she knows, he stays out all night and quit his job she wants to leave but is stuck she still loves him how can i help? she wants to work it out but he says he needs time .HELP
2006-11-10 18:09:17 · 15 answers · asked by misty k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
misty: Your friend is married to an abuser (emotional) and feels, that if she hangs around for him ... that he'll change ! You will have to just stand by and wait for her to have as much exposure to the pain from the problem, that she will eventually have had enough and dump him. Remember; life is a learning experience and most of the time, pain is its "teacher". Most people live and learn; whereas, some live ... anyways !
2006-11-10 18:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's wearing love goggles. There is nothing you can do to clear her vision. Soon enough she'll come to her senses and the two of you will look back on this situation and laugh.
The only suggestion that might work is a type of intervention lead by you. Ask her other friends, her family and anyone else who cares about her to join you. What's the worst that could happen. But don't be upset if it doesn't work. She has to get through this one herself.
Good luck and take care.
2006-11-11 02:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a complex situation. Let then handle it on their own, three will be a crowd.
Sometimes men want somespace and especially if he wife nags the man. Cheating des not start overnight, it is a process. The man is stressed, conversation at home is one sided, sex is denied, happiness dissapears, the man will look for any man who will listen...
Does he love her, I believe he does, but there are some changes that need to be made.
2006-11-11 02:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your a great friend and all you can do is be there for her and comfort her when she needs you. I also think that she should leave him, but I know that she loves him and can't seem to pull herself away from him, but that would be the best thing for her to do right now. She needs time to think and get over what he is doing to her. She deserves better from a man who claims to love her.
2006-11-11 02:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by rach 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No one is ever stuck in a relationship unless they want to be. She has to be strong and believe in herself. She will never know the pride in standing up for herself if she lets him walk all over her. So stand by her and help her. She will do it right.
2006-11-11 05:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by imthemomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one, but have you tried approaching "the other woman" and telling her about your friend and see if you can dampen his fun from the other end. meanwhile try setting your friend up with someone who will treat her right. this is more self esteem , or fear of being alone than love. just remember that you are her friend and friends , no matter how hard things get, never give up on each other!!!!
2006-11-11 02:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by russ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She won't do what you want her to...it has to get so bad that she wants to leave. When she hits bottom just be there to help her up and onward in life. Just be her friend when she needs one.
2006-11-11 02:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by wisehahn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business, even though you care about her so much. This is her relationship and her life, and you have to respect that. If it gets to be too hard for you to watch her self-destruct, you may have to distance yourself from her for a while, but make sure she knows you love her and are there for her.
2006-11-11 02:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well she needs to get out! she cant stay with him, and what u can do is just try and make her forget about him, spend alot of time with her, ive just recently experience my best friend be dumped by her bf and all i did was hang out with her alot to try and get her over him, and it worked! so keep her occupied and make her forget about that ********!!!
hope it helps :)
2006-11-11 02:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by Ashlea S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest stay out of it .She has to see for herself and get sick of his mess.When someone is in love they are blind so no matter what you say she will stand by him even though he is a sorry man..
2006-11-11 02:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by dat_gurl01 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋