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Go on strike...seriously...then see what he does.

2006-11-10 15:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 1 0

Usually happens after you have someone, anyone, or anything around long enough.

First, does he take you for granted, or does he take the things you do for granted, or both?
If it's the things you do, then you can stop doing them so much and turn any of his remarks about the resulting mess right back at him.
If it's you, and it's totally one-sided, then you might have to go away for a while. So think: Do you never take him for granted?

2006-11-11 00:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 1 0

I felt like this last year and my counselor suggested that I start forgetting things -- like to put in his laundry, to do other tasks for him. I felt like it was a bit of a pissing contest, but I can see how it could work to drive home a point.

With me, I just talk to my husband. I was a stay at home mom briefly when my daughter was born. I took one part time job, then another, and now I have several. My husband still sees me as a SAHM. I just recently said to him, I am not a SAHM and I need help around here. I can't do this alone.

We have to have the same talk often, and it can be frustrating. See a counselor if you think you need too. Maybe get your hubby to go.

2006-11-11 00:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0 0

All married people take one another for granted from time to time. One way that I call it to my husbands attention is by saying what I'd like him to say as if I'm him "Wow, honey that was a really great dinner." Then I respond " I'm so glad you appreciate it , I worked really hard on it." He usually gets the message and there's no need for a serious discussion.

2006-11-11 00:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0 0

I think sometimes in marriage we all tend to take our spouse for granted at some point or another. My husband came to me once and told me he felt unappreciated and pointed out several things that he did on a regular basis that I honestly wasn't really aware of. I had been taking him for granted and not even realizing it.

Sometimes a good heart to heart can do wonders.

2006-11-11 00:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by C J 2 · 0 0

Ya know, my first response was to say what the first poster had said, but then I thought better of it. You dont mention exactly what it is you do so much of that he takes for granted. And what does he do/doesnt do? Id rather know this before I tell you to go on strike.

2006-11-10 23:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0 0

I wouldnt take your husband doing that. He should respect you and not take you for granted. Maybe sit him down and tell him how you feel. If things dont change, I would leave him

2006-11-10 23:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1 0

welcome to Marriage!! lol. you never stated how long you have been married or if you are spoiling him too much or what. Stop doing a few of the things you do so he will take notice. Take time for yourself, go out for lunch with the girls - that seems to irk my hub. Ask him to make dinner for a change etc etc

2006-11-11 00:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by dogriver 5 · 0 0

Take off for a month. Go on a holiday alone or with your friends or close family. He will see how much he needs you when you are not around.

2006-11-11 04:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Next time he expects your assistance/help with anything big, i.e. company ball, fixing the car, ect, tell him, "So sorry, I/ we have plans for/to ( insert event, whatever here) , and see if doing that for a while doesn't get him to appreciate all you do for him. Don't forget to stand your ground! Hope this helps.

2006-11-11 00:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Helf-luke-bitte 1 · 1 0

Do the talking. Let him know that you are not happy the way things are going on. See whether he will care to pay more attention to you.

2006-11-11 00:00:15 · answer #11 · answered by rams 4 · 0 0

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