my husband asked me last night that if a gorgeous girl came up on to him and wanted to have sex and he did, would i dissmiss it. Does this sound like he has slept with someone else or is thinking about it.
2006-11-10 22:23:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people like to play that "what iif...?" game.
The "gorgeous" part is a guy's way of adding a tough twist to this hypothetical situation -- "not just any woman asking me but a gorgeous one that my little pecker would find it verrry difficult to ignore".
But the gorgeous part does two things to women, I think: [1] it makes them insecure about their own looks - as if women need to be *more* insecure about how they look, and [2] it hints that it might be okay in his mind to cheat with a gorgeous woman.
Ask him straight out - "are you saying a gorgeous woman has come on to you in a serious she-wants-sex sort of way recently? And you are wondering if it would be okay by me for you to knock a few out with her and if you did would i forgive you by being understanding and saying, 'oh, that's okay sweetie - she was gorgeous so you kind of *had* to screw her'?
Is that what you are asking me? Or are you just wondering out loud if I would forgive you if that ever happened?"
The main thing is not to over-react (yet). Just ask very clear but probing questions. And just say, "I am asking because I am trying to find out where that question came from. I take cheating very seriously and it would hurt me to the point where we would not be together I think so I am just trying to understand why that question popped up. But my answer is -- No I would not forgive you, even if the woman were gorgeous."
Otherwise he'll be thinking what's with the interrogation. Even though he opened the can of worms himself. If it just came out of nowhere he has at least entertained the idea and is wondering where you stand on it - he's hoping you'll say "oh no, i wouldn't be mad - let's have a 3-some with a hot chick, baby!" (which it doesn't sound like you'll be saying.)
Just don't go nutso on him yet. He could be at the wondering stage and it might never get beyond that.
2006-11-11 00:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no simple answer, unless your husband come right out an tells you ehat he has done or is thinking about doing or what has happened to him. You can second guess him by aggressively questioning him, but you run the risk of an arguement. Or you can trust him and let it go for now. See what happens in the future.
2006-11-10 22:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is that marriage is a contract and if he breaks that contract that you would consider it a breach of your agreement and there would not be any need to discuss the matter.....it would all be over except the shouting and the legal wranglings. Chances are he is just being immature and wants reassurance that you would be jealous. By the way....jealousy is not insurance or love.
2006-11-10 22:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you have already got evidence he's dishonest ("So I feel my bf is dishonest doing the net factor I do have evidence, however he hides his "cookies" temp documents that may hint what you're doing on-line.. ") why could you wish to maintain torturing your self watching for extra proof? Just kick him to the shrink noone merits to be cheated on. I recognize its less difficult mentioned than performed when you consider that I'm definite you're keen on him, however love your self extra. No man is ever valued at your tears.
2016-09-01 10:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by welcome 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him the same question about you. He's being immature and childish. Why would a gorgeous girls do that with him? Is he some kind of hunk? he either already done it with somebody or he is about to.
2006-11-10 22:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is just curious but I would keep my eyes open if I were you. Just don't let him know you are watching. And decide what you would want to do about it before hand as you will not want to bring the subject up unless you are ready for a divorce.
2006-11-10 22:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by Marissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to answer this question for you, but if he really did cheat is it like him to just come out and tell you? Most men wouldn't tell their wives because of the fact they would leave them. I think maybe he's trying to test you or something. Lets just hope that's what he is doing......
2006-11-10 22:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Your husband is jokong to see your reaction.
Enjoy Life
Dr.Mojo
2006-11-10 22:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hez jus playin with u
2006-11-10 22:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by Life Style 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be either, i would ask him straight out. I am wondering why he would even wonder if u would consider dismissing it. Talk to him.
2006-11-10 22:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋