What's so wrong about teenagers having sex?

Question

Why do adults caution teenagers to not have sex? They do it all the time and if the teenagers are careful, nothing harmful will happen.

Oh boy I didn't expect this many answers. I will have to read through them all for a few hours.

Answer 1

b/c teenagers, as a whole, have a tendency to be irresponsible and not take proper precautions.
i used to be a teenager and i know, first hand, how difficult it is to ask your mom to take you to get birth control pills.
however, alot of kids aren't as brazen as i was and they aren't careful. then, they get pregnant, have kids and end up being supported by the system (i.e. taxpayers) for the rest of their life.

anyway. if teens were all more cautious and careful, then it may not be such an issue.

take care.

Answer 2

Because sex leads to STDS that cost MONEY to purchas antibiotics for, sex leads to HIV/AIDs for which there is NO cure and it is a long slow death (I've watched two very good freinds die from aids) sex also leads to HPV again no cure and HPV is spread through skin to skin contact and unless the guy is wearing a fullbody condom chances are good that if one of you has it the other one will too if you have sex. Then of course there is PREGNANCY and the fact that the majority of teens can't afford the cost of a fullterm pregnancy let alone raising a child for 18 years so either the teen's parents or the taxpayers will be foot the bill to raise the child. Or if the child is aborted that TOO costs money and unless your parents know about the pregnancy their insurance will not cover the cost of an abortion, and again not too many teens have the money up front to pay for one. Then there is the birth even if you decide to put the baby up for adoption, again either the teen's parents will be footing that bill along with their insurance or one more time the taxpayers will.

Answer 3

Because most teenagers AREN'T careful, they DON'T understand the emotional complications that are involved. (Remember how babies are made?) With all of the hormones involved in being a teenager, plus you throw in the insecurity, the social circles, the 'finding your place' in school, with friends, with the opposite sex, etc. then toss in sex with each one and you have a colossal mess on your hands. Thus the tendency for such a high rate of suicide,etc. because of feelings of worthlesness and never feeling like you'll be 'loved' by the people you are attracted to,etc. It's ALWAYS like that for just about every teenager, but we all feel like it's only happening to us and we're miserable. Or we do hook up with that certain person, then get dumped on, and feel even worse and it sucks even worse. You reach 21 or 22 and look back and you've had sex with XX amount of partners and you totally regret it, you may have acquired a STD on the way, and life continues.
Don't waste it on some ****** guy or girl who's just getting their rocks off while you're young. Wait until you're older and more mature and you can understand that it actually WILL mean something.

Answer 4

Here's what I learned from paying attention in school, listening to what I'm told, and seeing friends in these situations...
1. Sex can lead to incurable STDs that can be fatal
2. There are a lot of emotions involved in sex that many teen are not ready for
3. There are parents that will kick out our disown their daughter if she gets pregnant
4. Teens can not support a child
5. Lets say the teen father bails on the teen mother. Then what will you do?
6. Girls that sleep around get a worse rep than guys that sleep around. That rep can follow you even after you stop being so promiscuous.
7. And prolly some other stuff that I dont' know. You'd have to ask and adult!

It might be fun, but is it really worth all that at your age?

Adults have their reasons for doing what they do. They've been teens before and they know there are a lot of things that can happen. Like I always say, "The players change, but the game stays the same".

Answer 5

I'll be honest with you, and this is coming from a 37 year old mom of two.

Leaving religion out of the picture--

I have in my life known teenagers who have met someone, dated for a long time, fell in love, and made the decision to have sex with each other. Neither pressured the other to do it. They were discreet, and used protection. They did everything responsibly. If all teenagers were that responsible, adults probably wouldn't have as hard a time with it. Unfortunately, the majority of teenagers aren't that responsible. Time and time again you hear of teenagers having sex without using protection. You hear excuse after excuse. ("It would have ruined the moment", "We didn't have anything" , "He pulled out' ", etc. etc.) Scientists have done examinations of the human brain at various ages. They have found that teenagers have almost the same brain function as adults, EXCEPT in two key areas of the brain itself--the areas that control decision-making, and self-control. Decision-making and self-control are very important when you are starting to add sex to your life. Sex is not a small thing. It has emotional, physical, and social ramifications that can last the rest of your life. How many girls do you remember from school who had sex with a boyfriend, and then got called a s**t for the rest of her high-school days? I remember girls like that. I've seen so many kid's lives completely RUINED when the girl got pregnant. The MAJORITY of girls who have babies as teenagers wind up spending the rest of their lives below the poverty level. As a teenager, they just have dreams of a cute little baby that's going to love them. They don't think about how they're going to support this kid when it's not a baby anymore. Pretty soon you have a school-aged kid. Then a teenager. I've never in my life heard someone say that they wished they had had sex earlier. I've heard LOTS of people say they wish they had waited.

Answer 6

When teens whom I will start by saying are just children start having sex, Children are irresponsible I don't care what anybody says. They end up with STD's, and pregnant. They can't pay to have a child so either mommy and daddy do or the general public does but what it comes down to is the teen is not going to pay for the mistakes that they make as a result everyone else does. Be a kid and stop worrying about why just don't. Your parents know whats best for you. Believe me I wish I would have listened to mine many times. They were always right!

Answer 7

Teen Agers Having Sex

Answer 8

17+ if young adults are in a committed loving relationship and using necessary protection or married etc then nothing at all wrong with these young adults having sex. People tend to forget there are adults still in their teen years who may be married, military, working & living on their own. Now the under 16 crowd is what I hope you meant from this ? as older teens are at a whole different point in life. Younger teens have and will always have sex if they so choose the important thing they do so with as much information and protection available period.

Answer 9

Nothing is wrong with it as long as teens go about it the right way. Share it with someone special, don't just have sex to do it. Go about it the right way, talk to your parents or someone and get on birth control and use condoms. It's always better to be safe than sorry. Get tested for STD's if you have multiple partners. Remember that there are consequences to all of your actions whether it be a pregnancy, a positive STD test, or an abnormal pap smear. Also, look into getting the HPV vaccine, it not only protects you from genital warts but also cervical cancer.

Answer 10

90percent of people had sex at a to early age. And since people dont like to give out negitive info on themselfs they just say its not right.
Most teens do not have good sex, they dont really know what they are doing. Most adults know the difference but dont talk to their kids and tell them the truth. For myself as a teenager I whatched my friends having sex at 14 and the unhappiness that came after. Most of had heard that the first time is something great, but not for them. And after it seemed as if they were having sex with different people just in search of that one special moment that can only happen once. Most of them ended up fustrated and unhappy. For myself I can only say waiting was the best thing to do, not that i did not have my fun before, but you do not have to got all the way to have fun.

Answer 11

there is nothing wrong with teens having sex. just that the teens are having unprotected sex. And teens will not have the idea of what is sex? To an adult may be some will say that sex is just to satisfy my needs and some adults call it love making to the spouse. which one will you all teens clasify it. I guess it is just being curious of the oposite sex's body.
when i was a teen i am also very curious of the opposite's body. do not feel shy to explore but be responsible for what you have done. use condoms and stay protected.
cheers