For me, it's the memories and flashbacks! I find myself remembering a long forgotten situation and it torments me. Christmas is lovely for kids but it's such a lonely time of year for some people, even when they are surrounded by company. I hate the way everyone suddenly becomes festive and starts being nice too! Why can't we be nice all year? It's also an excuse for bad behaviour due to alcohol. I know I will have to hide my emotions because I don't want to spoil it for my little boy but Christmas seems to remind me of everything I've gone through. Until I had a family, I ignored Christmas completely but I feel obligated to "be happy" at this time of year. I have to be super-organised or I would cave in emotionally. It's November but all the gifts are wrapped and everything is ready NOW. I wish Christmas wasn't socially "compulsory"! Am I the only one who feels this way?
2006-11-10 20:15:56 · 32 answers · asked by Pixxxie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No not at all-- Christmas is a time of reflection and Im still without my Mum and every year it gets harder but I also look on it as a magical time for my kids. I enjoy the cooking part, putting the 'bird' in the oven and cooking ever so slowly over night, and waking up to the smell xmas morning..
U are right about the fact that some people treat it as an excuse to get drunk but why-- they do it for 350 other days of the year. The idea that christmas is a speical time in some ways is spoilt by it being broadcast weeks too early and commercialised.
The least dread I always have is the expense but I always say If we can't adford it we cant have it and its as simple as that.
2006-11-10 20:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Scatty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that bothers me is where we spend Christmas Eve and Chritsmas night. We spend one at my parents and the other at my husband's parents and it always stresses us out trying to work it the right way round. We have decided to only buy children presents this year as that's what Christmas is all about, kids. Adults don't need things and I think people should be happy just to be together. I love the food, the games, the laughing but then you also get the moods from certain family members and that winds me up, like they're purposely trying to spoil things for everyone. I do have a 14 week old son now though and this will be our first Christams as parents so I'm excited. I hope you are able to put your past tourbles behind you and see each new Christmas as a time to move on and make them fun again for you and your son.
2006-11-10 20:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love christmas i am such a big kid, but then i've not had a bad one except the first year my parents split. I've had better many good times at christmas that out weigh the bad and it's a great time for family get together, however i dread the fact that i may have to work all afternoon on christmas as i'm in the health profession.
However i do really hope you have a great christmas for your sake and your sons. You don't say what it is you went through but well done you for trying to make it work best of luck hope all goes well.
2006-11-10 20:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated Christmas as a child because i never got any presents and my parents were always arguing and my dad always drunk.
I started loving Christmas after my son was born (20 years ago next week) and have loved it ever since.This year however i am dreading it as money is tight but my kids understand that and hopefully i will make it up to them soon .They will still get some things but not the usual spoiling i usually do.
2006-11-10 23:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds funny to u but here in Germany we dont do it like they do it in the us On Christmas eve around four we go to church come home eat and wait for the Christkind witch is a little angel that brings the presents my kids cant wait for the Christmas story I read every year. After that they open presents and they only get one we sing Christmas songs under Christmas tree. They dont get anything big because the meaning of Christmas is more important to us than the whole thing they make out of it!
2006-11-10 20:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tiny T 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dread the alcohol. Everyone having too much to drink and possibly messing up what should be a lovely family occasion. Such a worry about drink driving too, people may misjudge and be 'morning after' over the limit. Roll on second week in January when it's all over and we can get back to normal. Do I sound a bit 'bah humbug'?
2006-11-10 20:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by carnival queen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh...a kindred spirit. I feel exactly the same way as you. I hate the big build up, xmas starts in october....for craps sake!!! and it goes on and on and on, all of the adverts etc! The compulsory socialising makes me sick. I can enjoy myself all year round not just at xmas! But we have to get through it the best way we can. As you say, you have to be happy for your little boy. Why dont you treat yourself to something special. Try to let it go over your head, virtually ignore it, and just go into festive mode for your boy. Please dont become obsessed with the idea that you hate xmas, it will fester and eat you up. Accept it as the weird time of year when everyone goes silly. If you need some anti-xmas support in the coming weeks, let me know. We can slag off xmas to our hearts content! I wish you a happy new year when we get back to some sense of normality. Take care! :o) x
2006-11-10 22:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HATE trying to find parking at the mall around the holidays.
I'm sorry you have such bad memories of Christmas. Focus on you little boy and how excited he is, and let his good cheer spread to you.
I agree that people become festive around the holidays, but maybe try to embrace it instead of resent it?
Try baking sugar cookies with your son, and bring some to work. Spreading cheer to others often makes you cheerfull yourself.
I hope you can have a happy holiday season. If not, I hope it passes quickly for you.
2006-11-10 20:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by lilgiggle33 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have some bad memories of Christmas. My mother didn't always make the effort she could have on Christmas and I don't mean about presents and material stuff. I do things differently with my children and make it a proper family day and make sure they have a good days to look back on. Christmas is too commercialised and I agree its very false to be all nice for one day if you're incapable of doing so the rest of the year.
2006-11-10 22:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by TB 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dread every other Christmas, I split with my ex and every other year my kids go to him on Christmas Eve and I dont see them till Boxing Day - I hate it, I really miss them. I used to love Christmas but it has spoilt the whole experince for me. This year at least is my Christmas so trying to get into the spirit - going Christmas Shopping today in fact!
2006-11-10 20:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋