Asking the Women about sex?

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Asking the Women about sex?

My Wife and I have been married 35 years today, I have severe back pain plus some other medical problems, I know she sometimes wants to have sex but I am unable to perform. Ffom a womans stand-point how do I satisfy her needs. It really makes me feel useless,, I truly love her,and want the best for her--Thanks

2006-11-10 16:00:26 · 16 answers · asked by ghillips2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce

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If you can get it up and lay on your back tell her to saddle up. But if you can't perform at all then i suggest you try oral or get some toys and experiment. Good luck.

2006-11-10 16:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by H Town Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋

First of all, it's commendable that you have been married 35 years and you still love each other very much. I admire the commitment you have for one another.

I'm sure your wife knows what you are going through and it must be hard for her as well as for you. I am going through something similar with my husband right now and I have a difficult time because I want to have sex and he is unable to perform.

Show your wife in all ways that you love her. Making love isn't just about the sex. It's about the little every day things you do for each other. Hold her in your arms, kiss her often, tell her you love her and cherish her...and mean it.

From the sexual standpoint, have lots of fore-play, even if you are unable to perform sexually. Touch her, caress her and truly love her. My husband and I have also gone to an adult toy store and picked something out together. It has helped. Of course, there is no way that compensates for him, but I know that he loves me and wants to take care of me the best he can right now.

Good luck to you!

2006-11-10 16:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by C J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋

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2016-11-23 15:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋

Well let her know that even though its painful to have sex, you still want to so offer to help her out in other ways. If she doesn't have a back-up (AKA Vibrator/Dildo) go shopping with her to pick one out that you can use on her. Orally pleasing her and lots of foreplay help too. There are lots of things you can do to please your woman without it being physically painful for you. Don't be ashamed to pick up a book or two or cruise some "toy stores". Best of luck! Hope you get to feeling better soon, for her sake and yours.

2006-11-10 16:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋

Hold her, love her and respect her all the times. I'm not sure what your disability is that you cannot perform. If it's because of the pain, see the doctor and get medicine to help you. If you are able to get it up but can't go through the motions, tell her to get on top.
Go see the doctor. Maybe they can help you.

2006-11-10 16:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by paperdoll1956 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋

I think you should maybe try something to help you be able to perform. If you dont want to do that, ask her what she wants to satisfy her. I would mabye try oral sex or something like that since you cant perform. you could both perform this favor.

2006-11-10 16:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋

talk to her on this matter i am sure she understand after all..35. years is a long time and if she didnt love you she would not be with you by the way happy.35. antiverstery. ?

2006-11-10 17:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋

theres other ways to satisfy her without sex, byoral or by toys , or other ways ,but you have to decide what she will like , noone can answer this cuz only you know your wife better than anyone else.

2006-11-10 16:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by jcslimer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋

It depends on how sex is a part of your relationship......

Cant you sit in a chair ...and shell go on top and do the work? Or its a going up thing problem ...??

If their sexs once and a while...she can take care of herself on the side...if theirs none ...then its another post!

2006-11-10 16:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbelle_oceane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋

tough nut to crack but what can i say.....very well depends on her sexual appetite and by the way if she loves u as much u love her she will understand.
tip: communication could be an immportant key factor here.

2006-11-10 16:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋