I have been with my partner for 6 and a half years now and we have 2 lovely boys together.The prob is money,he works and i dont...because im a stay at home mum! He pays the bills (he owns everything we have anyway) i pay the phonebill and he thinks that is not enough,i think it is beacause the bit of money i get dosent go far,when i pay for everything for to do with my sons and buy food also.He thinks he shouldnt have to share things with me either because he works for what he gets and i just stay at home and bludge.I have just about had enough of this.
2006-11-10 22:08:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just is the key word. A woman who stays home and raises the children wears many hats from nurse to chauffeur and has a full time job. That is not a "just". If he wants to have monetary compensation for taking care of his sons, his home and his family I suggest you see an attorney and allow him to pay legally for the right of supporting his family and daily care of His children. That includes day care, medical, education, food, housing, transportation, clean clothes, entertainment, shoes, laundry, nursing care, pets, dental, shopping and that precludes quality which can not always be purchased. By the way....if he is unhappy with the legal ramifications of of living up to his responsibilities do you really want to consider what he will be like when he dumps you when you are in your fifties? Protect yourself because this is not a healthy situation for any of you.
2006-11-10 22:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to "share" everything he needs to start sharing the costs of those kids. he needs to realise that you are basically working full-time to care for the kids, but not really getting paid for it, so its extremely unfair to expect you to contribute much financially. maybe you should tell him you are now charging him an hourly rate for 12 hours of child care in each day - that is his SHARE of the child rearing. tell him when he starts paying you for that, you'll use it to contribute to the costs in the house. you staying at home and caring for the children is allowing him to earn money to buy his things. you really have to consider if you're willing to be there and put up with this, and have this attitude towards you shown to your kids. good luck!
2006-11-11 06:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by mhm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Present him with estimates of what people would charge to cook, clean house, take care of children, wash clothes, etc. Then tell him if he'd be happier hiring someone to do all these things, you'll make the phone calls for him and set up interviews.
2006-11-11 07:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll swap... you'll go out and work, and he can stay home and "bludge". I'm sure he'll enjoy all the bludging housework and the bludging childcare responsibilities. He'll be begging to go back to work within a week.
2006-11-11 08:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by arcanehex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is self centered. I don`t think he could fully love you. If he did why would sharing things with you be a issue? Could be he has other plans for his money than you. Hmmmmm?
2006-11-11 06:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by bill a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he is being that extreme because he doesent know how to balance himself emotionally,try talking to him and see if hes having problems connecting with you and the kids personally not just financially.
2006-11-11 07:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by milo2angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sue him for child support ... that will get his attention ... and you will have a lot more of your "shared" money to spend ... since he wants to see what his financial obligation is, that should illustrate it quite clearly for him
2006-11-11 06:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋