I am getting sick of it When I walk in the classroom she'll say now thats a mess then some people start laughing and the teacher dosent say anything to her Idon't say anything back because she lives in the ghetto and they say ghetto people can really fight I'm getting really fed up I haven't been nothing but nice to her all year and she says something hurtful everyday I come in i'm getting ready to bring something to school and hurt her if she keeps it up I don't want to go to the counselor then people are going to think im scared which im not I just don't wont to start anything with her what should I do?
2006-11-11 02:58:43 · 23 answers · asked by cosmogirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People say she is a really good fighter.
2006-11-11 03:05:20 · update #1
The only thing you can do it ignore her, she'll find someone else to bother if she thinks she's not getting to you. Just think to yourself "rise above it" and you will be able to let it go.
2006-11-11 03:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you've gotta fight ghetto with ghetto. Of course your teachers/principals/school authority figures aren't doing anything about this situation - unfortunately, this problem is everywhere in the US education system, and has created tragic consequences like the Columbine shooting.
You want to get back at her, but not fight her yourself. Girl, you need thugs on your side. Take it from me, wherever you go in life, remember this simple rule - you will always need friends from all walks of life that are only your friends because you do favors for them and vice versa. No matter what bullshit anyone feeds you - this is the way the real, adult world works. In high school, I had a mouth that was way too big for my own good, and I would have probably gotten into a lot of fights/gotten my *** kicked --- if I didn't have thug friends. Why would thugs befriend you? Because you've got to have something that they need. For example, you could find a thug that's tougher than this girl, befriend her/tutor her, whatever, then let this ghetto girl try messing with you again. Think about it - does this girl have her own gang? I'll bet anything she does. She can only mess with you if she knows she's in no danger. You've got to have tough friends that can intimidate her right back if you refuse to fight her yourself. You'll achieve an uneasy balance of terror, which will be too much trouble for her and that is the only way she'll truly leave you alone.
I want you to know that I was in a similar situation to yours, but worse. There was a guy that actually wanted to kill me because his girlfriend cheated on him with me. THE ONLY THING that kept him in check was his knowledge that I had lots of people who could fight that would back me up. You're afraid of her - it's good to admit it, but you can't stop there. If she never becomes equally afraid of you/your friends, she will never leave you alone.
2006-11-11 11:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Betelguese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't use physical force to handle a verbal attack. It's amazing that you don't want to say anything to her but are willing to try to physically hurt her.
Have you spoken to the teacher? Or to your counselor? Or anyone of authority at your school? These people are supposed to be there to help students with situations like this.
You don't mention how this all started or if you had a hand in doing something to her before she began acting towards you in this manner. Whether or not you had done something, this should never had been allowed to escalate to the point it's at now. Any reason she might feel she has for treating you like this isn't good enough.
2006-11-11 11:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you don't fight ghetto with more of the same. If you really want to get back at her, you have to make sure you don't show that she's getting to you. THAT is why she's doing it! Why fight over this crap? Next time she says something to you, just stop, look her square in the eyes and smile, then say "Good morning, "name". Nice to see you today!" And walk on to your place in class. She will be really confused and it will turn the tables on her. Everytime she does it, just smile and say something nice so EVERYONE can hear it. She will look like an a*ss in no time and will stop the behavior without you having to fight. Godloveya.
2006-11-11 11:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom/dad/guardian. Some people dont have good parents so if you dont then tell the principle or a counselor that can tell the principle whats going on. I know you may care what people will say & if theyll laugh but right now were talking about safety. You dont want her to put her hands on you. If you dont wanna tell anybody (which i recommend) then just ignore her. Thats the safest thing ever. Ignore her when she says it..like you do anyways. Good luck. People like that are usually the ones that act big & tough but when you get down to it they just thrive for drama.
2006-11-11 14:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? She shouldn't be harassing other people, she's just wanting to start crap with people. And you are letting her keep continuing to harass you by not telling her anything. You need to tell her firmly, "Leave me alone." If she says something back or acts aggressive tell her that you don't want to get into anything, you just want her to stop saying stuff to you. If that doesn't work, talk to the teacher. The teacher needs to tell that girl to stop bothering other students. It's teachers like that who allow others to get picked on so much that the kids gotta move schools because the teachers don't do anything-mostly b/c the teachers are afraid themselves or don't want to get into anything.
Talk to the principal too. Tell the principal what's going on and how it makes you feel. Mention how long it's been going on and what you've told the girl to let her know she's got to stop.
Good luck.
2006-11-11 11:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't want to go to authority, then you have only two choices: be silent or retaliate. Since you seem interested in retaliating, why not make a very loud comment back, as in "you're so ghetto?" It will probably hit her at her inferiority point. Problem is this can backfire as somebody above suggested it does let her know that she got to you.
It seems to me that your teacher is not controlling her classroom...if she is aware of this and does nothing. Perhaps you should remind her that keeping order in her class and maintaining a learning environment is her responsibility and that by allowing this continue you don't feel too inclined to be learning in her class.
Why not print this out and give it to her and tell her this comes from a lawyer who also teaches at a community college.
2006-11-11 11:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by William E 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well hon if that is the best she is got, lol whatever. Comeone who the %^*( cares what a girl that unoriginal thinks? i am sorry people start laughing but they are all really frigging sad
The best thing that I can think of to say is... Hmmm soandso youave nothing better to do with your life than do this every day? i mean how old are you? same thing every day and you laugh *** off. You really easily impressed. I think THATS laughable at your age you cant figure out how sad that is. Does it make you feel special. Oh that is sooo sad. This really is the highpoint of your day? then look around and act like you just feel really sorry for her. ". Hey tomoroe everybody so and so same time same place (and look directly at her and look her up and down and then say" ....SAME JOKE. "
2006-11-11 21:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Johny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you do not want to make this into a fighting situation but she should find another way to make her self feel better. Your teacher should have said something the first time it happened too. When she said "now that's a mess" you should have said "look who's talking ghetto girl". Get to class ahead of her and bet her to the punch.
2006-11-11 11:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must say some thing back to her every time.if she tries to crack a joke on you say some thing like isn't she the funny one today ?or ask her when she speaks to if she has anything else to do besides worry over you all the time ? she is afraid and intimidated by you for some reason and the only reason she continues to do it is because you let her. just have a smart retort for her as* and then the others will laugh at her and that will stop her. if she wants to fight. I don't think she will, beat her as* and beat it good. heck some times you have to do what you have to do,but try out witting her with your comments back to her and see if that will help.
2006-11-11 11:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is really jealous of you. You don't want to hurt her or you will end up suspended or maybe even in trouble with the police. Adults are probably going to tell you to speak to a counselor,teacher,principle,parent but then you are going to look like a snitch and people will loose respect for you. If I were you I would come up with really good comebacks to turn the embarrassment back on her. You want to stand up for yourself but not put yourself in a position were you can face serious trouble. Good luck!
2006-11-11 11:03:48 · answer #11 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋