My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago because we just we not getting on, we had been together for a year.
As we work together I have seen her everyday since and we agreed to just be friends.
A couple of days ago i found out that she has a new boyfriend and I just feel crushed inside and cant sleep properly with the bad feelings i have.
Why am i feeling like this?? I know we would never work together as the last 6 months of our relationship were not good. I would not get back with her and i do not love her. But i do miss having her around
She was always very good in the bedroom so is it just jealousy that im feeling? as i do miss the sex as i havent met a new girlfriend yet?
HELP ME i need to understand this to move on
2006-11-11 04:01:36 · 6 answers · asked by nine_ball_tattoo 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What you are feeling is considered normal. There is a genetic basis for such feelings. If you really want enlightenment about this, and are willing to read a book, go to your local library and pick up: The Moral Animal by Robert Wright. It is amazing how much you will recognize about feelings you have, have had, and will have in the future.
2006-11-11 04:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has moved on and you have not. You are feeling rejection. rejection hurts everyone. It's natural to feel that you lack something. It's a blow to your self-image, pride, ego, and self-esteem.
Get back at her by not letting it destroy you. Accept that you two were not compatible. Accept that you can't make a relationship out of good sex. Realize that she wasn't right for you, just as you weren't right for her.
Now you know that you shouldn't dip your oen in the company ink. Workplace relationships rarely work out, and then you have to deal with seeing them all the time. The best way to cope it to think "Been there, done that, STILL looking..."
Maybe part of your problem in relationships, is that you seen to be only concerned with what YOU are getting out of it. In a healthier relationship, partners concern themselves with what the partner wants and needs, and strives to meet those needs. They give so they will receive. It's not all about you all the time. Get over it. She did.
2006-11-11 04:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just got complacient "I would not get back with her and i do not love her. But i do miss having her around"
just try and let it go, you will meet someone else, (probably a rebound) and then you will see the light, and start looking for miss right again......this is normal
2006-11-11 04:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by ari_is_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up too, because I finally discovered I that I've never loved him!! and to be honest I can't see him at all, mean I would be happy for him if he found his dream girl because I've never loved him, that's why I understand you bro, I meen you loved her once and you're seeing her everyday!! and I've never loved him and can't stand or imagine seeing him for seconds!!
2006-11-11 04:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably just feeling lonely because you were used to having someone and now you are all alone. Try to get out and meet someone.
2006-11-11 04:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by Hemp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on man ! Get over her . You'll find a hotter girlfriend very soon
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2006-11-11 04:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋