He is being very persistent and kind of obnoxious about it, actively trashing everybody else's views and beliefs.
The thing is that he has also been diagnosed with cancer and is currently starting chemo.
As his newly found religion seems to be a great source of comfort to him, our group of friends are in a situation where nobody dares to say anything in order not to antagonise him.
What would you do?
2006-11-11 00:55:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Listen with an open mind and give him a lot of support while he's going through the chemo. Everyone finds their own source of strength when dealing with a major medical crisis. I would say to just be there for him and try to be as understanding as possible. If you have a conversation where you feel like you can put in your opinion, do it. He won't want you to act differently or treat him differently than you usually do. I've been through cancer with my Mom, Dad, brother and sister and everyone deals with it in a different way. The best advise I can give is to be there and continue to treat your friend as normally as possible. He needs all of his friends to be there for him right now.
2006-11-11 01:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people, when learning about a different lifestyle, religion or point of view, have a feeling of enlightenment, like a new path or a new goal is set for them. So, without noticing how annoying they can be, they try to teach us all the "glories" of that new thing. That's just the "excitement" of the discovery of a new spiritual way and you will notice that it probably will fade. In the mean time, tell him that everyone has its own path and if we all liked the colour blue, it would so boring.Tell him also ( and I'm sure that you already have ) that you are very happy that he found the true meaning in life through Budha but you don't have to go around playing Jehova Witness and converting everyone ( maybe this is kinda strong but you get the point ). Be patient and ... be patient.
2016-05-22 04:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I am a Buddhist. We do not try to "convert" people so I think your dear friend is acting out of his own need for reassurance in such a deeply stressful time in his life. Ironically, all of you can actually do something that is really very Buddhist: you can exercise a very compassionate patience with him. Do not be offended by his behavior. Understand its source as you already seem to do. And know that you are creating a wonderful healing karma by loving him in spite of himself.
2006-11-11 01:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buddhism is not a religion, it is a way of life, a way of thinking, a mindset.
I am Buddhist, but Buddhas teachings never included that he wanted it to be a religion, merely a philopsophy, a frame of mind.
2006-11-11 00:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by himynameiskim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that your friend is ill, but that doesn't give him the right to "bully" you about his new-found belief. Tell him firmly that you will be there for him but he must stop the pressure about his belief. If he begins to harass, keep changing the subject.
2006-11-11 01:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUBBISH
Buddhists DON'T try to convert others to their faith, they just offer advice if someone asks.
So if he's doing this he's not a true Buddhist
2006-11-11 00:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop worshiping some fat guy and get himself right with God as he will most likely be meeting Him soon.
-NmD!
2006-11-11 00:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about his cancer, just tell him your beliefs and pls. don't bring it up anymore, wars are fought over that remember.
2006-11-11 01:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by promark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋