...feeling attracted to a co worker when you are already married? How do you avoid cheating on your spouse emotionally when you have an attractive co worker?
2006-11-10 20:32:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol ...I'm sorry I'm happily married my husband and I don't have this problem, but I know couples do.
I have my own opinions but wanted to hear other peoples opinions on this too. Thanks so much!
2006-11-10 20:38:00 · update #1
If you really love your spouse...and you care about your marital relationship you wouldn't have a problem doing the right thing. So to avoid it just do a reality check, and I think you know what to do.
2006-11-10 20:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by aloha76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There might be attraction from time to time but the best way to avoid that pitfall is for the spouse to meet that persons needs. If needs are going unmet then the other person will naturally try to fill them. Some people are naturally resistant to this but they are rare. Read "His Needs, Her Needs" and Dr. Phils book on relationships. They both spell out how the co-worker scenario is set by the spouse and can only be protected by the spouse of the one who is attracted to the coworker. This doesn't mean that a work affair is the spouses fault, but it does most likely mean that needs were not being met.
There are those that are never satisfied and will cheat regardless... these books won't help them.
2006-11-11 08:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mindlessfun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my personal opinion would be if a person was married and they had an emotional attraction to another person then they certainlt shouldnt tell the partner rather try and work it out for themselves i guess they could try just not talking to the person as much maybe that would help i really dont know sorry but if it happened to me and i hope that it never does i think i would just try and avoid them for a while get my head together or something perhaps
anyways if there is something wrong with being emotionally attracted to someone else and there is then just think about what you have and how lucky you are to have it and things should be ok for yas
2006-11-11 04:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy, just picture in your mind that he feels the same way towards another woman. Someone else other than you streams down his most inner thoughts. He desires to sleep with her and any given cost, yet hoping his wife will never find out.
His emotions burst with passion desiring and wondering what it would be like to have her just one time. Cheating emotionally dear is the beginning of death in a marriage. If you trully love, honor, and respect your husband, you will, cut any emotional string that lingers within you towards this co-worker . I'm sure you're a good person, so try to spark-up your relationship with your husband. It's worth it.
True love is hard to find, but sometimes it's so close to us that we're blind to it.
2006-11-11 04:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly Kisses 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid going out alone with your attractive co-worker.
2006-11-11 04:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cutebunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No big deal. You remember your commitment to your spouse and know that there are many people that will look and seem great, but think about what you have - it's (s/he) is all your's! NOT THE CO-WORKER!
2006-11-11 04:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by TAS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't help feeling attracted to the opposite sex, even if you're married. That's just how it is. But you can avoid temptation by not indulging in personal conversation with him.
2006-11-11 04:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by Leila G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't prevent feeling attracted, but you can prevent yourself from acting on those feelings. Resistence to temptation is what you need to practice and completely avoid any situations where the two of you are alone.
2006-11-11 04:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by salstick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with a little flirting at work if you both know it's not going anywhere. I don't think your cheating on him emotionaly, I would think it's kind of cool if my girlfriend flirted. You don't own somebody... You got to give each other a little space to enjoy life and other people's company. That's just my opinion.
2006-11-11 04:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Fireman T 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't give in to the temptation. Think about it is your marriage worth loosing for this attraction you have. I would except my feelings and try to move.
2006-11-11 04:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋