chooses a friend of the opposite sex that you do not approve of do you as a parent enter into conflict with them or do you discuss the issue in an open and friendly manner
2006-11-10 19:51:35 · 12 answers · asked by stefan 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You invite your teenagers friend to your house as often as possible and try to be a positive influence on the friend. By having them to your house, you can tell if you really should disapprove of the friend or not. If you say something negative about the friend, you will labeled as the old person who just doesn't know how things are today. By having the friend to your house and being kind towards the friend, you will look like the good guy in the eyes of your teenager and, if the friendship lasts more than a few weeks, you will be in a much stronger position to question certain aspects of the friend that you disapprove of.
2006-11-11 14:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss the issue in an open and friendly manner if you must.
If you don't approve of them make sure it's for the right reasons.
Have you even met their new friend?
If not, I suggest you do get to know them. They might not be as bad as you thought! Trust your kids decisions man!
But yes. Do be friendly. Conflict doesn't get anyone anywhere. Your kid DEFINITELY won't listen to you if you just go off at them straight away without discussing it first.
2006-11-11 03:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure, discuss in an open and friendly manner. Let them know where you stand but they have the final choice. If you are right it will come out eventually and take care of it self and you and your teenager will still be on speaking terms. It's better than having them sneak around you to see one another.
2006-11-11 03:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Donna C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i wish you provided more detail, like age and other friends, do his o her other friends like this person or is your teen ignoring other friends to be with this one.wow so many unanswered questions so hard to properly answer, my sons are now grown but i never told them how to dress or do their hair stuff like that but when it comes to friends and you have a concern that this person is affecting your child in a negative way just be honest with your teen and ask --do i have a concern-- and kinda double check about where they go if innocent or not so innocent then just watch, sometimes what looks like a scary friend is the most open hearted caring person.. something else i have done is had one of my sons friends (that kinda scared me ) over to dinner or to an outing we had just so i to could spend time with him to get a feel of what this person was about ..hope i helped a little Bye Deb
2006-11-11 05:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by deb s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to discuss, yelling and arguing works agains the parent. Call in aunts, uncles, neighbors, grandparents, anyone who the teen MIGHT listen to and have them help you explain what is so bad about the new friend. My folks had to do that with me before I could see one of my "cool" friends was trouble. A week after I decided to spend less time with him, he got arrested for stealing candy at a store. I might have been with him.......
2006-11-11 04:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny B Goode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to them in a friendly manner and strongly Discourage them because at teenage people learn in preparation to marriage not marry.
2006-11-11 03:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rozzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss in a friendly manner
2006-11-11 03:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by kalliste 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u don approve of ur teens friend, its ok!! try not 2 confront him/her! instead discuss it wit ur kid coolly in a friendly manner tryin 2 reason wit him/her y u don approve of d friend. lstn 2 wot he/she has 2 say n give their friendship a chance. let ur teen learn 2 make his/her choice of friends!! 'll help ur teen in d future 2 recognise ppl !!
2006-11-11 04:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend I like them. That way the relationship won't last long. Negative psychology
2006-11-11 03:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by Nemesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should suggest a better person or try to sort out the situation never force a teen to lke someone he doesn't. : )
2006-11-11 03:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by nicolas n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋