ok so i have a GF, and we love each other to pieces. I can tell our relationship is good, and she is not a cheater. But I still get jealous when she hangs out with other guys (even though I know she is commited to me).
Take last night for example -- we went to a play, and she told me that two guys wanted to hang out with her that night. She already told them she had plans... that made me feel good. But i also asked, "well what if we werent going to the play? Would you still have gone?" She said she probably would have.
We've hung out basically every day sice we started dating a few months ago. Is it alright to still feel a little jealous? I mean I know I am wrong here, its wrong to not let her hang out with her friends, but I dont do that. I just get jealous because shes also really popular and everyone likes her, and shes the type who like to talk with guys on the phone a lot too.
2006-11-11 00:57:12 · 7 answers · asked by edger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husband is the same way but it is normal as long as you don't over react on the situation. For some mean it's a control issue and for others it's a love issue. My husband always told me it's because he loved me so much but he didn't mind me talking to other guys as long as that's as far as it went. the hanging out is ok but make sure she invites you to go along if she's asked that will tell you everything. Hope this helps
2006-11-11 01:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't know that she's making you jealous my *** - let's just cut the crap. All the girls here being blindly supportive - what if this story were reversed? If a couple of girls had asked you out, and then you went to tell your girlfriend, would she be jealous? I sure hope so, and I bet she would. How does jealousy feel? Fun? Probably not. If she truly didn't want to cause that reaction in you, she wouldn't have told you that it happened. Period. The good news is, from her actions I do believe that she's into and that she wants to see your jealousy. I would recommend that you never show it, because all people, guys or girls, get a kick out of it. If you deny her the satisfaction of being able to influence your behavior, you'll only be more of a challenge to her. In addition, you mention that you hang out every day. AS AN EXPERIMENT, try making yourself a little less available, and just see how she treats you. My bet would be is that she'll treat you like a prince, and she'll begin to appreciate that any time she spends with you is precious. It may sound manipulative, but all it is is an effort not to smother her - otherwise the relationship could fizzle out quickly. Don't worry - your situation is one faced by all men over and over again - the key is to control your behavior when you're around her at all times.
2006-11-11 11:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Betelguese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship can be like holding a bird. Hold it too tightly and you kill it. Too loosely and it flies away.
No matter what you do, you cannot force her to love you or to be faithful. If you are adult, and love her, and are good to her, you provide fertile soil in which a long term relationship might grow.
If you cant trust her, you can never really love her.
2006-11-11 09:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by hls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her keep her friends. If you know she is not cheating on you, bit the bullet and don't create a fuss when she wants to spend some time with them. If you try to put her in a cage, you will lose her.
2006-11-11 09:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not true love when jealousy is not there. So you Do truly love her. I just don't understand why having you she also needs this other guys to hang out with it does not make sense to me ask her.
2006-11-11 09:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, honestly.. girls are like that. Girls are meant to flirt without knowing it. She probably doesnt realize what shes doing. Your supposed to be jealous. Because you love her. Its normal.
2006-11-11 09:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by xPEANUTx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get jealous too. I think it's ok, till you don't over react.
2006-11-11 09:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by sandrao_0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋