Nothing that will get me called down to the principals office. And no notes. She already got a threatening note by someone she doesn't know.
2006-11-11 04:38:37 · 13 answers · asked by .Forever Young. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just have a heart to heart talk with this friend whom you no longer want to hang with, A one on one session is best, just the 2 of you...Who knows, you might even consider being her friend, after the talk!.....
2006-11-11 04:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by daiseydixie6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to not just ignore her all at once. Do it gradually. Since giving her the cold shoulder doesn't seem to be working, continue talking to her but only talk about meaningless things like the weather or anything else you would say to someone you hardly know. Then, stop having conversations with her and limit it to the occasional "Hello" in the hallways. To avoid her trying to talk to you, surround yourself with friends of yours that aren't friends of hers. After a while eliminate contact all together, and if you do it the right way, she will have lost the desire to be your friend without you having to talk to her. I know this may sound like it may take a while, but it is the easiest way to end a friendship. If you have anymore question e-mail me at craziecami916@aim.com.
BEST OF LUCK!!
2006-11-11 12:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you no longer want to be friends and feel you cannot be honest with her and just tell her then yes just act as if she is not there and ignore her. If she speaks to you act like you did not hear her and walk away or turn away. Sorry you cannot be forth right and just tell her. If you are afraid to tell her in person or at school call her on the phone at home and tell her for this reason I no longer want to talk to you so please stop talking to me, wishing her luck in life. Then move forward and put the past behind you
2006-11-11 12:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way people grow is by talking things out together. Why not talk to her about why your mad? The worst that could happen is she wont listen and if that happens then you know you did all you could. Talking about problems with people in life and working them out is how you gain depth to relationships. You cant dump every friend you ever get mad at becasue eventually everyone we know makes us mad. You would end up alone that way.
2006-11-11 12:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see being elder to u isnt an xcuse..u can always go n tell her ur feelings...
first of all analyse y u dont wanna b frnds with her..if u are able to give urself an intelligent answer then try to break the frndship...
n if u dont get n answer back i think u shud give her another chance..there are a lot of ppl u dont like at first but eventually when u be with them they turn out to be sum ppl u cant go without..
leaving u on a positive note..
take care n good luck..
2006-11-11 12:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by koolnsj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you dont wanna tell her inperson then write it down and let a common friends give it to her in that way she'll know it not a "threat note" and at least in that way you can tell her what you feel and think.and maybe after you can talk about it at least she knows how you feel.if you feel uncomfortable being with her then let a friend be a mediator.dont let her size scare you if you finally say the things you wanna say believe me it'll be more than courage that you gain... its self respect and no one can ever beat that no matter what their sizes are! goodluck! hope you can fix it... coz friendship is very important!
2006-11-11 13:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by xelace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly even though your scared the womanly thing to do would to talk to her face to face. And if she trys to fight you roll with the punches because if you tell her over the phone or in a note. Believe me she is gonna come for you Then she'll think your a punk cause you won't tell her strait up. If you do she will probably be to scared to hit you.
2006-11-11 12:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see her in class you can still speak. You dont have to hang out with her when you are at school. I am sure she knows something is going on what is wrong with letting her know how you feel about the friendship. I cant see her wanting to fight you just because you dont want her as a friend.You dont want to be her friend she is better off knowing.
2006-11-11 12:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is or WAS a friend why would you be afraid to talk to her? What did she do that you don't wanna be her friend anymore? If your just afraid to talk to her, just keep ignoring her and she will eventually ask if your mad at her. You will eventually have to tell her. She has the right to know.
2006-11-11 12:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by J~Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey are u boy with a girl atvar never mind good ..ok lets come to ur story hey friend nothing is there to worry when i am giving u suggetion just go & make ur friendship very deep with her then just try to make her atht u can do anything for her & when she comes closer to u take some advantegs like kiss & smucch!! hey not sex ok dont do sex i mean dont try orther wise instead of going to pricipals office u will go to ur fathers office ok...so makin a deep friendship with her may take time but u have lose something to get something precious...!! ok best of luck!!
2006-11-11 12:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by f l a m e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋