I have a very high sex drive, my husband is a happy guy...so why does he want to add people in our bedroom?

Question

Okay...I have not always had the sex drive I know have. But it has been very good and alot of fun, for both my husband and me. Latley he has been asking me specific questions about finding other partners to bring into our bedroom. What is this all about? Why, when he is liking what he has? (There is no question about this...he does enjoy what he gets. He tells me what he want's need's and he gets it He does the same for me. He never has any complaint.) So why is he looking for other's to join? By the way.....I am not interested..no way, no how!

He has asked if I could name someone I would like to ask. He has said both male and female.

Answer 1

It is the taboo of curiosity that has set his mind to this. In todays culture, you can hear about so many different experiences and the possibility is there. If your sex drive has increased as of late, he may feel that you might be up to something new. The curiosity alone is nerve wracking and the desire to change things up a little or spice things up even more can be a nagging thought. Ensure your feelings by keeping the communication lines open, enabling the point that he is all you want or need. Be willing to accept the fact that he may think he wants someone else, but that you are not ready for that. Maybe try the tactic of letting him know you are greedy for him and him alone.
Hell, if I had a wife like you.....anything I needed or wanted in the bedroom, I would probably not know what to do with myself. Just make sure that you keep your mind open to the avenues of conversation but hold onto your values and thoughts.

Answer 2

This is not a very hard question to answer at all, but can be devistating to deal with. Calm down, relax, there's nothing wrong with you or him. It's simply men will be men. No matter how much a man loves you, and the sex ya'll share, it's like, eating at the same reastraunt 7 days a week for an entire month. He wants diversity. More women or couples? No darlin, just spice him up a bit, and do dramatic things that will throw a little "Oh, wow!" in his mouth! If ya'll play roles, and he's usually the submissive one, be dominant and definetly play on what he wants! He's your guy, you should know what he wants. If you're not sure, talk to him about it and get some more ammunition to use in the bedroom! If he likes being dominant, play the submissive role to the extreme. To try new things is a must! You can even do all of these things, and he may still want more people in the bedroom. He may be into voyeorism. Check into that. If he just wants someone completely different, well, be completely different then. Dress different, wear a wig, anything to change his perseption, but don't let him forget who he's in bed with!! GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 3

There is no "fault" in this situation. He was probably saying it as a compliment, so take it as one. And I think it's true that it's impossible for you to be there for him every single minute of the day. Do you guys have a guaranteed schedule so that he can still get his, but during the times that you're not available, he doesn't feel turned down? Because when a guys is turned down too much, it hurts him to the very core sometimes. You can also be there for him when he wants to release himself. You can lie in bed and look alluring while he handles business himself. Or you can use your hand or mouth at times that you just don't have the time or energy to give him your entire body.

Answer 4

I think he's bored. More people in the bedroom is a fantasy and it's a way to spice up and otherwise routine sex life. Even if your sex is good, if it's routine it can get boring. Don't give in to him if it's not something you're interested in. He should respect your feelings and quite frankly, I'm surprised he's even asking you to do that. Sex is such an intimate thing between husband and wife. Are you sure he's really happy?

Answer 5

Sorry but if that is what he wants and I was not good enough for him to just want me that he thinks that he needs or wants others to join in..........ahhh I would say good bye.... this is NOT for me, find someone that gets into that kind of junk. When people get into stuff like that, they have lost the real meaning of "loving making" it just becomes sex to them.

Answer 6

I went through the same thing with ,y husband and I was the one that got hurt when he turned to another woman. If you don't want to do this then dont. Go by what you;re feelings tell you

Answer 7

Don't say no way, no how, because you may one day change your mind. He may just want to try this out to see if he enjoys it. Sometimes a wife will be hesitant to do this, but once it is done she is the one to enjoy it the most.

It could be exciting for you both to talk about it and see where you might be able to compromise on it. Maybe you just have another couple in the bedroom but you both only stick with your own partners.

Answer 8

Is he looking for other men to join? He might be playing in the wrong ballpark without even realizing it.

Other women? I dunno, either he's not a monogamous guy at heart, or else he is unable to let himself feel happy in a situation that most men dream of, and feels like he must always reach for something more...

Answer 9

You didn't pick up on this lack of respect and morals BEFORE you married the guy?! Sorry for you. He sounds like a sleazeball. Whatever you do, don't cave in and do it, you will most likely feel worthless afterwards. Respect yourself.

Answer 10

Kalee,

The event your speaking of was never meant to be a sporting event....or a tag-team match.......I really don't know what to say other than only do what your comfortable with ... and yes ...some toys are never meant to be shared !

Hope you get your wish !