She cheated (blatantly telling me all about the guy)on me, she wanted the divorce, I am better when I don't talk to her. why must she force the contact when it is not necessary. She spent 2 months convincing me to leave. BPD?
2006-11-10 18:10:29 · 16 answers · asked by Johnboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Short and sweet answer: She doesn't want you but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either.
Longer answer: She is starting to realize that she may have thrown away something good. She's starting to think holy s*** maybe this was a stupid idea. And as long as you're happy with the end result go on with your life. Go out there and find yourself someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and don't look back. Also, as hard as it may seem don't label all women as cheaters, that will only make it harder on yourself to find someone and move on.
2006-11-10 18:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by mthcowgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she'd just wanted you to get jealous...If you do love her, you shall make her feel she's your everything and do sweet stuffs and get her back and tell her that you don't like arguing with her or any divorces. It is pretty obvious that she's still loving you (by calling and emailing you...just to see how you doing and what you think about her) otherwise women don't do that when they are all fed up after a marriage. I've kinda been through this, not to deal with marriage, but boy/girlfriends, but I always want to make my bf jealous, because I want him to care MORE for me, but he didn't understand that, didnt do that. And we argued alot, then I said I wanted a breakup, he was surprised at first, but then he accepted it. Later on(now) i realised I shouldnt have done that and I want him back, I told him about how I feel but he said he had thought enough of it and he doesnt what to talk about arguments anymore and it would be better if we are only friends, but Im still loving him and still want to know what he was thinking about me/does he want to get back or what, thats why I kept on calling him on messenger, texting or sometimes calls, just hoping to hear he says "I really want you back!"But till now he didnt say that so yeah I moved on. Do you still love her? IF you are not sure about your feelings then here is my advice, You said you are better when you don't talk to her, this means that you are somehow still having some feelings for her. Just identify what type are these feelings in, are they love? or are they obsessing you of talking to her?
2006-11-11 08:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by ABZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it that you are already divorced. Some women have their heads screwed up. This type is always trouble as they only think of themselves and try to be in control of others' lives. Delete all her emails w/o reading and ask her FIRMLY like you mean it to stop it. A very good solution would be to have a new girlfriend. As long as you are still available, you make a nice target and she figures that she knows all your "push" buttons.
2006-11-11 02:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhhh, she wants you back. here, there are two sides to this, 1) She possibly has realized her mistakes and wants to make up with you and genuinely settle her differences with you or 2) She's a selfish one that thinks everything revolves around her and is wanting to come back to possibly break your heart all over. Now the choice is yours and you should follow your heart. You either take her back or tell her point blank to let you be. My suggestion, for your own peace of mind, if you decide not to be back with her, at least make up and you'll feel more at peace with yourself. Trust me that feeling is so much better than the feeling of bearing grudges. Good luck!
2006-11-11 02:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by good girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes missing you, she misses what you guys had together, the only reason she would need to contact you, is if you guys had children together, other then that no reason too, unless she was some weekend booty, i suggest, changing your number, so that she will get the hint, you can also block her e-mail as well.
2006-11-11 02:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she See's that the grass is not any greener on the other side .and she wants to keep you around to run back to you when the going gets to tough for her. you say you are better without her . and you are right . you don't deserve this kind of woman in your life . tell her to get lost and don't be nice about telling her. good luck
2006-11-11 02:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you are familiar. You are the only one that knows how she really is and will tolerate her. She probably regrets all that she's done to you and wishes you would still love her, but not obligate herself to only you. Be nice and she'll move on eventually.
2006-11-11 02:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she realizes,she made a mistake. You answered, your own question, when you said, your better not talking to her.
2006-11-11 02:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by tinamaries43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did she cheat? Emotional or sexual reasons? If emotional, then you two must've had emotional issues in the relationship.
If she cheated due to sexual reasons, then she craves sex badly and can't control her urges.
2006-11-11 02:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she,s nuts in my opion and wants you to come back dont i have been thee pal and once they cheatee you had the sence like me to divorce her good luck and find a woman who has morals. ? it wont stop. once this happens it will happen again. fact. my opion ? ref, been there and divorced her over it myself. in .2003.///
2006-11-11 03:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋