she 5 weeks and says alot of diffrent things about it and i try to re-a-sure her and now i dont know what to do. how can i say it will be ok if she haves the baby any more if it will make her depressed to have a child right now. I STRONGLY DISAGREE WITH ABORTION I THINK THAY ARE LEAGLE MURDER OF A CHILD!!!!!!!!!! What can i do or say to her???????
2006-11-10 18:58:33 · 10 answers · asked by Lil_Ron 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
reassure her that you will be there every step along the way....let her know that you want this baby because it was made out of love. tell her that a baby is amazing and its only normal for her to have 2nd thoughts because she knows her life will change but tell her not to worry a baby is the greatest gift from god and he wouldn't give her something she couldn't handle..
2006-11-10 20:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by dream_angel113004 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am 56 years old and I have never met a woman who didn't regret their decision. They lived with the loss for the rest of their lives. Even men go through grief. I have a 52 yr old friend who back in high school gave his girlfrind money to get an abortion. Eventually he had two daughters. To this day he grieves the lost of his first child. It could of been his son and if it were a daughter he still felt a huge loss.
Some women have some tissue damage during an abortion and they can never have a child the rest of their life.
At 5 weeks your baby is a little person. It isn't a mass of cells. Even when it was just a mass of cells it was the growth of a person. A person who is half you and half of her.
If you strongly disagree with her......then you can get a court order to stop the abortion. You are the father and you have rights too.
If you two are too young to raise a child, there are plenties of families that can't have children and are waiting to be parents.
I personally have a daughter that I adopted when she was born. She is the love of my life.
Truely if she isn't ready for a baby, some dads even though they are young they raise the child.
There are options beyond abortion. Remember this is YOUR child too. YOU have choices. Your girlfriend has lots of hormones ragging in her body and is making her moody.
I agree with you......she will regret her decision someday. The moment a child is concieved to me it is a human.
Actually I am prochoice but I am more pro life. And life must be chosen over just sluffing out a baby who has a heart and a soul and never asked to be born or illiminated right off
2006-11-10 19:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always a bit of a sceptic. First of all have you seen the medical evidence she is pregnant???
Then, if you've gotten proof, there's a variety of options. If you love your girl and are ready to be a parent, propose to her. She's probably feeling very scared. You didn't say how old you both are, but probably your parents will support you if you have a plan.
If you're not ready for marriage and parenthood, there is always the option of adoption. Many good families want children and can't get pregnant.
Finally emotional counseling could also be part of your plans, perhaps for both of you together. That way you get to talk this out with an understanding person to help you. Most mental health centers have sliding rates so it doesn't cost alot.
There is alot you can do, and taking responsibility is a great first step. Good luck!
2006-11-10 19:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by imask8r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go to www.liveprayer.com and silentscream (i don't know if silentscream is .com or .org because I'm at work and can't look it up) but these have videos etc of real abortions and explains how abortions are performed - hopefully these sites will make her too sick to get an abortion - the only way someone could go through with an abortion after looking at these if if they really never needed to ever have a child ever! Also you could go to a family planning place and get brochures on adoption etc...
2006-11-10 19:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone who will be able to help you, maybe a parent or aunt, or a teacher. They can get you info on the legalities of this situation. They will tell you to get her to a doctor, don't you want to know if she's really pregnant? With young women, they sometimes don't know for sure. Then they will talk about your options, and the outcomes of your possible decision. I hate to tell you this, but I believe that in all states the pregnant women can abort if she wants to, no one can legally stop her. I am not sure, so make sure you talk to someone who can find out this info for you.
2006-11-10 19:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Memphis qt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it looks like your going to be a daddy! you just have to work through this together! when i first got pregnant with my beautiful son i dont often talk about htis but my partner wanted me to have an abortion there was no way that was even going to happen with me so i told him where to shove it and i siad i would do it alone i didnt talk to him for about a week then he came round said he was really sorry and he did want the baby and to stay with me we are now on baby number 2! hope i helped x
2006-11-10 19:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by mummy of 2 boys and a princess x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you should be responsible for what both of you have done. you should take good care of the baby, because you two are the ones who made it. you should not commit abortion because it means you are gonna kill your own child. can your conscience take that? you'll kill an innocent kid.
both of you should take your own responsiblity on everything that both of you had than. no matter what happens. believe in carma and have faith in god.
you two should accept what ever the consiquences of your actions. no matter what.
marry her, raise the kid, and always love each other.
as long as you have each other you can do anything you need to do.
2006-11-10 19:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by sharingan_raff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to have the baby because it is part of you and her and that you will take the baby and raise it and if she ever wants to see the baby you will be more than happy to let her and just so you know after she feels the baby move inside of her i highly doubt she will want to give the baby up i have 3 kids and it was one of the most wonderful experiences feeling a life growing inside of me and for most women it is that way well good luck
2006-11-10 19:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by teresak713 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you to marry her and give your child a good start in life! If you love her you should consider marrying her! You have to read between the lines to know what she's not saying!
2006-11-10 19:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, marry her?
2006-11-10 19:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋