Many divorce attorneys state that people should marry after 30 for the first time. More stability and credibility within the partners in a marriage.
Agree...?
Any experiences you wish to share?
2006-11-10 15:42:56 · 13 answers · asked by marnefirstinfantry 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on the mental maturity of the couple.Chronological age has nothing to do with maturity.You must have two mature people that love each other and who are willing to take responsibility equally for each other.Marriage should never be based on sex, age, physical attractiveness or wealth.It simply doesn't work.It 's a combination of maturity, responsibility,compatibility and genuine love and respect.Throw in honesty and you have a winning combination.
I was 25 when I was married .and he was 31 yet we acted like mere teenagers..in the maturity department..Its strange how looking in retrospective me see our mistakes and they are repeated until those mistakes are acknowledged and we learn from them...
After 30 there should be more maturity and financial stability.Most divorces have to do with finances..
2006-11-10 16:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 22yrs. I got married right after I graduated at the age of 18. 25, is a good age and 30 is even better, but that depends on you and how you really feel about the person you want to marry. You have to be prepared to tackle anything that may arise, yet that is also with any relationship that you may encounter. It is all about trust and working things out, just like any other relationship. Only when you marry, you marry for a life time. Your spouse will be your partner for life. Your buddy. No matter what you go through, every conflict has to be worked out. If you have any doubts, do not get married. If you are willing to deal with the ups and downs then go for it.....It is all in how you mature in life.
2006-11-10 15:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just read in O (Oprah's magazine) that the 50% divorce stat is not true if you marry after 25 (or maybe 26 or 27). Also, if you wait a year or more to have kids it lowers the %. But, under 25 is 50% or even 50%+.
My personal feeling is people don't know who they are yet when they are young. Women still try to conform to what the guy wants. When you are older you are less likely to settle. I was 27 when I got married and my hubby had to work hard to get me. I was like, I don't need a man. I was making good money, traveled oversees, etc....
Of the divorces i know of, most are people who marry young. Too young.
2006-11-10 16:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well most of our grandparents probably got married around that age and they are the ones that have been married for the 50 some odd years.
That being said younger people don't know how to make a relationship work (usually)
I got married when I was 21, sure its hard sometimes but so is life
2006-11-10 16:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, don't agree at all. I got married when I was 21 and have been happily married for 10 years now. I don't think age has anything to do with it. I think it more about your maturity level and how comfortable with who you are. You should absolutely know who you are before you get married. It takes some people a lot longer to become comfortable with who they are, and I would say those people should absolutely wait. It also has to do with how ready you are to settle down. Typically, people in their 20s want to sew their wild oats, but if you are not into that, then go for it...as long as you are at least of legal age... =-)
2006-11-10 17:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont agree. I got married at 19 and have been married 11 happy years. Most of my family members (ie aunts uncles) were married before they were 20 and they have all had long happy marriages. Only 1 of my uncles has been divorced and it was because he was in an abusive relationship where he was actually beat by the woman!
So no I dont agree
2006-11-10 16:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lori R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By 30 one loses interest in girls/boys. They must have said that keeping in mind the number of divorces which are taking place. One should not rush in to marriage. Live with the person for one or two years before getting married.
2006-11-10 15:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are getting married younger and younger. It is best to wait until you are mentally, physically, spiritually and finanually ready. Most married couples divorce today because they married too young, money problems and lack of maturity. Divorce destroys lives so be sure you are absolutely positive when you do decide
to marry.
2006-11-10 15:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is an age for people to get married. I think when you are ready for marriage you should get married. If you love that person and couldn't imagine living without them and they feel the same way its worth it. I am twenty, I got married when I was nineteen and Its great. I think its all what you make of it!!
2006-11-10 16:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience i would have to say yes. i got married at 18 to a woman 25 and i thought i was ready. boy was i wrong. i should have waited till i was at least 25.
2006-11-10 15:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋