He is in another country enjoying his cousin's wedding. He left a week ago and my surgery is next week. We have a son already that's in his terrible twos. I live w/some relatives, but you can ask for only so much help.
2006-11-10 22:05:50 · 11 answers · asked by totally trapped 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like he is selfish. You better start asking for some help doesn't sound like he will be there. Good luck and congratulations
2006-11-10 22:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Trapped' you are not. You need to believe in yourself and that you have the freedom to either take this treatment by your husband.. or not. You are facing a major life happening and he should be firmly with you and giving you the support you need, and deserve, at this stressful, and also exciting, time of your life. Having a 2 year old as well- you certainly are having a very busy time! Being honest..It doesn't sound like he is a terribly responsible or caring husband, though I don't know the full details. Give him an ultimatum, his reply will give you a clearer idea of what future choice you should make. Only YOU have a full understanding of the whole situation, and in your heart of hearts you will know the right decision to make- for you, your 2 yr old, and your baby on the way. Have you told him how you feel? Good luck and all the best!
ps: if he is returning before the c-section- that is different altogether!!!
2006-11-11 06:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you living with relatives? Why hasn't your husband provided you with a home? Why are you still having children with a man who is not taking care of you or your children? Are you insane? You deserve whatever comes your way because you got life all wrong. Excuse me....but when did wedding take over two weeks? He isn't a husband. He is a sperm donor.
2006-11-11 06:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's alright he won't be there. You're still going to list him as the father to ensure he's financially responsible for this baby. The cost to attend that cousin's wedding is nothing compared to what it's going to cost to raise that baby.
2006-11-11 07:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His priorities are screwed up. While i understand his cousin is getting married , you send that cousin your regret for not being able to attend the ceremony and you be at your wife's side for the birth of your child
2006-11-11 06:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by CareBear 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the family won't mind helping.But they will say to you bad things about your husband.he may have left so he won't have to keep your son while you have to stay in the hospital.A baby's birth is more important then a wedding.
2006-11-11 06:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey id say the reason hes not there is he doesnt wanna see you in pain i know that this procedure ya cant actaully feel it happening rather the after affetcs of it are probably pain full i dont know but as to what you can do than i guess ask someone ya trust to be there with you someone ya love and respect
2006-11-11 06:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I have given birth to 3 kids and he isn't around for all 3...I on my own babe buts its ok I am not a crybaby..I know I am strong so who need him!!! and we have been married for 24 years and the kids grown up...and still together. urgh!!!
2006-11-11 06:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel,
then look at getting a divorce,
give him the choice,
you deserve better,
he is a dirty dog.
Ian
2006-11-11 06:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him in the unit and tell him that you're not going to visit him in the hospital.
2006-11-11 06:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋