Right now boyfrined is in vegas and he broke up with 4 days ago and he tells me if i ever wanna talk to him i have to call him from my house phone and if i leave he will never go back out with me, i still love him but i am not allowed to go even see my mom, but he refuses to go back out with me becuase what happen a year ago when we broke up
2006-11-11 03:57:35 · 15 answers · asked by DEE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This question is confusing. You say that he's your boyfriend yet you two just broke up a few days ago??? If he moved away and your not together why are you still letting him control you??? WAKE UP!!!!!!!! Your downright crazy if you let some man stop you from seeing your mother. Let this loser go and move on with your life. Nobody is worth that much. You don't need a sorry man that wants control over you. I suggest you move on the best way you can because if you don't your going to have a lot of regrets down the road.
2006-11-11 04:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"When a man,or woman, is completely controlling there is a serious problem." The problem is they will, over time, become abusive.
A controlling person is not a loving person. They do not view their significant other as a Life-time partner, but rather a "possession." Often, more so than not, this person was abused or hurt earlier on in life. This abuse, or hurt, may well of been caused by a past girlfriend, or other in their life, of whom they loved deeply. Thus, causing them to be "in control" so they can never be hurt again..
Of course, it is painful to leave someone. It will be more painful to remain with them, thinking you can change them or heal these wounds. You can not heal the pain or anger they possess. Only they can heal it by first becoming aware of what they are doing to others, seeking help for themselves and given time, and hopefully given time they will understand they have the problem and not you.
Do not allow yourself to be controlled in this manner. Giving up now on him will certainly be less painful than a life time of beatings, being slapped around or worse,"having no life to call your own."
Everyone needs friends.Everyone needs a feeling of who they are, feeling proud of who they are and knowing deep within that they have someone who is supportive of them and their life.Walk away and present yourself to someone who will respect you, support you and your decisions and wants to see you have a life of happiness and pride.
I do wish you well, my friend.
2006-11-11 04:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is controlling and will not let you see your MOM, dump him. You do not need this man in your life find someone who treats you better. Belive me when I say he will never change and it would only get worse if you marry him. It can even turn to physical abuse later on down the road.
Controlling men are TROUBLE.
Please let him go and start dating again. Find someone who will allow you to be you and who will treat you like a lady.
Push him away and fast.
2006-11-11 04:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is not called love sweetheart! He is in Vegas, having fun, living his life, while he is telling you to stay home! You can't even go see your mom, you have only one mom and there are millions of real men out there! Please do not waste your life on this jerk! You don't want to look back and see your life has flashed before you and you have nothing to show for it!
You do not need a man to define your life!! :) Please know that!
Good Luck!!
2006-11-11 04:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by Yasmin76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT the H*ell are you talking about!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the H&ell kind of person say you can not go see your mom and what kind of idiot says ok i won't.
what i sap.
Grow up and tell your boy friend where he can go and where he can stick it. Get a life away from this freak. You are not mental are you? you sound like it, letting someone else tell you what you can and can not do in YOUR life.
People are DUMB
2006-11-11 04:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget him! Your boyfriend has no right to control you, and you shouldn't let him! In a relationship, there should be respect and trust; it sounds like he's incapable of either! Move on!
2006-11-11 04:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, he's in Vegas and your somewhere else, and your letting this idiot say what you can and cannot do? What is wrong with you? Lose this zero and find yourself a new hero.
2006-11-11 04:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
break up with him. he is not even worth. think about it what do u need him for? to tell u u can't c your mom. if u r not allowed to socialize with your friends and family u r going to build a lot of resentment against him. your family and friends will hold resentment that u don't hang with them anymore. they will build an even greater resentment against your boyfriend. its not even worth it.
2006-11-11 04:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is crap, you need to be the stronger one here and go out with someone new. Don't let him tell you what to do. And go see your mom.
2006-11-11 04:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by 1st time prego 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
a woman should be allowed to see her own family, forget him and move on with your life and find a man who you feel loved and comfortable with.
2006-11-11 04:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by sexymanta 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋