im 17 and pregnant and i dont know what my mom will think?

Question

i was16 amd pregnant before and she made me abort. now im 17 and pregnant again. yes i was on birth control but it made me sick. i stopped. i know my fault. im stupid for it. but i dont know if my mom will kick me out for even help me with the baby because she still has a grudge against my boyfriend from the first time i was pregnant. help.

Answer 1

Little One, I would have to say one thing and one thing only! Do not have another abortion! For what ever reason your child wants to come into this world and weather or not your mother approves is beside the point! However, it is not your mothers responsibility to help you with anything, and I know you don't want to hear it but, 'If your old enough to have sex and get pregnant, your old enough to go out into the world and raise that child!" Your mother is going to be mad, that goes without saying, but you are an adult now! You made the conscious decision to become an adult the moment you went to bed with this man! You may only be 17 but your mother has raised you! You can't expect your mother to raise your child too! She wanted better for you than what she had and wanted you to finish school, start your career and get married before children but as we say 'Que sara sara'
'what ever will be will be'! You are now going to have to prove to her that you can do this! Get up right now and get a job! You aren't showing yet, and even if you were, there are plenty of jobs out there that you can get! My youngest was five months pregnant when she got a nice job at a school! This is a great way to finish your education and make money at the same time! Even if you work in the kitchen they will take into consideration that you need to complete your education and work around your schedule with them and your schooling! There isn't anything you can do at this point except prove to your mother that you aren't the idiot she thinks you are! I don't want to be harsh and please don't take this the wrong way but you really need to start thinking about the future! Your future and the future of your child! I'm not one of those weird people that hates abortion but to me, if the Gods didn't want you to have this baby you wouldn't be pregnant again so soon! I am however one of those weirdos that believes in fate! Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself because it isn't going to make your mother respect you anymore! Start taking responsiblity for your own life and don't throw it away! Your mother will come around! Because, beleive me, when she is sitting beside you in the hospital holding her grandchild everything else is just garbage!
One more thing before I let you go and you go out and look for a job! Sit down and tell your mother AFTER you have made a change! She will just yell and scream and it won't do any of you any good! Show her that you have the ability to take care of yourself and the child!
No need to cry over spilt milk, it's water under the bridge now and you really need to look towards the future!

Be strong!
BLessed Be

Answer 2

First of all, why didn't you learn??? Wasn't the abortion hard enough to handle, I would think you would feel guilty. Abortion is NOT birth control!! Now that I've said my peace, have you even considered adoption? At 17, what are your plans to support and raise this baby? Don't depend on mom. You were "mature" enuff to be sexually active (at a very young age) you now need to have a plan. It isn't about you anymore, sweetie. It is forever more about this baby. As a couple who can't conceive, we encourage adoption. It is the only hope for people like us. We have a son, and early next year plan on starting the process all over again. Please consider what is best for this baby, you will not be playing "HOUSE". This is a commitment for life!. Good Luck!!! And be honest and responsible and tell your mom, ASAP

Answer 3

I was 17 when I had my 1st and my mom told me if I didn't get married I had no place to live...right after the ceremony she haugged me and told me she thought she made a mistake when she told me that...now she loves both of her granddaughters more than anything. Just because she has a problem with your boyfriend does not mean she can make you have another abortion. She needs to realize this is your life and your baby, not hers. I understand she only wants the best for you and your life, but I think she's going about it the wrong way. The question is, how do you feel about having this baby? Do you see your boyfriend staying with you or in the picture for this baby? I wish you the best of luck in this situation.

Answer 4

Well, your mother cannot force you to get an abortion. If she tries and you do not want it, you do not have to. Is there anyone else you can go stay with? In most states it is legal for a girl 17 to move out. I am sorry you are having such a hard time. You know you messed up and what is done is done and people telling you is not helping the situation. Man, if you were my daughter, I would support you because I know things happen and being angry doesn't change what happened. If you need someone to talk to that understands, instant message me angels_among_us7777

Answer 5

17 is extremely youthful to take on the primary jobs of being a mom. looking after somewhat one and elevating him via formative years is extremely worthwhile, even though it is likewise very stressful, high priced, and in some cases downright laborious. each and every element of your existence differences as quickly as you have a baby to safeguard, and once you're so youthful and have not experienced lots of existence yet, it heavily limits your concepts for the destiny. At 17 and 18, what form of economic stability are you able to grant a baby? Do you have a place to stay? good jobs with wellness reward? A automobile? What approximately your educations--did the two of you have plans to bypass to varsity? you're able to have been which incorporate your boyfriend for quite a few years, yet a severe college romance isn't the comparable subject as a marriage, residing day in holiday with one yet another, dealing with an important different and young ones, paying charges, development a fabulous partnership. That takes an stunning volume of time, endurance, and adulthood, and once you upload somewhat one to the equation good off the bat, it could make for an quite stressful marriage. you are able to think of (and need) which you would be collectively consistently, yet it is the only genuine boyfriend you have ever had. there is not any thank you to appreciate for particular which you will nevertheless be collectively some years from now. i'm hoping which you would be able to dollar the possibilities and make a bypass of it, yet the two you and your fiance must be thoroughly dedicated to one yet another, your toddler, and your destiny collectively as a kinfolk in case you will make it artwork. it would require a fabulous style of artwork and a fabulous style of sacrifice, and you will the two ought to artwork problematic to make confident your loved ones has each and every thing it desires financially. I prefer you success!

Answer 6

Obviously you know what causes you to get pregnant now you need to deal w/ the consequences. You need to figure out if you are keeping this baby and what the future holds for you if you do. You need to realize that while your boyfriend may stick around and there is no reason he has to and many times they don't. You are the one who is pregnant and while you both laid in the bed you are going to be the one responsible for this new life. You will be the one who has to support it financially and emotionally. If you are serious about being an adult then grow up and be honest with your mom. Take responsibility and find a way to support yourself. Your mother may end up helping you out but you decided to be an adult and made a baby and you need to figure out a plan for the rest of your life as a mother if that is what you chose. You asked for help and now you need to help yourself.

Answer 7

I don't know what the laws are in your state, but noone can make you abort. But there is the possibility that your mom may kick you out. That is her option. You need to sit down and talk things through with your boyfriend first, see where the two of you stand. Then sit down with your mom and tell her. You won't be able to keep it a secret forever, so you will have to make your decisions soon. Good luck!

Answer 8

You need to show responsibility !!!!. You've already ended an innocent life. Why do you keep being stupid?. These poor children didn't ask to be here. If you're going to do grown up things then you need to be responsible for your actions. In this day and age there is NO REASON to be " accidentally" pregnant with every birth control option out there. You need to be the adult you think you are and tell your mom and deal with your shameful act. Quit hurting innocent children.

Answer 9

Now you see how responsible your actions are. Sex is not a game and apparently your mom does not make good choices either. Your mom is not going to be happy that is for sure.. so.. what does your boyfriend think ?? Sorry to hear a girl so young having to deal with adult issues... I hope that you can get help.. go to your local prenatal care facility... in most states you do not need your parents to go.. and get help. You do not have to end another life.. you are surely more mature than that now.. so make a change in your life and save one. This was your choice to make.... so keep making choices that are productive. GL !! ------> added... I was just reading through the other answers.. it is just amazing how people think the answer to responsiblity is a piece of rubber !!...... sad

Answer 10

It's time for you to show some responsibility for your actions. Do a bit of research on your options, and consider the pros and cons for each one. Then sit down and talk with her. Tell her what you've learned about each option and what you want to do from this point forward.

If you haven't decided what you want to do, ask her for her opinion. If you've decided that you definitely do not want to abort this child, you need to tell her that. And if she insists, then you need to get some legal advice from an outside source.

You've chosen a tough path for yourself.. if you've learned from it, then something good has come of it. But please, from this point forward, you have GOT to be more responsible. Look at all the lives you've had an effect on, most especially two little innocents who had absolutely no choice in what happens to them. And anyone who tells you that what you're carrying is not a baby until "x" weeks old is deluding themselves so that they can be comfortable with their choices about terminating something that is alive and growing.

A baby is God's opinion that life should go on...

Good luck, hon...