My son took money that was in my desk. He first took some out of the drawer and then came back two weeks later and took some money that was inside of the water bill to be paid. When confronted he lied. eventually confessed to taking part of the money and then later confessed to taking the other money but he swears what I say is missing and what he took are two diffferent amounts. but the money in his pocket is $-4 of what was missing fromthe desk. I am unsure how to handle the situation. Please help
2006-11-10 16:24:26 · 14 answers · asked by confused 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Im not sure what is the best parenting response is but I saw something very funny about a month ago regarding this and I thought to myself , "If I was that kid I would NEVER steal money from my parents again!" Anyway, I was driving to the grocery store and I had to drive past a 6th-8th grade school I saw a kid standing out front on a Saturday holding a sign I figured it would be for a carwash or something but when I got close enough I saw that it read, "I am an ungrateful child - I stole money from my mom's purse" I could also see what I guesses to be the kids father standing near by making sure the kid stayed there. Im guessing he learned his lesson.
2006-11-10 16:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by ct_girl02 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to stop leaving bait. Keep your money IN THE BANK and write checks and/or use a debit or credit card. The next step would be to confront him and make sure he knows that anything that comes up missing in your home from now on WILL be blamed on him...and then if that happens you will put him into counselling or get the police involved. Let him know that too. He needs to be scared up a little...and what do you suppose 14 year olds are stealing money for anyway...make sure there is no drug problem. There may not be but don't bury your heads in the sand either...
2016-05-22 04:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd start taking his stuff.... I'm not sure if that's the way to go about it, but it might teach him a lesson, or it might cause him to start taking more of your stuff. Honestly though, i'd keep the money where he would never find it and i'd never hint to where it was or let him see me put it there. Or what you could do is mark the bills some how, maybe put a dot in the corner and keep them in the same spot. If he takes it and you catch him and ask to see the bills, and they are marked then you know for sure and have evidence he has them. Make him work for the money he took. Money isn't free, we all have to work to get it.
Tell him if he wants it that bad, he'll do the dishes, take out the trash, etc. I'd also shut off the water one morning after your ready, and when he goes to shower, and get ready for the day, he'll have no water and learn the value of making sure the bills get paid......
2006-11-10 16:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make him do chores around the house to "earn" the missing money. Let him know that if this EVER happens again there is going to be a serious punishment for him & tell him what that punishment will be. Good luck!
2006-11-10 18:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared for the worst case senario~~he's needing it to buy things he shouldn't. I am NOT meaning to scare you at all, but if you prepare for the worst (drinking or drugs), anything less than that will be easier.
It could just be for pizza hut, though.
Good luck. I have three kids under 10. I'm not espically looking forward to when they're all in high school! I'll be back here asking you for help!
2006-11-10 16:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a cheap safe and start putting whatever loose money you have in it. If your son asks why do you have a safe. Just remind him until he earns back your trust this is the way things have to be.
2006-11-10 16:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a heart to heart talk with him..tell him what he did was wrong and that you have lost trust in him and that now he has to earn it back...try leaving money around and see if he is still up to his mischief from there you might be able to gauge weather he has truly learnt his lesson..explain to him about self control...doing things that are not right..and teach him to think about other alternatives eg: asking you, and giving you a reason on why he needs the money...
2006-11-10 16:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by thea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what was taken. He stole from you. He betrayed you! What if you didn't have water since the bill wasn't paid? What if you didn't have food?
He could betray a million people out there, but he betrayed his one and only mother. How many other families does he expect to get in his life?
So what was so important that you needed to buy? that you needed to deceive your mother and buy it behind her back?
2006-11-10 16:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by J G 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
keep talking to him until he confesses then tell him he can do some house work for money that might keep him from stop taking money
2006-11-11 01:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by Katie Jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would beat his butt. or you can steal something beloved of his. take away all of his luxeries. or make him do without things he wants. make him earn his keep (do work to pay his part of the rent, bills, and groceries). or depending on where you live they have a teen court. sue him there.
2006-11-10 18:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋