It is a scary feeling when you finally realize that the same sex arouses you more than the other?
I'm a straight female and My former fiance has recently come out to me and I'm trying very hard not to be mad at him and feel used.. Sometimes I feel so bad for him, I want to understand how he feels. I love him so much and if he was going through any scary feelings I feel so bad for him.
But if he already knew he had those desires his whole life(he's 27) I just don't know. I know none of you know him/our situation.. but can you shed some light on how it feels so much better to be with the same sex? We slept together before, but it wasn't passionate,but he did climax. He pretended it was so great, but now that he is telling me the truth, he said that even though he climaxed he didn't feel turned on...
we lived together and we/are best friends, i that's why i can't turn my back on him.
2006-11-11 04:28:01 · 7 answers · asked by Lisa L 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks so far for the comments. I mean that:) But nobody has explained to me what you felt like when you started to like the same sex better than the other..
2006-11-11 04:35:34 · update #1
Good feedback guys, keep it coming.. now looking back i realize i should've realized because when we were out together he would be all over me, holding my hand,kssing me on the lips.. but when we got home we'd be like brother and sister.. every night he would hold me but would never touch on me..
2006-11-11 05:24:00 · update #2
It is very cool of you to continue to be his friend. Please try to be thankful that he was finally able to admit it before you two got married. Some people do know they are gay from childhood and never have any straight relationship. SOme people know it from childhood but have been raised to believe it is sick and wrong, and so work hard to subvert those feelings. That's why some people end up getting married, having kids and coming out of the closet many years down the road. It really isn't a conscious choice to be gay or not to be gay. He can't help preferring men any more than you can.
It is best for you to try to distance yourself romantically... I know you don't want to turn your back on him, but you also don't want to hurt yourself.
2006-11-11 04:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by Beth B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this has got to be one of the most difficult situations to be in. I am sorry for both of you. And good for you for remaining his friend. I don't know what to say, fortunately i have never had this experience and hope I never do. It is very sad! I wish the two of you the best. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-11 12:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how you feel when you are with a guy that is how he feels with a man. He gets nervous and feels more alive.
I know what he is going through.
He probably didn't mean to hurt you he just was fighting his own sexuality. being bisexual is a hard thing to accept.
2006-11-11 13:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its much more greater feeling while sleeping with a same sex than opposite sex.n if u're not easy with him better be slowly separating urself from him n if hes also not intrested he'll also help u doing that..n will mind his own way...
2006-11-11 12:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by kawal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'd go to couple's therapy. It's not just for "couples" but friends too. I think they could help you. Time heals all wounds.
2006-11-11 12:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sarasvah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should turn your back on him and try to understand where he is coming from.. its nothing you did and you shouldnt feel bad about anything
2006-11-11 12:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by sexylilles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess all you can do is be supportive. Be there, because he's definately hurting.
2006-11-11 12:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ha Ha! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋