Is there way, i could find out name of another woman he talkes to every week.?

Question

First thanks for all the answers. it appears that my husband talks to another woman every week, sometimes 2 to 3 times a week. I tryed to search for her name using www.intelius.com but it comes back with no report. I dont want to hire PI now untill he starts to behave worse. In other words, he spend the night with me every night. he doesnt go out alone. he is home right after he gets off work. the problem is every one of his single married friend has a girl friend besides their wives. HE always tells me that i am the best woman he has ever had. he even tells me that he is so happy in t he bed with me. this is killing me. so how can get a name for all those people that he talked to only when he is not with me. most of the time he would not answer his phone and he wouldnot call back untill he leaves me, i make sure to keep record of the time he receives that call, so i can go check his phone record and confirm his lies. i used the reverse phone number check,but no result yet

Answer 1

http://www.nonpublished.com

They found a Cell Phone number for us instantly. We are now using them for collections cases daily.

Good Luck.
John
World Finance

Answer 2

Ok, if he is coming home every night and he is sleeping in your bed then what is the problem? If he is talking to a woman on his phone and you know about it he is either not hiding it well or he isn't trying to hide it at all. Maybe she is an important co worker. My husband talks to woman from work all of the time. It doesn't mean he is having an affair. Ask him who is on the phone when he's talking to her. Offer her a hello if you are worried that she doesn't know you exist. If you are worried he is cheating then the only way to find out and save face if you are wrong is to hire a detective. You don't want to come right out and accuse him of this. If you are wrong yoou could destroy your marriage. Without trust, you have nothing. If you go through his phone records and call numbers up you will look ridiculous. If you follow him around in your car well... I'm sure he knows what your car looks like, lol. If you did get her name an address what would you do with it? Show up on her doorstep ranting and raving? If you were to hire a dective you would have to be sure not to leave a paper trail. You don't want him looking at the bank statements going what is this "Detectives R Us" we gave $1000 dollars to do you? I don't really know how much it costs. Anyway, if you hire a detective and you are wrong then never bring it up. If you hire a detective and you are right then divorce him and make sure you use it in court. Take the house, the car, and the money and let him have his who*re. Any woman that messes with a married man is nothing but. Good luck!

Answer 3

Wow, I am going through something similar, except my husband doesn't have the married friends w/girlfriends on the side. Mine will turn up the volume of the tv or radio when he checks his messages, which is dumb b/c I can view the phone bill online. He has some strange numbers on there that he is talking to hours when he knows for sure I am not around. I tried intelus as well with no success, I also called 411, no luck there either. I did do the reverse # lookup and verified whether those numbers were cell phones or landlines (whitepages.com). You can get a rental car (without his knowledge) and follow him and see where he goes, bring a camera or recorder (with night vision) and if you see what you are looking for , that will be you evidence in divorce court if he tries to dispute alimony. Just brainstorming....

Answer 4

If you have the other woman's phone number you can go to superpages.com, click on people pages, click on reverse number lookup, and enter the phone number. The drawback is that if it's another cell # or unlisted then you won't get the name. You may have to hire a PI to get the info. Sweetie, I'm here to tell you from experience that if he's talking to this woman he's at the very least having an emotional affair with her. If she's in the area or he's apt to travel then he's probably either already or will in the near future meet up with her to have sex with her. You need to confront him, lay down the law to him about how it's disrespectful and hurtful to you, and tell him that either this relationship with the other woman is over or the two of you are over. You have to put your foot down or he's going to be using you to be his little woman at home while having a girlfriend on the side.

Answer 5

Hon, you are just working too hard on this.

You need to get some candles and some wine and relax with your man. Then bring this up. Tell him it makes you real uncomfortable that all his married friends have girlfriends. Ask him if he, hypothetically, would like to have a girlfriend, too. (What man says no to this? Don't react when he responds, respond, as if you could be open to his responses. Especially if he entrusts you with an honest answer.)

Then ask him if any of the wives have boyfriends. Ask him how he would feel if you had a male friend.

This should be as casual a conversation as you can make it. Kind of like...hey, where are we in this relationship and what direction is it taking?

You are not the only female out there stressing over the opportunities offered by cell phones and internet. Unfortunately, People have access to people 24/7 now. And it offers men an outlet for their predatory inclinations without bringing another body into the relationship. Most men want the additional interaction without the committment or the interference in their day to day lives. He can have his ego stroked by his mental image of "another woman", and still remain "faithful" in the marriage. He probably has no qualms about this other relationship. It's a toy. His only reservation is how you react. Monogamy has a definition all its own when it comes to men and access nowadays.

It really doesn't sound like he intends to break up your marriage. It sounds like he enjoys the extra-curricular entertainment, as if he had gone to a movie, and then he wants to go home.

If you don't feel like you can handle conversation, then just let the deal alone. Note the behaviors that indicate his committment to you, just as you did in your question, and trust that the man can make responsible decisions. Ignore information you have about his interactions and assume he tells you the truth when he says how happy he is with you.

Having a list of names and phone numbers is not going to stop his behaviors. You don't want to put him in a position where he has to defend his behaviors because then you are the wench and all into his privacy. There isn't a guy out there who wants someone else telling them what they can and cannot do. It's just a receipe for rebellion.

Bottom line is that if he wants to continue to play with his toy, he's going to find a way to do it. Like any other toy it should not replace you. He should not like his motorcycle, boat, dog, or his ego stroker more than you. As long as he can focus on his home and you when he's there and his behaviors are loving and committed, you might want to stay out of it.

Answer 6

If you want to know something, you put a plan in place to find out the answer. If you are checking the phone, w hy not just call the number. She will probably be more than happy to tell you anything you want to know. You do need to know because you have to know who you are sleeping with, if he is messing around is he putting your health in danger. There are so many aspects to a good marriage, that being happy in the bedroom probably doesn't even rank in the top five. Get the information you need and give yourself the gift of peace of mind. Also it would be my suggestion that you use his phone to call from, so the recipient will think that it is him.

Answer 7

If you cant get the number from his phone or his phone records to call the women, just sit back and wait he will screw up eventually! They all do!! If you really feel he is doing things he shouldnt be then keep looking girl untill you catch him then you have reason to go and leave his sorry butt! If you cant handle looking all the time you will have to completely quit looking and believe in him, What you dont know cant hurt you, right?

Answer 8

If you have the number, I would just call it. Try to find out anything you can. The woman may be up front or she may know the situation and tell you what she thinks you want to hear. But it has been my experience your gut feeling is usually correct. If you feel something is wrong with the situation between them then there is!! I would just talk to your husband and call the number. It maybe something it may be nothing

Answer 9

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Respect yourself. You should not have to play detective trying to find out if your spouse is cheating on you. You use the direct approach. Ask him if he is cheating on you. If you have been married to him long enough you should be able to tell if he is lying or not. Trust is the foundation in which good relationships are based on. If you don't have trust then you don't have much. Tell him how you feel, clear the air and move foward.

May you have a long and happy marriage!

Answer 10

Why don't you let your husband know, that you know he is calling someone, you do not have to say you do not know who it is, make him think you know who it is. Tell him that he has to make a choice, you or the other ladies? tell him that he is showing you no respect for you, doing something like this. Tell him this is very upsetting to you, and you do not know which way to turn, and that you are not going to take it any more! say, what do you wan"t? You do not need the name of the other woman, she is not your concern, he is, so you have him their, get the answers from him.