I am a good girl and I fit in with the indian culture very well the only thing is i am white and my bf is afraid his family wont except me what Can i do I love him very much and we have been together for 3 almost 4 years I want to spend my life with him.
2006-11-10 19:16:54 · 25 answers · asked by kimsierra2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi Kim,
I'll be brief and to the point. If you do what I say, they will not only accept you but love you as well.
FIRST: Go and meet his parents. Go well covered. Be gentle with them. You will be bombarded with hundreds of questions, take them in your stride and answer them as nicely as you can. Since the parents would be worried about their son, that is why they would be bombarding you with quesitons, so have patience. The questions will stop after a couple of meetings.
SECOND: Your first meeting should be a lunch/dinner meeting. No matter what you acutally feel about it, praise his mothers cooking. Do it with all your energy. That will get you in her good books.
THIRD: In subtle ways, assure them that you like Indian culture very much and you will not 'steal' the Indian values from your bf. Indians in US are very senstive about their "indianness". So hammer the point subtly but positevly.
FOURTH: Be extra friendly with the kids and the elders of the family.
It may take a couple of meetings, the first meeting may be tense, but if you follow my advice, dont forget to post me your wedding invitation !
2006-11-10 23:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by Explore_Me 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is realy a tough for you to be an Indian Wife as you must have known gthat The Indians are well knitted Family even after the marriage. Many decisions are taken jointly You may not any free hands in the Indian family especially for a woman. So you may have to get this into your mind as other wise your married life won't be that easy. However if you patience for initial few years you will suceed and can become one of the strong member in the family in future. Best of Luck.
2006-11-10 22:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by Bala k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Iam sorry. And I know what you are going through. I am Mexican - American, and my boyfriend is South Indian. Iam Catholic, and of course he is Hindu. He is working on telling his parents about me (we have been together for only 9 months). What he did was he told his eldest sister about me, she advised him to wait until the after the middle sister is married (which is about less than 1 yr), and then he can tell his parents about me. Which is great for me, because by then I will be done with my degree. To help smooth things, we both try to learn about each other's culture as much as we can. He has already met my family, my father and sister love him. BUT my mother did not like him, simply because he is of Indian origin. She prefers that I marry someone of my culture and religion. It took her about 4 months to give in and give him a chance to get to know him. I am deeply in love with him. And him and I have also talked many times about how our families are going to accept our union. And we just love each other and support each other no matter what. Just have hope, you never know what can happen!!! Best of Luck!!!
2006-11-10 19:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by torgralori 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, there is no point in his being afraid of his parents. As an Indian, I can tell you, the parents will initially have apprehension. If they are convinced about the boy's feeling for a girl, they will relent. What you should ensure is whether your bf is good enough for you and whether he loves you as much as you do.
2006-11-10 19:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kim: Since you are already emotionally involved with your man it is very difficult for you to be objective enough to consider my answer to your question. First; you realize that a different culture is just that - a different culture? This translates into very trying times for you. You are not married yet to this man and already, you are feeling the "heat". BUT ... the perspective need be YOU are marrying him and he - you ... not the family ! His family can also, be used as an excuse for avoiding getting married, ( commitment). You have to decide - it's your future.
2006-11-10 19:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it could surely be exciting--a wreck from the common American Indian tale. The differing cultures extremely make it look exciting, and that i´d desire to be attentive to how they ended up together (the princess and the different considerable character), and how the tale seems. I´d study it.
2016-12-14 05:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All bloddy stories. do not beleive. He has been taking you for a ride all along. If he is mama boy,why did he love you in the first place and continued for 4 years. where was his family all along.
marriage union of two sincere souls nothing on this can break it,if it is true love.
2006-11-10 21:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by pitch 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At the end of the day, is he the only one your thinking about? Your in love with him and not his family..and it goes both ways. We live in a world were cultures and nationalities are growing in one big melting pot. Don't let this small little obsticle get in the way of your future dreams with the man your in love with.
2006-11-10 19:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by Amber K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If after spending 3 or 4 years with you he has doubts about the relationship then dump him.
2006-11-10 20:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just try to talk to his parents and be nice.....I know some indian people and the reason why they don't like white or black females is because they don't think you're cultured(lame i know!) and they just want you to have indian valules:-
respect elders
not be rude
decent
not flirt with other men(very imp)
also try to get to know them really well and ttry ....good luck!
2006-11-10 19:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by victoria 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋