Am i OK?, PLEASE HELP!?

Question

im 18 years old and a senior in highschool. all of my life i havent been mr popular, and ive always had very very few friends. ive never had a girlfriend and im an only child. i live with my alcoholic father and mother whos sick of the liver. 2 yrs ago i got put in juvenile jail and was there for 2 week, i learned my lesson. following my release i was then homeschooled in this place called faith academy. i was isolated from the world like this for 1 year. i returned last semester to school, but im still struggling in my quest to be happy and to be sociable. i was put on meds for about 2 years with no results cause i was snorting ice and smokin weed. now that im sober i think i might have to be put on meds for me to be sociable and to FINALLY break out of my shell. COULD U GUYS GVE ME SOME HONEST FEEDBACK PLEASE!!!!!!!!!WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

Answer 1

Relax Shayne...i know how you feel....to grow up with alcoholic dad and mother who is sick is not easy....i think you never really got the attention and care that children usually get from their parents.......snorting ice and smokin weed is not something that you would have done..but it all happened because of the situations.....
Now you say that you are SOBER so you should start your life on a good note...if you feel you will not be able to do it all alone..then pls go for prof. help.

Answer 2

You need to go back into therapy for your previous drug abuse. The drug you were snorting has caused "permanent" damage to certain parts of your brain. Don't get upset now - it is repairable. But it all take TIME. Be patient with yourself, don't worry about being popular, learn to like YOURSELF first. Your young, have a whole life ahead of you, Never Ever use "ice" again. Watch the TV show, "Dog the Bounty Hunter" - he's been fighting against that drug for years - its a killer - don't smoke either, your too young and it has irreversible effects on the "short term memory bank" - that's the one that runs you during your waking hours. You have a hard road to follow, with your parents,and being an only child. I am an only child, and I can tell you this, if you are not happy with yourself, life will be terrible for you forever. Stop thinking about making friends, you have a lifetime to do that. If when one dies, they have but 1 friend, they are millionaires!This time in your life will be the hardest, I promise you. Now go and get back into drug counselling, your having "flashbacks", understand them and you can get over them... Good Luck, and I leave you with these words, "reflect on the past, never live in it, grab at your dreams, once you catch it, dream another dream. Life is sooooo worth living... each day brings a new beginning. God Bless and Protect You - son....

Answer 3

This is a good news/ bad news scenario. The bad news is that you made some choices that sucked and they impacted your life in what appears to be a very bad way BUT the good news is that you KNOW what you are up against and you KNOW what to do about it...that is why you are so different from your peers...they are teenagers living there in Teenageland while you are actually an adult.

There is no reason to assume that this is an insurmountable problem; you have been back in this environment for what; 4 months? I know you have some sort of counselor what does s/he have to say??? Join some school clubs(maybe drama??Paint some scenery)camera club/ science..you write well how about journalism?? Volunteer for something like working in a nursing home. Take the focus off you maybe a peer drug counselor...that is what a lot of kids in your position do...you have that experience USE it....You'll be fine.

Answer 4

Wow, I'm sorry you've had a such a hard time. But the fact that you recognize your mistakes and errors is such a huge step. I've spent about half of my life fighting with depression and feelings of being "not good enough." I wish there was a quick,easy answer. I've spent a lot of time just thinking about who I am, who I WANT to be and working on that. I didn't like myself for so long, so it was impossible to feel like anyone else would ever like me. Once I decided on who I wanted to be, and how I wanted to get to that point, things really started to fall into place.
You sound very intelligent and you've overcome a tremendous struggle so far, so you have it within yourself to overcome this. Just try to be yourself, be open and honest. Realize that you can't make everyone like you, and it's okay if you don't live everyone back. Don't worry about being Mr. Popular. It's not the number of friends you have. Concentrate on getting to know people who you WANT to be friends with, who you like, have common interests. Most of my friends during my school years were people outside of school. Don't limit yourself to just there. Look for groups or activities that you enjoy or want to learn about.

Answer 5

You need to stop doing drugs, that is what is wrong with you. You are too young to be doing anything like that, even older people shouldn't be doing that. You need to concentrate on your studies and pay attention in school. Being popular is not the answer, making good friends is. You don't have to follow the footsteps of your parents, but it is up to you to stop that trend and make something of yourself. Once you get to college, things will be different for you...I promise. Everytyhing will fall into place and you will become happy. Going to school and staying off of drugs will make you happy and proud. I promise.

Answer 6

Yes, honestly, you are OK. Not more not less than any other ordinary teenager. Only if possible, don't ask to be put on meds in order to be more sociable. That's really not good. Just be yourself (doesn't matter however inadequate you consider yourself to be) -- it will be much better than chemically induced happiness! It will come together for you as soon as you'll understand that you are really OK.

Answer 7

Honest Feedback? You're okay. It's almost normal to be miserable in high school.

Just remember - this is not the end all be all to your life. It will get better after you graduate and start your life. Just have some real, attainable goals and you'll be all set.

Answer 8

Hello sir,lots of people lack love,true love,to feel accepted it took me thirty-five years to realise this because from age sixteen i feel that the world owes me too much,why had i been brought to this world without all the things i want,i hated my parents,the world and everyone until i met my teacher,a monk,he corrected what was inside my head,i was so because form the day i open my eyes i was not taught how to set my goal when one do not have a goal our mind is not stable or calm,i started off to change myself not changing the world or others,when you change your-self you change the world,set a goal to be a kind and understanding person,in our true-self there is no greed,hatred and illusion.Change yourself to move your parents,shower them with love and concern because no one in this world wants to destroy one-self,in the heart of you father is full of love,what he did is habit or habitual,he needs love too,the main thing is taking the first move to express this love,go,take the step,make the first move,the rest will be smooth,one more thing, always ask your-self what you can do for others not what others can do for you.By practising selfless and kind thought you will bless with everything in this world not only friends.Good luck with your journey,go on write a beautiful history book for your-self [visit www.The Daily Enlightenment.com]

Answer 9

I feel for you. I was *never* mr popular and I've never had a girl friend. Drugs and alcohol will only amplify your depression and possibly lead to suicide.

My first advice would be this: it isn't always best to be popular. The crowd is not going to look out for your best interests. Never put on a false face just to go with the flow. A lot of times, the flow goes right over a water fall.

My next advice would be to get involved in a church. My church family has been there to provide prayer and support.

My final advice would be to reach out to God. When you are at the end of your rope, he is there. He hears prayers, and he wants to have a relationship with you. It is difficult to have a right relationship with people without being right with God.

He is faithful and just to forgive you for everything, no matter how terrible it may be in your eyes. Turn to Jesus.

And the keeper of the prison awaking out of his sleep, and seeing the prison doors open, he drew out his sword, and would have killed himself, supposing that the prisoners had been fled. But Paul cried with a loud voice, saying, Do thyself no harm: for we are all here. Then he called for a light, and sprang in, and came trembling, and fell down before Paul and Silas, And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved? And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house. And they spake unto him the word of the Lord, and to all that were in his house.
(Acts 16:27-32)

God will provide you the strength to endure and overcome.

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
(Philippians 4:13)

whereas God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not imputing their trespasses to them, and putting the word of reconciliation in us. Then we are ambassadors on behalf of Christ, as God exhorting through us, we beseech you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For He has made Him who knew no sin, to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.
(2 Corinthians 5:19-21)

I hope this helps you. M y prayers are with you.

Answer 10

LET ME GIVE IT TO YOU STRAIGHT I WAS DOING CRYSTAL METH FOR OVER 20 YEARS, I USED TO BE THE LIFE OF THE PARTY, THAT STUFF TOTALLY CHANGED MY PERSONALITY I USED TO BE VERY EXTROVERTED NOW I AM VERY, VERY,EXTREMELY INTROVERTED AND DONT HARDLY SOCIALIZE OR VERBALLY COMMUNICATE WITH ANYONE INCLUDING MY OWN WFE. WHEN THEY SAY "SPEED KILLS" THEY WERENT LIEING, IT KILLED ME A LONG TIME AGO , STAY AWAY FROM THAT CRAP ITS DANGEROUS ANSD DEADLY! I