what do you do when you feel your world falling apart, the weight of the world on your shoulders?

Question

my life is filled with so much drama sometimes it gets hard to tell whats real and whats not. my friendships are a huge mess because he said that she said that he said (you know what i mean)my love life is a big joke to the one and only that i care about and my family is going through a terrible time and no one knows how to cope.my grades are going way down and its hard to keep up or even concentrate wile im in school, half of the time i dont even know what im doing in my classes or even how i got there because i go into trance like stages were all i do is think and the world just goes on around me. i just need some ideas on how to keep myself from falling apart. if all i get is just a few words ill be happy or happier than the usual. id really appreciate it if you wouldnt mind giving me a few words of wisdom. thanks

Answer 1

Believe me when i say there are people a lot worse off than you

Answer 2

Hi been there and know how u feel. first u have to step back and ask how much of this is ur problem or is it even ur problem? Focus on u and get ur priorities straight. U have to become number 1 in ur life,and if necessary really look at the role ur given in ur group. Sometimes it is us who really need to change. Dont be so open to letting people dump their problems or drama on u. Just say I really dont have time to listen right now and then go do something nice for u. Just dont be so available for everyone. Say things like I wonder what a therapist would think of that because I am not one. Be prepared to maybe make new friends. But it would be a fresh start and dont join the new group as the garbage can to be dumped into Good luck Curious 2006 Hope this helps

Answer 3

Try to focus on the things you like the best, what really makes you happy. Focus on your happiness; avoid blaming yourself for what may be happening with the adult figures in your life. It is their problem; not yours. Avoid "friends" that do you no good; it is better to be alone than with a bunch of troublemakers. Try to get as long hours of sleep you can because you need the energy. Also, do some exercising to drain out the stress from your body, drinks lots of WATER and try taking vitamins (liquid vitamins are better) since they will help you with more energy to cope with the day ahead. Remember, you can only change what happens to you today. You can only control what you eat and what you say, therefore, take control of that and don't let others give you a bad influence.

You have already taken a HUGE step by realizing that something is going wrong and you want to fix it. So be strong, take things one day at a time. You are a unique and wonderful person; don't let anybody make you feel the contrary.

Answer 4

This question saddens me, I'm so sorry you're going through such a rough time. I no it's not much comfort, but we all go through hard times. You mention you're in school so I'll assume you're young(?) Or younger than me (48). That can be such a difficult time when emotions run so high and you can really feel the weight of the world on your shoulders. Have you thought about therapy? Family counciling? Whatever crisis your family is going through right now, you might feel better talking about it with a good therapist. Also, if you are religious, you can try prayer. This one works for me and His grace always calms me down when I'm in a storm. Please also remember that life is full of ups and downs. Usually if you can hold on, the down time will pass and things will even off until the next down time! My mom was diagnosed with cancer two months ago. We all were worried but then I just prayed for God's help and let him have it. She had surgery, recovered, all the cancer is gone and she's expected to make a full recovery. Crises over until the next one. Try and make one or two close friends at school that you can lean on during this time. And you might try talking to a school councilor as well. I hope this helps. Hang in there!

Answer 5

I'm so sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Can you talk to a councelor? Sugestion: When I lost my Dad, I have the ability to block things out, then one day it hit me like a hammer, I took to my room, and I read book after book after book. I was unable to work at that time. After three months of being alone and reading, I found a way to deal with it. I would suggest this for you, it will also pull you away from all the trauma and drama, sometimes we need to pull away to keep ourself together. I have found reading to always be my salvation. I have never read a book that has not helped me learn about others, and myself as well. It's also a good way to excape. It's contstuctive, and not destructive. Take care of yourself. You can't change others! But you can learn. Learning has helped me deal with everything. And offered an escape when I couldn't deal. And make sure you get enough sleep. Sometimes I get my best ideas after a good nights sleep. Sometimes only time will change things. You need to learn, and keep learning, as this may be the only thing you can control, when other things are out of control around you. My oldest Grandson does this. It helps him cope so much. As hard as reality is, you must remember you can't change others, only your reaction to them. You also control how you Think. And this is also where reading can help so much.

Answer 6

INDULGE! PAMPER YOURSELF!

These are the purposes of vacations. You get to retreat, reflect, recharge, spoil yourself and gain the energy to to move on. Focus on the things that make you happy, from the simplest (like a bowl of ice cream...ummm...yummy!) to the most complex (like take a cruise or a vacation just by yourself! oh what an adventure).

The good and fun thing about loving yourself, is that you think of no one therefore you only spend for yourself. Hehehe! Explore a place where there are no inhibitions and you can set yourself loose. You might even meet wonderful people along the way.

Just imagine, getting into a relaxing soothing spa, taking off every bit of stress in your heart, mind, and soul. With a glass of champagne and a bowl of chocolates to go with that. *wink* Then a good head to foot massage... oh! Get the idea?

Have fun!

Answer 7

I know how you feel. As an older adult, I feel the same way right now. Believe this, the he said, she said thing doesn't stop when you grow up. I know people in their 40's who still act the same way. As for love, it doesn't get any easier either. And familys will always have hard times. Your probably a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for, just remember, there will be good times and bad. If you can't talk to anyone at home, try talking to your guidance counselor. Mine became my best friend at school.

Answer 8

You don't HAVE to wory you know, your making yourself worry. You can't control everything so if there's something that you can't control, just let it go. If you haven't talk to your parents yet, I think you should. I have the same problem, so I think you have axeity problems and are too stressed out. If you don't like me first suggestion, I suggest that you schuele some "me time", y'know hang out with your friends, take a relaxing bubblebath, listen to some peaceful music.

Worrying about other things except yourself isn't going to help you or anyone else, and whatever tragedy your going through(which I'm sorry for) wil be forgotten, in time the scars will go away.

Answer 9

Wow, I see a lot of myself in you!! Usually, to be honest....I let the world just fall down on me everytime. It's not that I'm not strong but I just get so fed up sometimes. I wish I could always be happier than I am now, and the sad part is....I don't know what to do about it either. Just keep on living and cherish the things in your life that are worth it to you....and I know there is something or somethingS. Good Luck!!

Answer 10

when things get too much for me a make some lists...1st is what the trouble is, 2nd is then dividing from this list, what is my problem and what is someone elses. rip up the part that is someone elses problem and take a good hard look at what is left, you will be shocked to find it is less than half of your original list. If it ain't your problem pass it back to who it belongs to.

out of the small list you sort out what you can do to solve them, don't go all guns blazing at all of it start with the simpler ones and work your way up.
Good Luck ....be tough!!

Answer 11

When that was happening to me ,the only way to stop that feeling was to get a divorce.
Now it feels as though the weight of the world is off my shoulders.
My marriage was a sham and I was being used and never really loved .
Now that iam divorced ,i have many friends ,both old and new ,reconnected with all of my family and finally have peace in my life .
The only person who relly knows what you want in life - is YOU.