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I went to drop the kids off and no one was there.I called my ex who did not pick up her cell. I called the police to let them know in case my ex calls and said I am playing games. The sitter finally showed up and hour later. I told my ex if the sitter is that irresponsible I don't want my kids with her. I told my lawyer also. Other advice?

2006-11-11 03:23:16 · 5 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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If this was only the first time, I would suggest you let it go, on the babysitters part. Do you know what made her late in the first place? Do you have a number for the sitter? If not, get it. Your ex should've kept her cell on or picked up when she isn't around her children, what if there was an emergency, you should address that with her. You were right to call the police, to cover your own azz. If you feel the need to get a new sitter then it would be best for the both of you to pick that person.

2006-11-11 03:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0 0

My brother was going through the same thing (custody issues) with his step-son. What I would do is document everything and make sure that you don't always use the same ink because they think that you just sat there and wrote it all out in one night. Any little thing, as unimportant as it may seem at the time, document it. Get yourself like a composition book and write the time and date and what had happened so that when it comes time for you to have another custody battle, you have that documentation to back your story up.

2006-11-11 12:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 0 0

you did the right thing,,you didnt just dump them at the side of the road,,yes it does happen,,you called her on her mobile to find out what was happening,you just didnt just take them back to your home without a call,,you covered your back incase lies were told,,you also stated your children be left with someone who was reliable,trustworthy and capable of looking after children,this would seem obvious to an idiot. if you and your ex could find a way to communicate in regards the children it may not have to come to you contacting lawyers again,,many couples who split find it difficult to communicate where the kids are concerned but at least you are trying to do it without actually 'telling' their mother what to do which never works and only serves to make more problems with talking about the children. maybe you could call her and come to an agreement on what will happen if she isnt going to be there to receive the children when they return,,try to be understanding,flexible,,you could say,," if ever you dont find yourself there or have to be somewhere else at short notice,,its fine,,just give me a bell and we will work something out,,," make it about how your only concern is about the children,,that you dont give a tot really if she is a tad late,,its no bother if they have to stay a while longer,you know she has a life as you do,,it could work to your advantage as there may be times when you are stuck for time,,when you will be late and if she knows you would do the same for her she may just say,,ok,,,,call me as soon as you know something and il let the kids know,,,,sometimes just treating someone with a little respect,,even if the marriage ended badly,,can get you everywhere.you and she both love the children,you both just want to be parents without the hassle,so try to make that happen and she may just follow suit.

2006-11-11 11:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 1 0

yes arrange a time when she is home.... the kids would rather hang out with dad then the sitter anyway.... if it is her work schedule then try to be flexible, but there comes a point that you should just say no way.

2006-11-11 11:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by who be boo? 5 · 0 0

What more can you do? Sounds like you covered all bases. Perhaps fully custody is your next step?

2006-11-11 11:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0 0

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