I'm only 17 and pregnant and I'm ready or what do i do?

Question

im 17 and im pregnant. i was pregnant earlier this year but i was only 16 and my mom made me abort. i dont want to do that again. i will be turning 18 when the baby is due. i think i should be able to keep it because i will be older than i was the first time. i know it will be hard but nobody wants to kill their baby. my boyfriend is on my side and said hes fine with whatever decision i make. but he just tells me he doesnt want me to ruin my life. im still in school. i graduate in 2008. i just need advice please :-(

ps. i was also thinking of telling my mom when i was atleast 4 months so the baby would be more developed and she wouldnt make me abort this time.

Answer 1

I feel sorry that you're mom had you get an abortion. I mean yes you were young but that is your choice not hers.That's horrible. Well, I was 18 when I delivered my son. I still went to college and took care of him and took care of my appt. I'm not going to lie it was difficult but if you're really deteremined to not only raise your child but create a good life for yourself and the child it can be done. I got through college in four years, my boyfriend and I got married, we have a home and are taking great care of our son. My parents watched my son on occasion but they never were the responsible people for him. You have to do what's right for you..not your mother. Hope everything works out for you.

Answer 2

Yes it will be extremely hard and many times you might think to yourself why didn't I do this, or that instead. I think for a baby to even be created takes a miracle because of all the necessities it needs to even develop. Like you only have 12 hours out of an entire cycle to even conceive. My opinion is god or whomever you believe in gave you a second chance for a reason. You should follow your heart. If you get another abortion you'll never forgive yourself let alone your mother. The good thing is you'll be 18 soon. You do need to seek prenatal care. But if you think your mom will force you to have another abortion I would probably wait to tell her too. This is your body and your baby is a blessing Thank god you got this opportunity again. Children are never a mistake. That baby's here for a purpose. If you do tell your mom sooner then later remember, this is your body no one can force you to do anything if you refuse and that's all they need to not proceed with the abortion. Just make sure when that baby's born she/he is your number one priority. Not your mom not your boyfriend, no one. You do have to look at it two ways either your mom is so controlling that you wait to tell her or you except this like an adult and make the decision for yourself. Keep that baby, Good Luck!

Answer 3

its really hard to have a baby at this age and raise it while you are still finishing school. I know. i was there. I had my baby the end of my Junior year in high school. Luckily my mom was supportive of my decision to keep my baby and she helped me so I could finish school. Its your decision. Your mom cant MAKE you have an abortion if you dont want to. Hopefully you will have some help and your boyfriend will be able to help you also. You have to finish school and you should not get married just because you are pregnant. Dont be forced into getting married if you are not ready for that. I agree about waiting to tell your mom. I didnt tell my mom until i was 4 months pregnant as well. Good luck with the decision you make and i hope all works out well for you.

Answer 4

For your age this is too much, but I think you are in US. This is not a right age for all this where ever you are and which country you may be. What your mother did was right. you should first stabilise your life. My answer may annoy you, but you are an adolescent and what ever decision you take you may think it is right, but that is not the case. What my be your country first can you bring up the baby, 2. Are you matured enough for it 3. Being a young mother has its own problems, you yourself is a child and child having a child think.

4. Can you and your Boyfriend can support yourself without any body's help?

5. If for any reason you two fell apart, then what will your baby's future, for bringing it up are you properly and adequately educated, I know even in US right education only gets the Job and good job.

So think and take a decision.

Answer 5

You know what....if you have the responsibility to have sex and get pregnant...it should be your responsibility on whether or not you should abort....i personally do not approve of it but no baby should be punished for something you did.....your mother should know that you are pregnant and she CAN NOT make you abort....it is a wonderful thing that your boyfriend is standing by you by the way... I am 18 years old married and pregnant and i think it is the most wonderful thing in the world.....there is no way that a baby can ruin your life....only you can do that....

Answer 6

Dear Friend, Carrying a Child, Giving Birth to Child and then Taking care of the Child involves tremendous responsibility. The institution of marriage has been devised precisely to cater to these aspects and also to provide societal respect to the Child.

Past can not be changed so lets see ahead. You are pregnant and haven't informed your mother for the fear that you may have to undergo another abortion. You are not yet 18, in school and your boyfriend is supportive enough to say that it would be your decision. The big question out here is that Is he ready to share your responsibilities or not? If yes, then bestow legitimacy to your coming baby by getting married and convince your mother/parents regarding your (your and your boy friend's) plans about bringing up your child!

I am sure your mother/parents would support such a socially acceptable proposition, which would bring joy to you and your family and most importantly to the yet to be born Angel. God Bless You and the Angel.

Answer 7

Even if you don't tell your mom about the baby, make sure you go to planned parenthood or a clinic for prenatal care and make sure they won't tell your mom. You need prenatal care to make sure your baby is born healthy. Also, don't smoke, so drugs or drink alcohol. Try to eat right, don't each a bunch of junk food so the baby will be healthy. If you want to keep the baby, make sure you do all you can to have a healthy baby, the last thing you need at 17 is to have a baby with health problems.

Answer 8

She shouldnt have made you abort the first time. I cant even imagine making my daughter abort her child. My grandchild. You are old enough to decide whether you want to keep the baby. It may be hard, but it CAN be done. It wont ruin your life. Babies (even if you werent planning one) are the most precious gifts . I have known several girls who got pregnant while In high school and they worked hard, kept going to school and now they have great jobs, married and their families. You will do fine. Good Luck.

Answer 9

This girl in my school was pregnant her sophmore year and she just had her baby in October [her junior year]. I am not sure about her family, but she does have the support of her boyfriends family, they are helping her take care of the baby. Why don't you try to see if that will work for you? Because, I don't know how it is to be in that situation, that is the most advice I could give. Good luck.

Answer 10

component of your feeling at wit's end is your hormones. they might additionally out in case you maintain the being pregnant. What you're able to desire to do is calmly sit down mutually with your boyfriend and talk approximately it. talk approximately your destiny plans, and how the toddler will come into those plans. what's going to you do approximately ending college? Who has been determining to purchase it? the place is that money coming from? Will it proceed in case you have a sprint one? in case you progression to a various state? Will your boyfriend circulate too? Is there artwork there? Will your loved ones be there to assist you emotionally and financially? yet another difficulty is your not feeling waiting to be a mom. in case you experience that nicely, you're nevertheless early sufficient to have a secure, common abortion. good good fortune on regardless of you agree directly to do.