I'm from the united states, and my husband is from india.
His family lives in india. Why is he scared to tell his parents about me and our 2 month old son??? please help
2006-11-10 23:14:18 · 19 answers · asked by solovelyjayanthi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is it an indian thing?
2006-11-10 23:24:18 · update #1
my family is from india, but i was born in usa
2006-11-10 23:26:27 · update #2
You need to ask him point blank. It could be that his family would frown about him marrying outside of his religion/race. It could be that his parent might disown him if he did. It could be that he was promised to marry someone else. Yes they still have prearranged marriages. Just ask. To many possiblites.
2006-11-10 23:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys aren't even thinking of your future son, are you? How do you think a 2nd son would feel sharing the name of an older sibling (maybe second best at the least?). Not to mention all the difficulties of having similar names in 3 men in the same state when it comes to buying cars, houses, credit issues, etc. Choose an individual name for your son and treat him as a blessing and tell your husband to get his ego checked at the door to the hospital. He has a namesake, that is enough. You could give him your husband name as a middle name or use your husband middle name as a first name, but make sure this child has a special individual name for goodness sake. You guys are sounding way too immature to be having kids! Good luck (especially to the new baby) and God Bless.
2016-05-22 04:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is major problem i suspect he have some criminal ideas may be he wants to use you for getting immigration and stuff like tht since i know few people who got married to american girl with intentiomns of getting divorced or they want to have 2 legal wifes and families in different countries as you said you are indian try to see that both things does not happen and be carefull since you already have a baby dont go by anyones advice and dont ever assume anything just get all the facts right and try to get the message clear to your husband that he need to let his parents know i know in india it may be a problem if u married away from your religion but now things are changing
but not informing ur parents about your babay is much more bigger problem i guess he is cheating all i mean u ur new born son and his parents this is i am assumiing its you who has to find out his real motives and dont believe him or assume on ur own jusdt gfind out the truth.
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2006-11-10 23:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by cupiddear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have found out about his family before getting married to him. You have family of your own in India, they could have done the needful. Anyway do just that ask your family in India to check out his family. I do hope for the sake of your 2 month old son, that there is no wife and children stashed away in India. Besides this, there could be a superfluity of reasons that he his hiding you and the kid. The sooner everything is out in the open the better for all concerned.
2006-11-11 09:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be number of reasons but please do not use these to doubt him. Just talk with him to find out his concerns:
1. He is already married in India and you don't know about it.
2. He is too scared to upset his parents/relatives in India esp if he has married without their consent.
3. Are you from the same caste? Sometimes that could also be another reason.
4. He may not be happy with his family (tightly controlled, dominating parents etc) and so, he might be expressing his freedom by not worrying to communicate to them.
5. Does he meet with your family or he avoids them too?
6. Does he have friends or he is a loner?
Ask your family elder to talk with him. Alternatively, if you know about his family whereabouts, take the initiative to contact them (after talking with him of course).
2006-11-11 06:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by moksha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be cheating you, by having another wife over there!!! That's the only reason why, which I think he's hiding you from his family. And no, hiding is not Indian thing, he might be deceiving you, so you need to find out quickly!!! Whatever I mentioned, I hope is NOT the case, hopefully...I am from Chicago, (Indian), please excuse my language, but I know a lot of Indian bastards who did this...starting out hiding from their family.
2006-11-11 05:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by billu_bhai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because Indians marry Indians and his family would have a cow (no pun intended). Either that or he already has a wife over there. You need to find out quick.
2006-11-10 23:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think family culture is very different in India & it is not good that the guy gets married to somebody without even the parents knowing it,I think he is scared that his family will get to know abt it.
also who knows he might hv a wife &kid in India like you in US, even I am a Indian & NRI
2006-11-10 23:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by hotchocredrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry a man who appears to be ashamed of you? Pick up the phone and call his parents while you are right there and introduce yourself. Maybe then you will find out why he is such a chicken.
2006-11-11 00:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of their customs. Indian men are usually arranged for marriage with a girl their parents want for them. Talk to him but don't push it.
2006-11-11 15:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋