i want a sex change but my wife doesn't want me to get one and if i get one would i regret it if she left me?
2006-11-10 20:41:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
D-I-V-O-R-C-E! What does that spell? Divorce! You know, unless you're wife whom I think I've just talked to is open to having sex with a female body. This is all up to you whether you want to have gender reassignment surgery or not. If she doesn't stand by you, so be it because I'm going to go ahead and say that you'd be miserable for the rest of your life if you were trapped in a body you didn't care for. I know I would...
2006-11-10 21:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to talk to the wife and see if the two of you can work things out and keep the relationship together. Some spouses can get over it. A common thought is "I'm in love with the person" or "I fell for the person and not the parts." Something along those lines usually. Some couples can make it work. Maybe get a counselor involved to help. There are specialist that offer couple's counseling to transpeople and their spouse. If not, it's time to say goodbye unfortunately. Also, since you're in a committed relationship it's also time to think long-term in regards to transitioning. For example, you don't want to be 2 years into transitioning and settling down and want to have kids and realize, "Oh, maybe I should have had sperm preserved so that we could have a child together."
2006-11-12 02:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you would regret a lot of things, least of all the loss of your wife. There's the loss of your fertility as all sex change operations actually sterilize the person operated on. You would regret having to take hormone pills for the rest of your life to carry on the masquerade. You would eventually regret that you really aren't a woman OR a man anymore, just a mutilated androgyne. I really think you'd regret a lot of things.
2006-11-11 15:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by georgeewert 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are going to have to decide which is more important to you. Usually when people get to the point of gender reassignment, this is something that is just not going to go away.
To be fair to her, unless you were up front and she agreed to this before you were married, you are going to become another person. She didn't fall in love and marry that person and she deserves to be happy as well as you.
You both need to be in counseling to get this sorted out, but in the end, if you go forward with the process, you will need to divorce and move on.
Good luck to you both.
2006-11-11 07:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to just talk with your wife and try to work things out for the best... Ultimately what matter though is you being happy with yourself. It's not an easy life being trans... sacrifices have to be made... some of them huge. Hopefully though, you can talk your wife through this and make her see how important it is to you and love will prevail :)
2006-11-11 05:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by iavasaenil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're unhappy being who you are in the relationship get a divorce and get a sex change. And let her find someone else.
2006-11-11 05:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't get a sex change... or, you should get out of the marriage.
2006-11-11 04:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jou-Jou 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well talk to your wife some more and to a therapist so you two can communicate better
2006-11-11 04:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this some kind of joke?
first your wife posts and then you?
come on
2006-11-11 04:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny. just get divorce
2006-11-11 05:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by Papilio paris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋