unable to have sex with my husband (first time) can't bear pain its so high, my hubby never force me to do because he loves me very much but i feel so gulity
from one week we trying hard but.......
2006-11-10 19:34:29 · 28 answers · asked by pmhelp 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Try to put some lubricant on the penis as well as the vagina.You might not had sex till date that is why it is so.Once it is ok then there wont be any more pain so go ahead and apply some force also.In the end you will enjoy.
2006-11-10 19:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by suchsi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl.. I completely understand ur position... Hmm u hubby doesn't force then the guilt feeling increases all the more!! Well y don't u consult a doctor.. and even before u consult.. try using some ky jelly or lubricants which are available in the market !!! I guess u need to go in for a longer foreplayy and ask ur hubby not to rush up with things!! Hope u r getting me to the point.. good luck and good time!!
2006-11-10 20:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by smashbabe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Answer becomes simple if u could have elaborated. Your Hubby Loves u , But Do U love him? There is a difference between having sex and making love. When one has sex it is just body. But when one makes love, it is body and mind. You need to set up the ambiance like a dimply lit living room , music and then start with foreplay . ensure u are totally aroused and fully prepared for the final event. Do not use any artificial lubrication. If u wish u could both watch a **** together and start slowly . Love Making is like Rahul Dravid Batting - Slow steady determination and long innings. Having sex is like Sehwag batting -- Wham,Bham Thank You Maam !!!!!!!!!! BE a Rahul Dravid fan and you would enjoy your love making to the maximum. All the very Best .
2006-11-11 17:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Aroon 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Possibly because there is no sexual attraction for you towards your husband? I would feel exactly the same if I did not fancy my husband. Believe me when you do love making is great and is something you both want and to be close to each other. See a Doctor and explain things and see what they can offer in sex therapy.
2016-03-17 06:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The vagina (the female organ in to which the male organ is penatrated in cohabition) of virgins (unmarried girls/women) is sealed with a natural seal. Naturally in the first intercourse this seal will break and allow penatration - which some times result in bleeding and pain. Or your hubby does not know the actual location of this vagina and he is trying to push in to the uteras. Try the act in darkness with out any light on and let him try to push his penis in to your organ holding it with his hand and pushing and simultaneous moving it up and down. I think this will work. This is also my first experience. I thought she has no vagina at all - and I am also new to this business. If this does not work get yourself examined by a Gynocologist. Wish u both all the marital happiness. God bless you.
2006-11-12 19:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by scr p 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you mean its your first time ever you need to go to the grocery store and get some K-Y jelly - it can be found around the tampons /feminine products - after he is hard put this on his penis and things will go along alot more smoothly - try not to be so scared and nervous this is supposed to be sweet and caring - if you relax your muscles down there will relax and it will be alot easier - also the more times you have sex the easier it will get
2006-11-10 19:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by kim 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to relax. When you are tense then you can feel it down there also. Like everyone else says, definately use lubricate. If the pain continues to be too great then you may need to go to the doctors.
2006-11-11 09:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by pyxiegyrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lubricate. If you aren't doint so naturally, find a remedy at the pharmacy or grocery store (lubricating jelly, just make sure it doesn't say "hot" anywhere). You should also see a doctor, you might be dry and that is why it hurts so much.
2006-11-10 23:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by *Jessy* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest seeing a Dr. You may have an infection of some sort that is not showing any symptoms. Better to have it looked at now before it gets serious. Good Luck.
2006-11-11 14:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by calebsmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to woory no need to feel guilt its natural for first timers
learn few basic things you cant have intercourse till have to be aroused ask him to lot of four play like kissing and hugging before doing intercourse
i hope every thing will be fine
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2006-11-11 02:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by cupiddear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋