its always like you do a lot for them even more complicated things and they always say" What did you do for us?", i dont know what to do i love my wife so much but they cotrol our life through her because she is attached to them so much, mu father in law calls me liar,idiot etc, and i am always there helping them,i feel so unsuported having inmind that i dont have nobody here in U.S from my family, my wife she always fights with me for them like i am garbagge, please help?
2006-11-10 17:22:55 · 9 answers · asked by Eddy D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
whatever you do...dont make it come to "its me or them"...that wouldnt be fair....explain to her that you feel the both of you need to spend more time together....alone and away from her parents....tell her that you feel suffocated by them and that you feel they run your relationship and that they are running it into the ground in doing the things that they do......its hard when you feel you do everything you can and yet you get no regonization with it! you need to explain to your wife without arguing that her parents need to let her take control of her marriage and stop listening to them as much!
talking about it...without arguing will b the best solution to your awkward problem!
good luck xx
2006-11-10 21:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try telling her how you feel and that you feel second best to her family. Maybe she's scared of them and needs you to protect her from them? When she married you, she must have seen something in you that she respected and by letting her family treat you like this, she's going back on her vows.
If she's not prepared to listen to you, maybe you need to think about leaving as the longer you stay there, the more it's going to get you down. When you're in a relationship, there should always be mutual respect and if this isn't happening, it's time to get out before it goes out of control and starts to affect you.
2006-11-10 17:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by kpk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sir if you want to have some respect to yourself and to your in laws, and if you want to be happy in your marriage, then you should talk to your wife and tell to her that things are very unfair for you..Because if you do not, time will come that your in laws and your wife also would not respect you and your marriage will end up..In laws tend to be like that, so annoying and telling harsh word to you because they dont like you (am i right?), all of the husbands of their daughters are not the type of these parents because they dont want to their daughters to go in a relationship (just like my mother). So you see if want to save your marriage then talk to your wife and explain to her your feelings about this things. If she never understands you then you know what to do- give some space for the both of you, you can go somewhere or in your family's place so could think also, both of you, of what is the best thing to do in your marriage.Or have your own house, dont stay with your inlaws, to give your marriage a good life.You are the man, you should be the one who will be respected because you are the head of your family.Your wife should not be like that.
2006-11-10 17:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow they don't sound like a very nice brunch of people, and your wife will she stick up for you, you are her husband, if i was you i would not hang around to be treated like trash, because i am sure that you are not, either that or you need to start sticking up for your self, and start telling your wife, how you feel and that you are not going to put up with it any longer, so good luck and god bless, i sure hope that things will improve for you cheers
2006-11-10 18:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife how you feel.
Ask her to visit them alone & to tell them not to contact her on days when you want her all to yourself. In a marriage there can only be 2 people. Her family sound very possessive & controlling.
2006-11-10 20:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE IN A DIFFICULT SITUATION, WHY DONT YOU STOP HELPING THEM SO MUCH,SEE IF THAT WORKS,THEY MIGHT RELIES HOW MUCH YOU DO FOR THEM . AS FOR YOUR WIFE, SHE SHOULD REALY SUPPORT YOU, BUT YOU MUST TRY AND NOT SAY TOO MUCH ABOUT HER FAMILY, THAT WILL ONLY MAKE HER STAND UP FOR THEM MORE. SHAME YOU CANT MOVE AWAY FROM HER FAMILY.HOPE THINGS WORK OUT FOR YOU ,GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-10 20:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by aunty m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your wife that her family make you feel so bad that you cant be around them anymore.its not good for your mental health.get her to read these answers .we cant all be wrong.
2006-11-10 21:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by kim m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid them by working at the times she visits them
2006-11-10 17:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by q6656303 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU FEEL UNAPPRECIATED AND THEY ARE CONTROLLING YOUR LIFE, SIT DOWN WITH YOUR WIFE AND DISCUSS THIS WITH HER. LET HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. IF THINGS DON'T CHANGE, LEAVE.
2006-11-10 17:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋