I was talking to my grandma the other day and she told me something that I will never forget. She said for the first year of marriage, put a penny in a jar every time you have sex. Then after that first year, take a penny out of the jar every time you have sex. She said by the time you die, the jar will still have pennies in it. Now I know women say that they dont change after marriage, but my grandma whos is 83 says that is just BS. She says women who say this are just trying to fool you into marrying them. What you people think of my grandma??? is she wise or what????
2006-11-11 04:19:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think your Grandma is very wise, and correct!! My husband sure changed after we were married, I don't know when the last time I would take out a penny would have been. It happens to men too! My suggestion is marry someone who has the same appetite as you, hopefully you will have better luck!!
2006-11-11 04:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by serendipity_siren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change is the only constant thing in this world. Of course people change. Our body changes too. As we grow older, men become less virile and women less aroused. It is the natural flow of things. Cells grow and hormones too are secreted less and less. This will affect how we function and sexual function is one of them. It is natural that older men no longer crave for sex as they did when they were younger and likewise women are not as passionate as before. This does not mean; however, that the love is gone and that they have changed towards their mates. It simply means that the human body is ageing but the love is still there. There are some who really changed and had outgrown their loves for their wives and this is a different thing. Perhaps this is what your grandma is talking about. But it does not happen that way always.
2006-11-11 04:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do don't think your grandma is wise I know she is real old as that saying was around when I was a child, and then it was true because there was no birth control except abstinence. and a lot of women practised it. Also a women with a new child every 10 months was not in a loving mood, particularly as men did NOT help with any thing in the house except making more babies. it is 2006. better now
2006-11-11 04:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different. One saying doesn't apply to everyone. Yes, things change. When my husband and I started dating we were having sex 2 times a day. When we moved in together his drive wasn't up there anymore. Then on to marriage, children, jobs, etc. Sometimes there isn't enough hours in a day to do it all. It isn't that women change, circumstances change. To push all the blame on women is ludicrous. My husband isn't the same man I married and I am not the same woman he married. We have both changed.
2006-11-11 04:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I have to disagree with your Grandmother will all respect. I have been married 26 years and what you wrote is just not true with me or friends of mine that have long lasting marriages; with each year the passion and sex grew it did not diminish so Grandma may talk of her relationship but not in general
2006-11-11 04:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is true that all throughout a relationship the sex varies. Once you have kids it goes away or is long between sessions. But after they get older it comes back. Just never let the touching and teasing go away and you will keep the desire forever.
2006-11-11 04:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not doomed. In a marriage you have to love the other person as you love yourself. You must Love God first. Then you will love as you are suppose to. You will do whatever pleases God and you will please your mate. Women are to let the husband have sex anytime they want to. The womans body becomes his in marriage. His becomes hers. We are not suppose to ever follow our evil emotions. Make them follow your spirit and you will be better off. Do not ever hold back on sex with your husband because your mad or any reason. You feel like that when he makes you mad but later you will regret it. Real wisdom says love always. In hard times think of when you first started having sex with him.
2006-11-11 04:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by MSNRY 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depends on the woman. some change, some don't. you have to change after marriage in some aspects because your life is not the same anymore. after you are married long enough, how much sex you have shouldn't matter.
2006-11-11 04:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the person you marry. Yeah some couples do have less sex as they get older but it depends on a lot of a factors.
2006-11-11 04:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you grandmother married the wrong man:) Like 90% of the women out there do.
2006-11-11 04:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋