I have no idea why but i just found out my cousin whom im close to is 5 mths pregnant and i want it to. im only 19 and i know i cant handle it but... i dont see the big deal i have a bf who loves me and i plan on marrying and he plans on marrying me. is it so wrong ot want?
2006-11-10 16:56:48 · 10 answers · asked by intolerablethirst 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know that im young and i know that babies are alot of work. i dont just want the good stuff i want it all. dirt diapers and more. i dont have to be married to have a child. ill be done with my *** degree in 2 semesters.
2006-11-10 17:57:44 · update #1
my bf is 25
2006-11-10 17:58:13 · update #2
You know I was 19 when I had my first and 20 when I had my second......just wait!!!!
If I would have gone to college ...maybe I would own a house ...maybe I would have had a better career. Just because your relationship with your b/f is good now doesn't mean it will stay that way once the pressures of parenting are slapping you in the face!!!
I have been a parent now for 13 years....and I've done a pretty good job...but there is so much more I'd like to do for my children that I really can't do now!!!
besides ....be true to yourself....enjoy your young adult life while you can afford the opportunity....
If you want a baby in your life so bad....I'm sure that your cousin will need somebody to lean on!!!! It's so nice to be around babies...it's so much nicer to give them back to their parents and know you can sleep in the next morning!!!
Do your future children a favor...set yourself up for the future so that you can truly provide for all of their opportunity!!!!
think it over baby girl!!
2006-11-10 17:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with most people today is they want right now instant gratification,,, a child is not a car or a refrigerator, it's a life time commitment, You first have to start thinking about others and not yourself,,,, because a child comes FIRST,,, your BF is 19? Hummm is he in college? how can he go to school and work and raise a family? would be hard to do,, could be done but hard on a 19 yo,,, and do you think he would be in a good mood working going to school and up nights tending to a child cause your going to have to work and go to school too,, the child wouldn't get the up bringing he deserves,,,
You did mention marriage,,, I think you want but you haven't thought,,,,, The baby deserves the best ,, so when you have your life structured so the child can have a real mom and dad to raise him/her it will be a much happier baby with a good future ahead,,,,,,
My daughter is 27 and has 4 children she thought the children would keep the marriage together ,,,,, it didn't they started having kids to soon before they really knew each other. She is divorced and is raising 4 kids,,,,, not the picture she had painted,,,
Get married first enjoy each other for 4 to 5 years get your fiances together and education out of the way and a good job,,, and plan for the baby,,,,
Good luck your on your way
2006-11-10 17:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to be able to financially support a child? Babies are extremely expensive, especially if you have to work and pay for day care. Get married, save up some money and then have a baby when you can stay home all the time and love on him/her. There is nothing as wonderful as getting to spend everyday with your little bundle of joy--especially when you are not having to pay that huge daycare bill!!
In the mean time, love on your cousin's baby and start stashing away little goodies for your baby. When you see a cute blanket or adorable little booties, buy them and store them away. It will help curb the baby urge and you will know that you are investing in your child instead of having one out of jealousy.
2006-11-10 17:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing to want something, it's another entirely to go out and get it! Yes, you're probably jealous of the attention, that's understandable, but you'll have your turn in good time, and if you wait until you're married (and most importantly older) you'll get MORE GOOD attention and I'm sure you'd both be better parents. You're still young. Go out and do what young people do, THEN get married and have kids. You don't want to be 21 and be having to stay at home with the baby(or babies!), when everyone else is going out and having fun. Keep thinking....but don't act on it!!!
2006-11-10 17:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by bougainvillaea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP IT!!!!!! You're 19!! You got lots of time to get pregnant and have lots'o'babies--don't do it now!! Your cousins pregnant, it sounds all wonderful, ooooohhhh showers and little soft pink, yellow, blue and green fuzzy things!! Get back to her in six months with poop and puke and not sleeping!!! LOL!! Get married--wait 3 years--then think about it!!
2006-11-10 17:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you arent so sure if you can handle it i would wait till your really ready, having a baby takes a lot of time. Why dont you wait till she has her baby and help her out some and see how you like it. If its something you really want then go for it. But please wait it out till she gives birth to see how its really going to be. Best of luck sweetie
2006-11-10 17:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by munchkin0430 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealously is not going to bring you anywhere...besides you are only 19...marriage already? there is a lot of things you should enjoy first before you commit to having children....it is a BIG responsibility..
think about it first..see how it works out with your cousin...
don't rush
2006-11-10 17:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by simon says 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. You sound like a 13 year old.
2006-11-10 17:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it.
No it is not wrong to want to have a child, but think about what your child will be thinking when daddy isn't there.
Get married first. PLEASE. too many kids get screwed up because people rush into things like this.
2006-11-10 17:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by jonstanaut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good to see that us guys are not the only ones who don't understand female emotions!
2006-11-10 17:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by Wiseguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋