I had a baby with my ex-The divorce will be final on Xmas Eve,but I'm supposed to allow him access at a contact center in my town at the end of the month.I left him in January and went into refuge-I tried to contact him In March to maintain contact for the baby-I was told to leave him alone cos I was a fruitcake.Here's some of what he did.
Wanted a baby then wanted me to terminate at 8 weeks
Chased his boss with a machete
Screamed at me and the kids-my kids not his
Would walk out whenever he pleased-The first time was when The baby was 2 weeks-I'd had a C-Section,cos I asked him to hold her.
Made me have sex with him 8 days after birth
Smashed the window infront of my kids
Once left me in the car on the dual carraigeway in the car and walked off with my baby-I can't drive-Had 2 sit there fro 25 mins til he came back-All cos I wanted to go to the bank-
I had to ask him If I could check my e-mails or Ebay account I was selling at the time.
Hit me and my kids
2006-11-11 00:08:34 · 17 answers · asked by Elle J Morgan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had to call the police cos he was gonna take her
And I've never got a penny from him-When I asked his mum for some she told me that I couldn't have any while I was down south.
Was drink driving behind my back when He had kids in the car-I only found out recently
I've now got to allow access through solicitors-Which mean I have to pay for childcare cos my kids can't handle seeing him-
Is there anyway I can get out of it-He doesn't care about her,Didn't bat an eyelid when she was living in refuge-Then says It was my fault-
I'm now doing well and the thought of thios is making me sick.
He also has cannabis psycosis
2006-11-11 00:14:34 · update #1
Sorry it's such a long question-
It's not court ordered and my solicitor is useless-
My ex is only doing this to fit in with his plans cos he's in The area-
2006-11-11 00:21:47 · update #2
Someone has written to terminate his parental rights-Can this be done cos I won't ever get any money from him and she hasn't seen him for a year-Since she was 5 months.
2006-11-11 00:42:21 · update #3
well sounds like you found a fruitcake!! he has every right to see the baby. just be sure there supervised visits!! if he bothers you in between visits, call the police!! if your real lucky maybe he won't show for visit at the end of the month!!! i'm glad you had the good sense to leave this fool!! your on the right path, keep up the good work!! keep you and your children safe!!!!
2006-11-11 00:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must get yourself another solicitor as quickly as possible,there are many out there,not all useless.No-one with a phsycosis,whatever the phsycosis-male OR female,should be trusted around any children without adequate supervision-that is not good.And whatever mental health issues he has,he still has parental rights as the biological father,again,with adequate supervision-as someone else posted.I wish you luck in dealing with this fella and the problems he has,you might want to write everything down that is said,BY ANYONE-date and file any correspondence you may get,FROM ANYONE-and in general,go about things in the proper manner of the law-just to back you up you understand,all the best:-)
2006-11-11 05:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult, if he really is not bothered about your daughter then in time he will stop seeing her of his own accord, from your account of events he is probably doing this to get a reaction out of you, trying to hold on to his power over you, whilst i would encourage under the circumstance to keep contact in a supervised contact centre for your's and your daughters safety and security. I feel its important for you and your daughter's future for you to be seen to allow her to see her Father whilst keeping as safe and secure as you can. This way when your daughter is old enough and if the Father is still apart of your lives she will be able to make her own choice and have alot of respect for you.
As for his parental rights I think you find it very difficult to have this taken away as you were married, you would also have to show eveidance of the alligations not just on your word. Do you really want to drag yourself and the rest of th family through a long and painful court case.
Stay strong and focus on what is best for your daughter as i'm sure you do already, the love you have for your daughter will keep you strong.
God bless
Nirvana
2006-11-11 01:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by nirvana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a legal right to have access to his child but because of the history it should be supervised access. Talk to your solicitor and who ever else has been helping you with the legal side of things. Make sure you know what your rights are as well as his.
Good luck and think of the future with your wonderful kids!
2006-11-11 00:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by red260z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sad thing is if it is a court order, then yes you do, until you get it changed he could file papers for many things.. he would have to have money to do so. Usually men like him, don't do this for very long and once he missed a few visits. have it documented, then file to leave your town. or what ever needs to keep him away, Don't do this for any other reason, then for the safety of your child and yourself. Do it for the right reasons. Every parent should have the right to be involved in their child's life if stable mentally
2006-11-11 00:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suggest my love you find yourself a damn good solicitor,because i certainly wouldn't let my child anywhere near him.He might of had rights,if he'd wanted anything to with his child.
If you've made complaints to the police about his behaviour,that will go in your favour,as well as the fact that you had to go into a refuge,for you safety and that of your children.
What he has done,he's a danger to you and your children,get proper professional advice before doing anything else.
2006-11-11 12:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by nicky dakiamadnat600bugmunchsqig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is confusing. Your brain should tell you to drop the guy, find a home for you and your kids and live your life for your kids. The guy is a loser so lose him ok. It is good of you to allow him access to his child (I admire women that put their personal feelings aside and think of what is right for the child), but I also feel that a man that shows aggression in front of my children i s a guy that shouldn't have access for he is showing my children a way of life that is wrong.
You're sensible, use your inner feelings, they will guide you.
God bless
2006-11-11 05:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Curious39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is not given lightly.
1. Sell everything that you cannot carry
2. Go to the railway station
3. Pick a place at random
4. buy a ticket
5. Hide
2006-11-11 09:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should remove custody of from your child to this ex of yours and move away and change all your phone numbers and any thing else he can contact you on. Good luck. If you ever need me my email address is bigsiss45@Yahoo.com
2006-11-11 00:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex sounds just like mine, he took me to court for access and a parental responsibility order and there was sod all i could do about it, hopefully he will get bored and do a disappearing act, im still waiting for mine to do that. children dont need fathers like him.
good luck
2006-11-11 00:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by kitten3062000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋