How Can You not Judge Someone?

Question

I find it so hard to not judge people, and its like God.. please help me to not judge people, because that can truly determine your friends... and its hard, because I don't want to judge them or think bad about them..
I really want to be a very good friend.. i truly do...
ANy thoughts? Comments?

Answer 1

I have been trying that too lately. Actually, that was my new year's rez for '05. and so far, i've been doing pretty good (if i can say so myself) The way i do it is, when i see somebody, whether i know them or not, as soon as my mind starts picking out what's wrong with that person and making assumptions and such, i stop it. and immediately start looking at the good. For example. I met this woman i think like last friday or so, and i promise you, she looks like a man, but when that first thought came to my mind, i told myself, "nope" and i started looking at her and trying to think stuff like, "well, those shoes are nice" and that's pretty much what i have been doing these past....WOW! it's been two years! Just give it a try, and if that don't work, another trick i do, if i really can't see anything nice, i look down at my own self, and insted of thinking about that other person, i think to myself, "what are people assuming about me?" and as my mind wonders into what people might be saying behind my back, i slowly start forgetting anything that might pop into my head about the other person. But hey, i won't lie, it ain't easy. But at least you are giving it an effort! Good Luck!

Answer 2

take a look at the person in the mirror!

ask yourself what others may be thinking about you.. then you can spend some time judging yourself before moving on to others..

Answer 3

Just think to yourself everytime you start to judge a person, "What if they might have a dieing family member" Then the sorrow will override the judgemental side of you.

Answer 4

judge others as you would want to be judged