People say that masturbating feels good, but i just don't get, why can't i get the pleasure. My friend said i just have to pluck my finger (haha) but sadly i don't feel anything.
I'm 16 and I think I'm too young for sex and scared i will regret it, but my intentions for sex are high...don't know why, maybe because i'm lonely.
Sooo... i think masturbating is useless for me and sometimes i got this feeling that i don't like to masturbate or touching myself. I can't imagine why girls are moaning or say that it's a great feeling while having sex. How does it feel like? (for ppl who have had experience it)
Sometimes when i'm studying i can hardly concentrate, coz i'm thinking bout it all the time (really disturbing & irritating but can't get away from it)
Pheww...need to pure my mind!
2006-11-11 01:39:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Bravo you for abstaining from sex and realizing you are not ready. I commend you for that and wish more young people would think before they act. There are serious repercussions that can occur from having sex, that even many adults aren't ready to face (but they happen).
As for masturbating, it also sounds like you don't really want to do that or you feel guilty or 'dirty' for some reason when you do it. It may be that your mindset about it is what is preventing you from reaching orgasm.
If you are thinking about how much you don't like doing it, then you're not going to like how it feels. Masturbation is pleasurable for many but perhaps you aren't ready for that either...take your time and don't do it because you think you should be (but really don't want to).
It's okay not to like it...some people simply don't...in time perhaps you'll enjoy it or when you're ready to have sex, you may like only that and never care to self gratify.
Do what is best for you...and relax...there's nothing wrong with masturbating, it's the only really 'safe sex' there is...but take your time with it...
2006-11-11 01:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My guess it that it may be a couple of things:
1) You may just not have found your "pleasure point". Take your time and explore. Your spot may not be where everyone elses' is.
2) You may have something medically wrong with you. It may be something as small as a pinched nerve, or as big as an undeveloped part of your body. You'd have to see a doctor to determine that. But, don't worry, the chances it may be this may be very small (I'd say maybe 0.01%). I just did not want to leave it out as a possibility.
Also, don't think of masturbation as a bad thing, especially since you are a woman. You need to know what brings you pleasure sexually. It will help A LOT when you do finally get into a sexual relationship. And when you do get into a relationship where sex is involved, don't be shy about letting your partner know what makes you feel good.
2006-11-11 01:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Experiencing orgasm, either through sex or by masturbating, is the most pleasurable feeling in the world. If it weren't, the human race would have died out millions of years ago!
You are wise at 16 to wait to have sex. There will be a right time and a right person some day. Meanwhile, you should be able to relieve sexual tension by masturbating. If you cannot feel pleasure by stimulating your clitoris, there must be a reason. Are you on any medication? Some meds will interfere with sexual function. If not, I suggest you talk with a woman gynecologist. The feelings you are having are perfectly natural, and you deserve to have all your body parts working right!
2006-11-11 01:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by keepsondancing 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're wrong about feeling guilty, it's the people who told you this that are wrong. Masturbating is just a phase we go to, girls and boys, as we grow up. It helps you to get to know yourself, and what you like sexually. The next step will be to share this experience with someone else, male or female. The better you know yourself then, the better this next step will be, for both of you, so never feel guilty about it. Enjoy !
2016-05-22 05:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not a female by no means, and do have a vagina. However I have been told there are females that just do not get any enjoyment out of masturbating. Just maybe, MAYBE you aren't doing it properly. A females stimulation comes more from the clitoris, and the opening. I did not read everyone else's answers. However there was a link for the first answer. Maybe you really should look over that. If you haven't already.
Whatever you do KEEP your virginity.
2006-11-11 18:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try this site for great help.
http://www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/n_masturb.htm
2006-11-11 01:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Scabius Fretful 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋