My children and I are about to be evicted, we have very little food, the electric is about to be cut off, etc... How do i go about getting this idiot to pay what he should. I have gone thru the channels and they treat me like the bad guy. I am the one struggling and trying to make a better life for my kids by going to nursing school, while this guy is out living large, he has no one but hisself to take care of. Cause he sure is not paying his part to help me take care of the child we made. If anyone is going thru this or anyone has good advice, please feel free to respond. Serious responses only please.
2006-11-11 03:10:58 · 16 answers · asked by BabygirlSr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a father myself hon it pisses me off when another so called father cant/wont even pay child support to take care of his own,try get him in court and have your attourney give him an option like here in fla, either start payin up or spend 2 days in jail for every dollar he owes you and your child/children ,,, if nothing else get the irs on his sorry *** as im sure he probbaly dont even pay his taxes,,good luck to you and your kids hon<<<<,,stinger5906,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
2006-11-11 05:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you went through the proper channels did you try to get assistance? Every little bit helps, it will ease your mind and it will help tremendously to know you can count on getting food for your children. Go to social services, if he is working and getting a paycheck they can help you have his check garnished so that you have guaranteed child support. If worse case scenario, you get a lawyer and kick his ***!!! I am very sorry for what you are going through, my prayers are with you but at the same time, if you have time to sit here and ask questions you should be working, even if in McDonalds they have a great salary and benefit package that can help you get through this and finish school!!!
2006-11-11 03:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About to be evicted and have very little food, but you have the Internet and probably still have a cell phone that is kept up. You should have made some changes when all this got started and not waited till the last minute. Living in Florida makes me glad you wont be my nurse. You might wait till the last minute to give me my meds.
2006-11-11 03:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry that you and the kids are having it so tough. I know a lot of people don't like it, but have you thought of getting on Welfare, for a little while till you are on your feet? Sometimes trying to get money out of a man is like squeezing blood out of a turnip. But you need immediate help. Welfare, can provide you with food stamps, that now come in what looks like a debit card, so there's no ripping stamps out in front of everyone. They can also help with utilities, depending on your situation. They will get your ex's info from you and try to go after him. Good Luck.
2006-11-11 03:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find new channels most countries if you ask government 4 money to look after kids they make dad pay something take no prisoners let his mates know what sort of bloke he is and work mates and of course every woman he goes out with talk to his parents if you can after all their the child's grandparents dont be angry or malicious just the facts he wont be happy but you cant argue with the truth so good luck with the future and be extra careful in future who you make babies with
2006-11-11 03:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were on public assistance they would be beating his door down and forcing him to pay. I am willing to bet that you aren't so they won't do jack for you. You will have to hire an attorney and take him back to court. I had a friend who was in your shoes and that is what she ended up having to do. Now they are garnishing his pay checks and she is getting what she should have been for the past two years.
2006-11-11 04:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many will tell you, don't do anything to hurt his job. I will tell you, do anything for the children. Make sure his boss knows about what is going on. Do it in a kind letter and pictures of the children and ask him to post it in the lunch room, and ask him to talk to him. He might want to shut you up and start taking care of his first responsibility, the children. Kids don't eat, then why care if he doesn't eat. I would ask in your state how often it is legal before it is harassment, and go by the law, and do it as often as you legally can. The jerk will find someone someday and feed her kids!
2006-11-11 03:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Keep in mind...unless he has to pay alimony, he has to pay only " CHILD SUPPORT "...does not include " CHILD MOTHER SUPPORT".... get a job and get some food for the kid...the money the state requires him to pay is for the CHILD...not you. Too many women think that the man is suddenly required to take care of them as well as the child.
2006-11-11 03:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by Turc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the USA, at least, there are ways to put pressure on the father.
If you have substantiated that the child is his and have a judgement for support, they can flag his social security number,
take away his drivers license, and eventually put the sob in jail.
I am sorry you are having problems. There may be social services that can help.
Heck, I would send you a C myself if it would help
2006-11-11 03:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by hls 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the same thing, if you haven't got a lawyer get one now (review their credentials to make sure you are getting an experienced lawyer). check the phone book for social assistance to help with some of the finances.
document everything now - look for all his accounts, joint accounts, list assets etc. the sooner you get this info to your lawyer, the sooner they can freeze his accounts.
talk to friends and family and explain your situation and ask for help
good luck to you, i know it sucks right now!!!
2006-11-11 03:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋