if that horrible thing happened to you...im so sorry for you dude....
but
face the fact that whats gone is gone.
death is the end of life, the full cessation of vital functions in a biological organism. it is generally considered a permanent state in the field of biology, and all living things eventually die, whether through natural causes such as disease, or unnatural ones such as accident.
life is a gift,you must continue to live your life.
look on the bright side.
Be positive.
God has a plan for each and everyone one of us.
every living thing must die.it just happened that something that unimaginable happen.
live strong!
chin up.
2006-11-10 23:43:22
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answered by Eternal Law 2
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This is a hard one because I don't have any children yet but my mother in law lost her daughter to an over dose like 12 years ago. She never dealt with it and still feels like a piece of her is missing. I don't know how I would ever deal with the death of my child or any person who I know. I don't think that anyone could ever really deal with it. Just think of it as a see you later rather than a goodbye. You will see then again, just not for a while.
2006-11-11 05:48:34
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answered by rach 3
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Oh my I am so sorry. The first thing you need to do is accept. Make it real. When my daughter died, in my head it just felt the whole thing was a dream in a way. Like I saw it happening but I just did treat it as though I actually went through it. If that makes any sense. For months I didn't cry. When people asked I talked about it like it was a story. not something that really happened
Eventually at an unexpected time it just hit me that I really had a child that was so ill and that I literally watched her die and buried her and the tears just flowed.
Compassionate Friends is a great place to go for dealing with the loss of a child.
Losing my daughter ended my relationship with her dad. it was too hard on him. You need to talk to someone who will really listen to you. Understand it's ok to be angry and sad and maybe even guilt. I ordered a DNR and I felt so helpless as she went into Cardiac Arrest but I knew they had done all they could and she was just too tired to go on. The nightmares came where I felt the doctor blamed me for letting her go.
Bottom line is talk about it. Feel it.. In time the pain will subside but never go away. On Mihkala's birthday I get her a silk rose and have a growing arrangement. When she would be turing 18 I will have it professionally arranged and stop adding to them. She is buried in CA and we are stationed in GA so I never get to visit her grave. This way I have a roaming memorial to her
Again I am so sorry and remember this "What the heart once loved it shall never lose
Oh an please refrain from decking all the people that will tell you "I know how you feel" because most don't don't and it's a pain I would wish on no one
2006-11-11 05:36:40
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answered by heartache 4
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If this is something that you have had to deal with, I am very sorry! i have never dealt with the loss of a child. I lost my granddaughter. My son lost his first daughter. And he is still trying to come to grips with the reality of the loss. I don't think the pain ever really goes away. I would suggest that one who has lost a child seek some grief counseling or even a support group. Sometimes it is a comfort to speak with others who have suffered the same loss, one only knows the extent of the pain and the feelings if you have shared the experience. I thank God i have never felt this pain. I can only imagine this would be the worst loss of all. Local Hospice Organizations often offer support groups and also individual counseling. And many are not profit so their is little or no cost. God bless
2006-11-11 05:32:00
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answered by ? 7
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I have a niece. Her husband was killed at a young age leaving her to raise two small children on her own. Then her son a few years later was killed in an auto accident. She has a hard time but, she has stayed close to her church all these years and still does. Also, there are counseling, private or groups that have lost children.I have lost both parents and a husband and i can only imagine that loosing a child would be the hardest as that is not they way it is supposed to be. My prayers go out to you.I think i would get group counseling where you can talk to others that have had you experience. There are times we do things after losing someone that we think to ourselves( am i nuts ) no you are not and in group counseling i think you will better find that out.
2006-11-11 08:38:53
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answered by shyone 3
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I am so sorry for your loss! It's hard to deal with I know but find a support group where you live and get support from others. I know one never really gets over losing a child but try to survive. You could be the one who helps another to bear this grief. God bless you.
2006-11-11 06:02:10
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answered by greylady 6
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Its a long road. You never forget that child you lost, you learn to accept his or hers fate, knowing they are in a better place. Throughout your life, you'll always reflect on what could have been. It gets easier, I lost my son 25 years ago, he was 3 months old and even know i still wonder how he'd turn out what his career would be. It gets easier over time. Take all the time you need
2006-11-11 05:30:38
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answered by CareBear 5
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Thats a hard one to answer but i would say time you put coping skills into place for day to day for a start and then start rebuilding your life to how it feels ok to you...doesnt mean you are forgetting or not grieving it means you are coping and there is a big circle of grief including anger...i would advise counselling if you feel you arent coping ...if you go a few times and feel it isnt you stop going. The main thing is you do what ever feels comfortable to you.We as parents think we will not go before our children but unfortunately for what ever reason it does happen....sometimes planting a tree in rememberance can help.My thoughts are with you.
2006-11-11 05:36:40
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answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3
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We just went through this, the second time in my life for me. You don't get used to it. My faith in my religion helps me, the faith I have in God helps me.
There's not to much I can say to you with a broken heart but there are agency's that can and will help. Contact your church and let your clergyman know, he'll take it from there, God Bless You.
2006-11-11 05:45:08
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answered by cowboydoc 7
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there are support groups. contact social services for information in your area. i am sorry for your loss.
2006-11-11 05:30:06
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answered by sinned 7
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