I have been married to my husband for 7 &1/2 years and we have been 2-gether for 10. when we met he was 21 and I was 15. He had a girlfriend at the time, but we had sex anyway and we have been 2-gether ever since. He told me that he had never been with anyone besides her and me. My question is, would you believe it? I didn't know he was still with her when we got together because he said they had spit, but they hadn't. so if he cheated on her.... PLZ HELP!!
2006-11-10 17:31:22 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I AM NOT INSECURE AND I DON'T WANT TO BE A TURN TO "YOU" ANYHOW
2006-11-10 17:38:24 · update #1
It isn't like I have never questioned this before but hello people there wasn't a YAHOO ANSWERS back when all of this was going on or did all of you forget that??!!
THAT IS WHY I AM ASKING NOW!!
2006-11-10 17:44:12 · update #2
Honey let me tell you something . it does not matter what he did before he married you .what is done is done and the past should be the past . what you need to worry about is your future with your hubby . thinking about this stuff in his past will only make you crazy . i know because when i first married my hubby , i was like you wondering who he had sex with before me and i would ask him and not believe his answer. but one day i decided it did not matter to me anymore because i am the woman he choose to marry and spend his life with . and the same goes for you , your hubby married you and that's all that should matter to you . and until he gives you reason to not trust him or believe in him , then you keep on believing and trusting him . good luck sweetie
2006-11-10 17:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have'nt mentioned whether u have children. Any way, love him and make him understand that u really care for him. Never give him an impression that u r too much dependent on him. Men take advantage of such women. Try to build such a relationship where u both open ur soul to each other. Never judge ur husband for what he had done b4. If u feel he is confused, ask his problems. Never be too self oriented. Put urself in his shoes. Just imagine how ur life would be if he start to suspect u for a change. Don't b disappointed, every marriage has its own ups and downs. Find out a solution urself.
2006-11-10 18:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by kaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a difficult time believing that a 21 year old guy only had sex with 2 girls. How long had he been with the other girl when you met him? If they had been together since they were both 12 I may believe him, otherwise he must have been with other girls at some time in his life.
2006-11-10 17:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, your issue isn't a lot being concerned about what he does, that is the way you worry being on my own. This worry is controlling your existence and barriers the options you should being satisfied, loved and revered. Your husband has of route used your worry and neediness to his income and interior of him has been a growing disrespect for you. the way you get inner potential to face your fears is to first get treatment that you'll artwork on your self. you're crying out to be loved and the youngster interior of you desires you to be solid. From what you wrote, you're prepared to set your delight aside as a fee to not being on my own. about his texting females, no matter if or not they're co-workers or not could not be the priority. the point is, no married guy must be secretly texting any woman. upward push up for your self. in case you do not no human being esle will. solid success to you!
2016-11-29 00:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it appears he cheated on her long before he cheated on you. His cheating on you now is actually something old because he was still with her. True you are married but he claims he was with her then. Now he could be lying in which case he will have to tell you the truth sooner or later. Anyways, that is a tricky one, but its leaning toward a lie to me. You never know though.
2006-11-10 17:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has not done any thing why doubt him? You have a real bad problem here. You have both grown up a lot since you were kids. If you can not get over this suspicion then see a therapist. You will ruin your marriage. If he thinks that you do not trust him, then he may cheat on you just for that reason . "Might as well cheat, she already thinks I do anyway." And my dear, it will be your fault for not growing up!
2006-11-10 17:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter after 7&1/2 years unless you think he is cheating on you? Do you? If you have reason to believe that he is cheating now, he probably is.
2006-11-10 17:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Donna J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes full of sh**. i am sure that if you didnt know about the other girl he would say you were the only one he had been with too. Dont believe him.... and what is a 21 yr old doing with a 15 yr old anyway.... thats pretty nasty even if you are still together....
why are you just now questioning this anyway?
2006-11-10 17:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together for 10 years, now is not the time to question it. Don't cause yourself undo worry over this- it is not going to get you anywhere. You've got him, and if you want to keep him, let this sleeping dog lie.
2006-11-10 18:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's several years late to be asking this question. Don't begin to imagine problems where none may exist. If you are looking for a reason to break up, don't dig up something this old to use.
2006-11-10 17:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋