Can you please actually describe exactly the steps on how to do it, and ways and what to do. Everytime I talk to somebody they take me seriously or just the conversation just get wierd, like it gets nowhere and ackward. Please I want to make people adults and children and teens to want to be around me in a cool way not gay or stupid way.
2006-11-10 16:55:28 · 12 answers · asked by Wireless 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To want people to be around you, you must be friendly, respectful, a listener, kind, gentle and have a good heart
Best wishes and good luck
2006-11-10 17:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by sherry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, dont try so hard- that is where the awkwardness comes in. As far as children are concerned- they can smell fear 5 miles away so BE YOURSELF- think back when you were a kid and how people acted toward you and what you liked and disliked - as far as adults- Dont lead in the conversation or topics, follow the lead and express "light'' opinions on the subjects until you feel more comfortable in these situations. You sound like your are a very deep person and most people are only interested in the latest star break up and newest starbucks flavor. Eventually, you will "gel" with a group of people who have the same likes/dislikes like you--- in fact, go to your favorite places- and try talking to people there- they would be more receptive to your thoughts and ideas. Good luck-- remember less is more- so keep the subjects light until YOU feel comfortable that THEY feel comfortable around you.
2006-11-11 01:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by mac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really first off, people like being around people that they think look good. This could just be your posture or a smile. Jokes and a easy going attitude help. Stick to topics that are well known in the population that you are in, so that you can make a interesting conversation. Be nice, share, smile, laugh.
2006-11-11 00:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Timothy C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the most important thing to to be comfortable with yourself and get the good self-esteem going. Then just make sure your letting off good vibes to ppl, listening to them when they talk is important (not that fake listening either). Showing ppl you care will draw them in easy, everyone wants somebody to talk to.
2006-11-11 01:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by jessicaleexi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People can tell the difference when you're listening to them, not just hearing them. I think that is important when you communicate with someone, and people will recognize your ability to do this and appreciate it. Then people will automatically like you more, and there you go.
2006-11-11 01:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jade Green 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this book:
How To Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie
I know the title is ultra corny but you'll know WHY I recommended it when you read it.
Good luck!
2006-11-11 00:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the source, but I read these words of wisdom:
People will value and remember you not for what you told them but for how you made them feel.
2006-11-11 07:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mere Exposure 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of this saying, to make a friend, be a friend yourself first. Something like that..
Do unto others what you want them to do unto you.
2006-11-11 00:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Muffin 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look cool, act cool. Be yourself. (Man, that sounds cliche). Also, try to be optimistic and fun, people love that.
2006-11-11 01:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by Kaity 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Learn to be a good listener.
2006-11-11 00:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋