Is it weird that I dont have any friends at all?

Question

Im 21 years old and sort of a goody goody. Everyone usually has at least one good friend they can talk to and hang out with but I have no friends. Im not a mean person or anything, maybe im too nice...? People walk all over me because I dont stick up for myself. Is it weird to be at this age and just have no friends at all? Is there something wrong with me?

Answer 1

No there is nothing wrong with you. The meek shall inherit the earth.

Answer 2

I am also 21 years old and have no friends per se. I could similarily be called a "goody-goody", but I see myself more as focused on my school and career goals (I also just moved to a new part of the country), and less focused on activities like hanging out in bars, where is a good place to meet a lot of people, and you could get a lot of "friends", but most of these relationships are superficial anyway, and in my opinion, there is something wrong with that and that culture, not something wrong with you.
I think the questions you ned to be asking yourself are: do you want friends, and if so, what kind of friends do you want? It is also important to have someone to talk to about different parts of your life, but that could be a family member, a coworker, or different professionals, i.e. a school consulor.
If you are happy and content with how things are going, then great. If you are disatisfied, then figure out how to change things. If you think you don't have any friends because you are too nice, then change that and stick up for yourself! I know that is much tougher said than done, but it can help if you list out specific goal, and recognize specific behaviors that need to change. Telling someone else (a trusted family member maybe?) your goals, as well as regularly reaffirming your goals to yourself help you to be accountable for change.
Then, if you want to make friends, a great place to do it is to join some kind of group or activity that you enjoy. There you will be able to find like-minded people.
Remember though, finding good, genuine friends takes time and is tough to do! Don't feel bad about being critical of how people treat you...there are pleanty of people out there, you don't need to spend your time on those who want to use you.
I hope this helps, and all the best!

Answer 3

all these people want to be all goody goody and say there's nothing wrong with you, but there is. You've isolated yourself this long (21 no friends) and your life is not getting any longer. As time goes by, your opportunity to develope good lasting friendships will diminish exponentially(spellchk). The longer you know a person, the more years you grow together, the better the friend that person will become. For instance, i will probably never go out and tp(toilet paper) the neighborhood again, but it was a fun time in my life where i got to be silly with my friends. That time period is gone, but my friends and i have good memories such as these together. Its not too late, but it's getting there. Go out and make friends or you will regret your life. Make some memories you can reminsce about with other people.

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with you, in fact, you sound like a really nice person to me, a lot like my daughter in fact who is also 21. She also has been called a goody goody but she has her own ideals and goals in life and doesn't let anything interfere with them. She is graduating college in May and will be teaching and pursuing her Master's. You know honey, if you have one really good friend during your life consider yourself lucky. Don't let people walk over you, yes, stick up for yourself. I'm an old person, probably as old as your mother, but I love to talk to people and would consider you a friend if you would like to E mail me. I also have another daughter who is 20 and in college studying Occupational Therapy and pursuing her doctorate eventually. We are very close and they tell me I am a fun Mom so if you want to talk sometime give me a hollar. Remember you're a great person.

Answer 5

Stick up for yourself and be confident. I know what you're going through. In middle school and my first year of high school I didn't had any friends that I could count on, but I learn how to be myself and not act like the person everyone wants me to be. You just gotta know who you are as a human being and not let anyone put you down. If you don't stick up for yourself right now then imagine yourself when you are 45 and still have no friends. Love yourself and cherish yourself. When other people see how confident you are as a individual they'll be drawn to you and want to be right by your side. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

I was the same way at 21 with no friends. It wasnt until I was about 24 or 25 that I started to really make friends. More so at my church and thru reconnecting with people. But the one thing making friends is it helped me to stick up for my self and helped me to not be so nice since not everybody will be nice to people

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong wih you honey. There are people who are very selective in their friends and that is a good thing. You have done a good thing and I will tell you why.

The people around you determine who you are and what you will be, so choose your friends wisely, the kind you want to be like. If they can't stick to where you are, you are probably too good for them, and there is nothing wrong with that, just dont trade your goodness for their ineptude just to be accepted.

Answer 8

there's absolutely nothing wrong w/ u

in fact,i'm the same way,except i'm not 21

i have no friends,but that's becuz they see me as a rug rather than a friend-something to wipe their feet on when it gets dirty

ur going to HAVE to start sticking up for urself,or people will only see u as they saw me

remember that ur too good of a person to take junk off someone

Answer 9

No. You are a good person and deserve to have good true friends and that takes time there are not that many true genuine people out there. Take your time you don't need anyone in your life that's gonna take advantage of you. Pray about it and God will sent the right people in your life.

Answer 10

I don't think anything is wrong with you. i don't really have any friends. It sucks sometimes but you just have to find hobbies and interests to keep busy. But no nothing is wrong with you...people are different these days.