what do i do, she has been going out with her b/f for 2 weeks. i havent said anything yet as i dont know wat to say
2006-11-11 02:12:57 · 27 answers · asked by jane w 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Wow...hard, isn't it? You need to sit down and talk with her about all sorts of things. First of all......two weeks with her boyfriend is too soon to be having sex, especially at 14! Jr High romances are lucky to last a month, the maturity level just isn't there.
Did she use protection? If not, you might want to consider gettting her on some form of birth control. It will help prevent pregnancy, but its not going to help with STD's. Teens account for a significant proportion of the 15 million STD infections in the United States each year. Forty percent of chlamydia cases are reported among young people age 15 to 19, females in that age group also have the highest rates of gonorrhea. Many STDs can cause serious health problems – pelvic inflammatory disease, infertility, ectopic pregnancy and increase risk for HIV transmission – if they are not detected and treated. HIV infection leading to AIDS has been a major cause of illness and death among children, teens, and young adults worldwide. AIDS has been the sixth leading cause of death in the United States among 15- to 24-year-olds since 1991.
Please......don't be embarrased, and don't yell or she might shut down. But you HAVE to talk to her. Teens think that they're never going to die, never going to get sick...and you need to show her otherwise. A trip to Planned Parenthood for some information might help.
Good luck.
2006-11-11 02:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by soleilshewitch 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I read the answers above and I don't agree. It would have been hell to pay in my house and my kids know it. I think parents today are afraid to tell their kids that they are wrong and did a bad thing.
At 14 she is a minor and obviously does not have good judgement. You can see that by having sex after only 2 weeks of knowing this guy. However, the deed is done and you need to deal with the now.
Get her to a ob/gym and have her checked out. Pregnancy is the least of your worries. Don't worry about embarrassing her, talk really plain about the consequences of sex, unprotected sex, and having a baby at her age. Also, tell her that she better be prepared for the kids talking at school about what she has done. Her reputation is now in the toilet. (Talking plain with her will lead to better communication in the future).
Second, ground her butt and give her some of those consequences (no phone, tv, radio, computer games), so she at least thinks about what she is doing.
Third, call the boys parents. I'm sure they would want to know that their darling is acting in an irresponsible manner also. good luck.
2006-11-11 02:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, Just say I saw what you were doing today and since you think you are old enough to be doing that, we are going to the gynecologist to get a pelvic exam and get you on some birth control. THat is embarrasing for a 14 year old to have to do. But Hey she is having sex, so she has to do the adult things that go along with it now. Then have the doctor sit down with her and explain all the things that she risks getting while pregnant ( I meant while having sex. Ive got pregnancy on the mind..lol). That is what I would do with my daughter.
2006-11-11 02:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is 14 years old and you need to put a stop to it. That's way too young to be having sex. I think it's even too young to have a boyfriend. I would sit her down and talk to her about this right away. If you have to maybe consider birth control for her. Talk to her about safe sex because there are many diseases and of course AIDS. Pregnancy shouldn't be the only worry. Make sure she understands. You may not be able to totally prevent it but if you try to take measures to protect her and to help her protect herself perhaps she will be smart and safe about it.
2006-11-11 02:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by ktpb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, Don't freak out on her. Talk to her like an adult. Express your feelings but do it in a positive way-no yelling. If you make it easy for her to talk to you about this she will feel comfortable coming to you whenever she has a problem or a question about something. But yelling at her and making her feel bad is only going to turn her away from telling you anything. Talk to her about getting on birth control and practicing safe sex and about Morales! She is too young to be having sex, but what is done is done, so help her with this, don't punish her. Good luck!
2006-11-11 02:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Mommy of 3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a close relationship with her sit down together and let her know the pros and cons of having sex at her age. This isn't something you can just say no, don't do that. She needs to understand the consequences if she gets pregnant. Don't encourage her by putting her on the pill.
2006-11-11 03:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! That is why I'm glad I don't have a daughter. I would probably go crazy. Since she is already having sex, the only thing you can do now is talk to her like an adult and explain the consequences of sex without trying to discourage her. Because we all know, that when it comes to teenagers, resistance will always be met with resistance.
2006-11-11 02:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My mom didnt catch me but she kept bugging me about it til i finally gave in....just make a doctors apt and get her in to get a pap so you can make sure shes not got anything yet..or had sex before....then take the next steps to putting her on bc and getting her some condoms....i know you dont want her to be having sex but if you dont get her on some form of birthcontrol now youll have a baby in a few months because shell just go behind your back.....goodluck to you
2006-11-11 02:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is Put her on birth control and talk to her about safe sex, and how to prevent STD'S. Maybe if u show her pictures of different STD'S, and tell her what they do, then she might, but a slight chance refrain from having sex, but i totally doubt it. Best Of Wishes...
2006-11-11 08:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't want to be a grandmother soon you better have a talk with her. if you feel you cant talk to her about sex then take her to someone who can. i know they are doing it younger and younger but 14 is very young, maybe you can find out why she feels she needs to have sex with boys. put her on the Maury show he will get her to stop. any way good luck
2006-11-11 02:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by parrotsarenoisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋