I have been crushing on my best friend, but the problem is, I have a boyfriend. and I havent told ANYONE that I think I am bi (or maybe even lesbian) what do I do??!?!
please help!
imlost.
2006-11-11 01:51:43 · 9 answers · asked by ocfan 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Isn't any relationship good, as long as everyone is honest with everyone and it's happening for the right reasons?
2006-11-11 01:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a crush on your best friend does not necessarily mean you are bi or a lesbian. It's perfectly normal to develop deep, even romantic feelings, for those you are especially close to. Love is not always about physical attraction. If can be an attraction to personality as well, and that knows no gender.
I can't sit here and pretend to know all the ins and outs of your situation, so I can't tell you what to do. However, I can suggest that you give yourself some time to search your feelings. How well do you trust your best friend? Does she know of your feelings for her? If she doesn't know, would she be offended to know? Would knowledge of this damage your friendship? If she wouldn't be offended and it wouldn't damage your friendship, perhaps you should talk to her. I think she could put this into better perspective for you than anyone here.
If it turns out later that you are bisexual or a lesbian, just remember there's nothing wrong with either one. If it turns out that you are straight and that this is a one-time type of deal, there's nothing wrong with that, either. Never push yourself to be something you're not. Best of luck to you in all your persuits.
2006-11-11 10:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really sit down and think about this. Is it possible your friend shares these feelings? Is she involved with someone currently? And can you see yourself in a long term relationship with a woman? And are you prepared to end the relationship with your boyfriend to pursue this one?
This is difficult. I know. I've been there.
2006-11-11 10:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by trivial 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be truthful with the both of them... Honesty is the best policy trust me on that!
2006-11-11 12:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by sexylilles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a simple choice. You weren't born homosexual. Just because you have deep feelings for a person of the same sex doesn't mean you want to marry them it simply means you 'love' them don't confuse to two.
2006-11-11 09:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Marshall Lee 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your a bi
2006-11-11 12:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think straight thoughts and go talk to a phycologist. Either something's wrong with your head, or you have a hormone inbalance. It can be fixed! Pray also.
2006-11-11 09:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by tcreede 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
this is not a problem just be yourself
2006-11-11 11:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
threesome?
2006-11-11 10:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋