my friend is tempted to have sex. i've told her many times not to but she still wants to. she's kinda of a slut. she french kisses guys and has some hickeys. i'm really worried about her. we're only thirteen and and in 8th grade. what should i do!?
2006-11-10 17:37:45 · 14 answers · asked by (Beautiful Disaster) 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well sweetie. Sex is a good thing once our bodys mature enough to make the most of it. BUT until you are both older it is really just a let down or a way to feel "grown up". You may even decide YOU HATE sex or feel used by a guy because he will have a better time than you.
2006-11-10 17:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by dbzgalaxy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her folks, seriously! Besides it being totally dangerous for a 13 year old to have sex, it is also Illegal! Kudos to you, though, for trying to abstain at this age--keep it up!! Your friend, however, needs to keeps her pants on. She will expose her partner to a lenghty jail sentence for Statutory Rape (as you might know, regardless if she consents to it or not, at 13, she is considered legally too young to do so), and, if she has already had sex, she will also expose any/all new partners to the old partners she has already had--and any diseases they might be carrying!! So, should she continue this approach, she will be in for the triple whammy on this--diseases, arrest (for her partner), and pregnancy. She needs to re-examine her self esteem (it's obviously low to think of this), and consider that she's too important to someone to throw it all away for fleeting pleasures! Good luck!
2006-11-10 18:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, we have no control over our friends actions. I think you have done quite a bit in trying to convincing her not to. If you are really worried about it, you might say something to her parents. I know that it may seem like ratting on her, or going behind her back or something, but if it helps change her mind, it might be worth a shot. Good luck! (btw, very mature of you to know that you aren't ready for sex yet! YAY you!)
2006-11-10 17:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you that you are concerned about your friend and that you too are not caving to such irreversible decisions. Your friend sounds like, if she can not listen to her friend then she is not going to listen to anybody else. I would try talking to her again and if she doesn't seem to listen, I would talk to your mom and see if there is something she can help you out with. Maybe she could talk with her mother and she could get the help she needs before she makes such a dreadful mistake.
2006-11-10 17:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have talked with her and it has done nothing. Talk to your mom.
Its a talk that both you and her need at this point in time. She will have advice on how to deal with your friend and may help in other ways as well. (not like calling her parents, more like having your friend over more, so that more of "you" can rub off on her)
2006-11-11 03:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's awesome that you're worrying about this friend & the kinds of things she's doing. i'm your exact age and in your grade, and there's this girl in my class who's always sleeping around and fits into the category of your friend, that she has hickeys & stuff.
unfortunately, her friends never care about what she's doing & don't tell her anything.
i think you should tell her exactly what you wrote on here. tell her you really care about her and you worry about the types of actions she's doing.
2006-11-10 20:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by babyloveee92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend you are worried about her 'casual ways', and if she is having sex, make sure you tell her to use protection (a condom!!). If you feel she is in danger, you should tell your parents and let them decide if her parents should be contacted. You're mature beyond your years, I pray that you continue to use that gray matter between your ears!! Good luck!
2006-11-10 17:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should tell her to look on this site and see how many girls her age get pregnant. Also, if your mother & hers are friends tell your mom, maybe your mom can talk to hers. Her mom may be able to talk some sense into her daughter & abit of self respect. I am glad to hear you are not supporting her in her quest
2006-11-10 17:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email her mom with a different ID and dont tell her but remember truth will always come to the surface
2006-11-10 17:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by kbyoisda1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a very good friend, but lets face it she seems like she will do what she wants, she will need you eventually, if this is the way she wants to carry herself, your right to be worried about her, but if talking to her doesnt help there is not much you could do, telling on her will just make your friendship worse, and please dont follow her footsteps, good luck
2006-11-11 00:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by walmartshopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋