We have our x-mas dec. 24th. dinner and present the same night, we allways have our traditional x-mas dinner, My grandson is born dec 24th, we have his cake and present in the morning so he don't feel he is getting less becaurse of christmas, he is a teenager now and my daughter think we should change our traditional dinner to what he would like to have, i don't agree this is right, so it came down to, getting his birthdaycake for dessert after dinner insted of having his cake in the morning, we all agreed if that makes him happyer it is ok. I would like to hear what other people think about this.
2006-11-11 00:14:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would do what your grandson wants to do. It is a tradition for you, but his feelings are more important than a tradition that can easily be changed to x-mas or the day after x-mas. Sometimes as families grow and get older you need to make new traditions. Be flexible. He deserves to have his day.
2006-11-11 00:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's so tough for kids born around that time. Let the kid have his birthday. He doesn't want to share his special day with another holiday and I understand.
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I have to add that I am not the type of person to let a kid have his way every time, but this really is a special day for him,really the only day that is truly his. Christmas is the 25th, celebrate that day instead. As a VERY tough mom, even I would change that tradition to make my son happy. Think about if you were a kid and it was your birthday and it felt like an after thought because a holiday came first.
2006-11-11 00:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is nice to change a tradition every once in a while just for the hell of it. so why not just every once in a while. its not going to hurt anyone. at least all of you are still being together and spending time with each other and that is what actually matters in life not birthdays or traditions or presents or anything like that
2006-11-11 00:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm tough one.......can you all get together Christmas night the 25th and have dinner then?
That way he could have his birthday separate to Christmas?
If not.....it's every ones Christmas dinner.....not just you, your daughter and Grandson...so your daughter has to think of everyone....not just her son. And if it's been a family tradition, has it been going from before the grandchild was born?? What about when he gets older and moves away or wants to go to his girlfriends family dinner?
Think long term.
2006-11-11 00:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by red260z 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's a tough one, but I think you've worked out a good comprimise. Changing the entire family holiday to suit one person just because it is their birthday would be wrong. But you can appreciate that it IS his birthday so you have to make it special for him somehow. Having your regular family dinner followed by a birthday cake for him seems a very good way to meet in the middle.
2006-11-11 00:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by jenieatworld 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds to me that if he would rather have his birthday cake
on the evening of Dec. 24, after Christmas eve dinner then
that is when you should have it...
2006-11-11 00:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day it is their family and if they have decided between them this is what will happen,thats it. a teenager is old enough to change routing to suit what he considers,,HIS birthday,what we consider important,even for fairness,may be different from what he wants so,,give a little ,take a Little and you will soon see a compromise that keeps all happy.
2006-11-11 00:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you so rigid in the tradition. It's a tradition, not a law, traditions change, relax and go with the flow.
2006-11-11 00:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your grandson's request sounds okay to me. Honor HIS wishes.
2006-11-11 00:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by Snicklefritz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let the boy decide after all it is his birthday. He should have a say.
2006-11-11 00:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋