hi i am just wondering wat everyone thinks about teenage pregnany. coz i know so many teenagers with baby's and i thinkin one way it isnt so good but in another it is kinda gwd because they r living up to thier responsabilities. they got pregnant coz they had sex and they kept the baby...... i reckon its a lot easier just to get pregnant and have a abortion then keep it. so i rekon we should give sum credit to sum of the teens. wat do you say????
2006-11-10 19:00:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
nope teen parents are still bad. they should abort the embryo so they can use their full potential to enriching their own life and that of their future children and family.
2006-11-10 19:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by tell me all!!! 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had my first child when I was 26, and I have absolutely no idea how anyone young could do it. None.
The responsiblity of raising another life is so momentus that I wondered if I had the maturity to cope with it. It turns out that my kids are happy, healthy and well adjusted. But I was also at a maturity level (not saying you have to be 26 to get that), where I was ready to compromise my lifestyle and wants for what is important to my children.
Those teenagers who keep the child, for the right reasons, have a great support network, and are coping are living up to their responsibilities. But times are going to get a whole lot tougher when they leave school, and have to face finding out who they are, what they want from life, trying to work out a career, and raising a child.
Teenagers are too young to have a good understanding of who they are as a person, no matter how mature they are. And this is where the term "babies raising babies" comes from. It is not having a go at teenage mothers, but understanding that they still have to find who they are and where they fit into the world.
There are some teenage mothers, who decide to keep the baby, that haven't taken the responsibility...and they should not be commended on their efforts....they should have adopted the baby out, or had an abortion. I remember being a teenager and thinking how cool it would be to have a baby...my friends did too...we were so against everything except keeping the baby, without having any true idea of what this meant. I believe that some teenage pregnant girls choose to keep there baby based on this, without thinking it through. Is that really taking responsibility?
Those who really weigh up all their options, discuss things with their parents, make sure they have some understanding of what they are in for...show that they do have the child's best interests at heart. That is what parenting is about.
2006-11-10 22:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how I feel about this....i was 18 when i had my first child....and ya it was hard and alot of work, i was not ready at all but i made the choice to have that baby. She is almost 4.....she also has a sister and a baby brother......I am now 23, married with 3 children ( the last 2 are his, he took on what my ex could not, he is a good man).I did not have some one ot keep my child so i could work so i relyed alot on my parents, and that helped. but sometimes no matter how old you are you will never be ready for that stress and hard work, not only that no one can ever have enough money to deal with all the things that come along with haveing kids. it did make me grow up and realize that i have to take care of another person (and on my own for a while) but i did it and got through it all.....it makes you a better person no matter what your age....you look at life differently after have a baby.
2006-11-10 19:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by babyrose26_2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 34 and my wife and I have our first child who is 10 months.
It is a joy and very fulfilling seeing that baby smiling at me in the morning, or making her laugh.
The bad thing is that I hardly sleep. I work 10 hours a day with an hour commute 1 way. 12 hours of my day is gone to work.
I watch the baby in the mornings and after noons until my parents can watch her about 8 hours. 20 hours of my day I am awake. I am LUCKY to get 4 hours of sleep and thats not good.
Can a teen be a parent? Sure. Is it better than abortion? Maybe.
I say that because it really depends on the person raising the child. If they want to be a parent and work at it then great. If they dont then abortion or adoption is best.
If they chose to be good parents why should they get any more credit than I get? If you want to act like an adult and have sex then you are expected to act like an adult and deal with the consequences.
2006-11-10 19:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am 19 years old and i have a 17 month old daughter and in some situations teenage pregnancy isn't a good thing because the people involved but it all depends on the girl that is pregnant and the father of the baby. if the girl is an immature little girl than shes not ready to be a mom but if she has her priorities in line, it doesn't matter when you get pregnant, any child is a gift from God. i wouldn't trade a single day i have with my daughter for anything, she is my world. my life would be different if i wouldnt have gotten pregnant but everything happens for a reason.
2006-11-10 19:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by girl_from_da_south87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck yes teen parents should get alot of respect... i think becuz yeah they did give up everything fun most teens experince. i got pregnant at 15. i dont get to go out much any more, i will never get to go to prom becuz im in homeschool, i dont party... im making my life better so my son will have a good life. im doing important things so i can go to college and make money to buy him anything he would ever want. i think its wrong to get the "easy" way out and have an abortion cuz a teens wants to party and what not. its taking a childs life away and if you go out and get pregnant i think that child sould be what you live for even if your young or not. and i guess if u dont want a baby dont have sex and if u have sex you ALWAYS runt he risk of becoming pregnant. i also think single moms sould get alot of respect, its hard to go to school and take care of a baby and if u dont have support from family you have to have a job.... its very tuff. but like i said if you get pregnant there is no reason to be lazy and get an abortion. its just sick.... anyone at a young age CAN do it, yeah it will be hard but it can be done.
2006-11-10 19:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am 18 and i have a 2 year old little girl... i wouldn't give her up for the world.. i have to admit its hard i cant go out when i want but when i wake up and see that smiling face i know i had her for a reason...she completed my life.... the only problem i really have is her dad and i didn't work out and he isn't mature enough and thinks everything is a game. but i cant really say i regret anything in fact i am trying for another baby right now because i may be young but i want to start my family and settle down and be a good mother.. some people say that when your young you don't have the maturity to put another life before your own well that's a lot of bull because my child is my number one priority every choice i make is based on how it will effect my child not how it will effect me. i know a few teens that have aborted their baby's and regret it. i think hey if you think your grown up enough to spread your legs take care of the things that come out of it. its not that baby's fault we think that it wont happen to us. well that's my point of view..
2006-11-10 19:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by dream_angel113004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. So many teenage women have abortions but continue to have unprotected sex like they wont get pregnant again.And for some teenagers, being parents make you mature faster because at that point you have no choice, they have to make a good example for their own children so im guessing they give up alot of their old ways.
2006-11-10 19:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by champagne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I give them credit for not having a abortion, but I think the baby would most always have had a better life if put up for adoption. I know alot of people won't agree but there is something to be said for a stable home w/ stble financial situation.
2006-11-10 19:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a teenage parent, I'm 20 and pregnant with my third child now. Yes, I was irresponsible, but my kids are healthy, happy, smart, beautiful, and well behaved. I like to think that I had something to do with that. They are the best things that ever happened to me and although I considered adoption (abortion is out the question for me, I consider it murder), i opted to keep my baby. I'm so glad that I did, too. The only thing I worry about constantly is being hypocritical when my kids are teens and I'm telling them not to have sex. I don't want to use the whole "look what happened to me" speech because I don't ever want them to think they they are unwanted or that they ruined my life. They are actually what saved my life, but that's not a good arguement to use in 13 years.
2006-11-10 19:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kallie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are many teens that have become mothers and are doing a fine job of taking care of their babies.Finishing school is one of the best ways to be a better parent!i also believe the father of the baby should be very involved in taking care of the baby's needs too
2006-11-10 19:11:42 · answer #11 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋